Your personal definition of Being a Fan on IF

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Posted: 15 years ago
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DEFINITION OF BEING A FAN ON IF
What I like as a fan :
A fan is someone who's positive😛. A fan likes sharing and chatting with other fans (I mean fans who don't necessarily like their faves)😊. A fan is respectful of other people's liking, which means that he/she doesn't belittle people on the basis of it. A fan likes giving informations about the stars he/she likes😃.
A fan doesn't like spreading false rumors about stars. A fan gives arguments when trying to defend his/her views. A fan doesn't like arguing over stars because at the end of the day, it's pointless. Liking is non rational, so what's the point having an argument over it😭. A fan doesn't call names other fans whether he/she agrees with them or not.
What I dislike as a fan :
The stereotype of instinctive reactive fans 🤢 which automatically reply to start an argument or insult sessions.
The fans who bash other fans --- 😕 As long as fans criticize (with relevant arguments and motives) other stars - fine - but no need to involve personal stuff about the fans thelmseves "you said that - you love X that's why you say that.." and childish spats...
Fans'camps like soldier troopers ready to have battles with any fan who doesn't follow their fandom's path (like a true replication of BW camps....)
Replication of Star Wars ---- So many times I've seen --- about 10 people commenting about who was the "true King of BW") -- really annoying and total waste of time...
Sometimes I do feel like Kjo😕 trying to get along with everyone....But very uncomfortable.
My experience : (one of them)
I stated my point of view of some BW'star's beauty and her fan started to call me "moron" "idiot" and other sweet names (it wasn't on IF) ---- a few days passed, then I contacted that fan emaling her links of pics of her fave star (baby pix saying that I find her cute as a baby) and suddenly miracle of miracle she started to chat with me to be nice and polite --- very civilized.
My lesson : (one of them)
When you fake "liking" to some level a star - you are "encouraged" and every insults of the past are forgotten. Everything is fine. When you don't , you're "silly", "hater", "neutral fan", "moron", "pathetic troll"......
A thing I'd like to change in fans :
Be relative and balanced in everything. Ancient Greeks feared "Hybris" the most hated human flaw according to them : excessiveness and extremism.
Please guys, give your definition of "being a fan on IF" with the "I like"s and "I dislikes" - Keep it clean and please don't give specific examples from threads/topics of the BS. General views are the most welcome. An dplease don't attack people personally. No need to drag people's names --- I always think that if you have some "problem" with someone you should tell him/her first....and via the posts not via PM's where things can worsen.
Please comment!
I feel better now, I have thought of leaving IF --- because of reasons stated above...All my examples aren't experienced only on IF but on Ytube as well.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I agree with you.

To ME personally, being a "fan", though I would like to call myself a well-wisher, is someone who would support her/his favorite but at the same time, can see the flaws of her/his favorite. He/she would defend her favorite when needed but when someone else bashes the favorite, he/she would first see WHY and if it is justified, doesn't get heat up. Actually if it isn't justified, you still don't get up. They would post their opinion as nicely as possible and than leave it.

I am a HUGE fan of Sonam Kapoor. I adore her to bits and pieces but I would be the first one to put her down if she does something wrong and I have done it many times in the past. I have no problem making fun of her and laughing at her. If someone else bashes her, I always see why. If it's justified than cool. If not, I'll try to post my view and try to leave it. It's an all together different story if some people here would post things to provoke the fans, than I'll play along too but what others think of my favorite, doesn't bother me one bit because I always know the truth (good or bad). I do have friends who are not Sonam fans or even those who can't stand her and to me, you don't have to be a Sonam fan for me to be your friend. That's just silly.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Of course you do. We are twins after all :P
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Posted: 15 years ago
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^^ can we be triplets fari & desu
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Over a period of time in any forum it is not really about the stars.It is about the members..
We start using the stars to attack,pacify,annoy other members or groups of members.
Just like family politics,we have to watch out about who we agree and disagree with according to what we think is appropriate at that point in time and what will help our individual cause.
My point is that what we write is usually burdened or coloured by our history in this forum,and to some extent a bit of power play too..
Over familiarity is a curse in any celebrity fan forum...We just can't express ourselves freely in fear of a backlash or hurting someone who is really nice.
One eg..Desigal is crazy ,sweet and positive Saifeena fangirl..there are times I want to rant that Saif looks like pimp these days...but I haven't so far(I think🤔)..I couldn't..
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Posted: 15 years ago
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😆😆I agree with you Sona --- I consider myself being a well wisher rather than a fan and I tend to think that I can be a well wisher for most of people even for people who've been cruel to me. Because that's my personality I don't hold grudge against people for very long because it makes you a bad person at the end. And I don't like the idea of being a bad person.
I think I'm a lame fan cause I'm lazy, I'm not as involved as other people so I don't think I'm a real fan I have a few faves but generally I like actors so I'm not a die hard fan.
I'm like you too. In my country, they say He who likes you well is the one who can punish you as well meaning when you love someone you have to be the first that criticizes him/her when you notice he/she has the wrong attitude...And you have to "punish" her/him, it's not because you like your faves that you have to justify anything ---- As for me I criticize a lot stars I like, the ones I don't care I don't even bother but If I post something I try to be polite. I like being sacarastic and I like mocking at stars in general : at my faves and others too and some people don't get the sense of humour - but it's fine no need to get all worked up. there are battles more meaningful than defending a star against all odds : like HIV, women hit by men, child prostitution, orphan diseases (which mean a lot for me), modern slavery, democracy, political matters, World Food issues.
Yes that's not smart to not have friends who aren't fans of your faves --- you're closed yourself to people who only see one side of their faves and avoid facing criticism which is healthy.
I have noticed that some people tend to use IF as a dangerous tool....But I hope it won't turn that way...I truly do.....I don't like the paranoia and the suspicion either.
I don't really like Bebo but I do get along with all her fans and I chat a lot about her without bashing.
btw I like Sonam too cause she's an unusual star...😳I am starting to like Bebo because I like Desu...
Shame on me!!!😆😆😆
I mean once you accept stars for who they are (human beings) then it's fine no need to overidealize them because they're no Gods...
Edited by lalixlili - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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A fan doesn't have to hate other fans.

A fan doesn't have to form a group with others.

A fan doesn't have to bring up "other fans" in a discussion post.

A fan needs to stop comparing their favourite actor/actress with other actors/actress.


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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: ajooni

Over a period of time in any forum it is not really about the stars.It is about the members..

We start using the stars to attack,pacify,annoy other members or groups of members.


Just like family politics,we have to watch out aboutwho we agree and disagree withaccording to what we think isappropriate at that point in time and what will help our individual cause.


My point is that what we write is usually burdened or coloured by our history in this forum,and to some extent a bit of power play too..


Over familiarity is a curse in any celebrity fan forum...We just can't express ourselves freely in fear of a backlash or hurting someone who is really nice.


One eg..Desigal is crazy ,sweet and positive Saifeena fangirl..there are times I want to rant that Saif looks like pimp these days...but I haven't so far(I think🤔)..I couldn't..






Bingo, dude! You hit the nail right on the head. People do tend to form groups and keep that in mind while posting their opinions. Very few actually post what they feel and I can tell because I've been a a silent reader on here for the longest time, I've witnessed people change equations with one another after a point through formation of groups pertaining to their favs. I'd also like to add, fans in the real world are completely different from fans in the online world. In real world, they are independent thinkers to a very large extent, they might act as crazy stalkers, collect irrelevant shiz, but it is by their own free will, they are not being brainwashed by other crazies. They also don't have real life groupies who will come to their rescue if some anti-fangirl criticizes their favorite "actor-god".Fans online are subconsciously brainwashed by other fans online. They don't even know when and what hits them. Its like subliminal advertising used by corporations back in the old days. Plus, don't even get me started on the groupies, one member has an argument with the opponent and all her groupies flock to her rescue. Can't you defend your favorite on your own? Why need the help of your groupies?

Edited by xetaxeta - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: lalixlili

😆😆I agree with you Sona --- I consider myself being a well wisher rather than a fan and I tend to think that I can be a well wisher for most of people even for people who've been cruel to me. Because that's my personality I don't hold grudge against people for very long because it makes you a bad person at the end. And I don't like the idea of being a bad person.

I think I'm a lame fan cause I'm lazy, I'm not as involved as other people so I don't think I'm a real fan I have a few faves but generally I like actors so I'm not a die hard fan.
I'm like you too. In my country, they say He who likes you well is the one who can punish you as well meaning when you love someone you have to be the first that criticizes him/her when you notice he/she has the wrong attitude...And you have to "punish" her/him, it's not because you like your faves that you have to justify anything ---- As for me I criticize a lot stars I like, the ones I don't care I don't even bother but If I post something I try to be polite. I like being sacarastic and I like mocking at stars in general : at my faves and others too and some people don't get the sense of humour - but it's fine no need to get all worked up. there are battles more meaningful than defending a star against all odds : like HIV, women hit by men, child prostitution, orphan diseases (which mean a lot for me), modern slavery, democracy, political matters, World Food issues.
Yes that's not smart to not have friends who aren't fans of your faves --- you're closed yourself to people who only one side of their faves and avoid facing criticism which is healthy.
I have noticed that some people tend to use IF as a dangerous tool....But I hope it won't turn that way...I truly do.....I don't like the paranoia and the suspicion either.
I don't really like Bebo but I do get along with all her fans and I chat a lot about her without bashing.
btw I like Sonam too cause she's an unusual star...😳



Did you just call me SONA? You are my new best friend!!!


Yes I am all about karma....I can be bitchy at times but I try to be good cause I believe in karma and I think whatever you do, it would come back to you. If you think bad about others, something bad would happen to you but I am a girl so I am naturally bitchy and I do say crap about people but I try to stop myself before I go too crazy.

I like Sonam too only because she's the biggest crackhead I know....I love crackheads! 😛
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: fizzilicious

^^ can we be triplets fari & desu



You have to need duct tape first. If you are in need of duct tape than yes. We like to follow our idols: Bebo and Sona and whatever they do, we do too.

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