Tanisha.

Why do some people think that just because she keeps quiet about armans abuse that she may be strong on the inside?

in my opinion it does take great strength and and self control to put up with abuse and violence without retaliating but I also believe it takes even more courage and strength to admit that you are being abused (be it verbal, emotional, physical etc) and admit that you need help.
what's happening to Tanisha is wrong but the perpetrator is to blame here not her.
I can understand why people hate Tanisha and how it's annoying to watch her follow him blindly and not stand up for herself. but indirectly are we not doing the same by calling her names when it should be Armaan who deserves it all and needs to be blamed as he is the culprit or is it our frustration towards Tanisha that she is allowing it hence we are directing our anger towards her and not Armaan?

I request no bashing as I have genuinely put forward my views regarding the question by the TM

tanisha likes abusive men.. dot

Tanisha is not a child that one should feel sorry that she is being abused. She is a grown up 35 year old woman! Armaan is not going around catching hold of her by the hair and asking her to bear his abuse She is doing it all on her own cuz she likes being his devoted slave. People are blaming Tani cuz she can walk away anytime she wants or put him in his place but she chooses to be silent and "love" him anyway. How can someone feel sorry for her? In this day and age if a woman chooses to do that without any legal ties, she is condemned because she puts to shane every other woman who has struggled past way more abusive circumstances to free herself from such a male. Armaan IS like that. Tanisha has a choice which she has no courage to take. So yes, she is to be blamed more than Armaan. Zulm karne wale se zulm sehne wala gunehgaar hota hai.

PS - Request to others not to bring in absurd arguments regarding rape and murder and stuff. I am talking about Tanisha's case and all the other women who prefer being doormats in a relationship.

Originally posted by: Aamina2013

in my opinion it does take great strength and and self control to put up with abuse and violence without retaliating but I also believe it takes even more courage and strength to admit that you are being abused (be it verbal, emotional, physical etc) and admit that you need help.
what's happening to Tanisha is wrong but the perpetrator is to blame here not her.
I can understand why people hate Tanisha and how it's annoying to watch her follow him blindly and not stand up for herself. but indirectly are we not doing the same by calling her names when it should be Armaan who deserves it all and needs to be blamed as he is the culprit or is it our frustration towards Tanisha that she is allowing it hence we are directing our anger towards her and not Armaan?

I request no bashing as I have genuinely put forward my views regarding the question by the TM

Der's a saying na 'zulm karne wala se zulm sehne wala zyada apraadhi hai'?

And I don't find anything dignified in taking abuse and remaining silent. This kind of attitude will make one lose self-respect, if it's not lost already and den one can't expect respect from ppl.

BTW I find Armaan much worse than Tani.

Originally posted by: PiscineMolitor

Why do some people think that just because she keeps quiet about armans abuse that she may be strong on the inside?

Is it because soha had come onto the show and pointed this out? Noone on their own had ever raised this point before!

Do you advocate tanishas behaviour? To be quiet and 'dignified' when someone you just met on a show insults you?

People say she loves him, she accepts him for who he is. Should anyone really accept this kind of behaviour?

Or does she see herself as a samaj sevak who wants to go around reforming people?

Tanisha can do what she wants but i have a serious issue with people actually believing that tanisha is dignified in her approach to armans behaviour.

She is not the mother to ten of his kids that she just has to swallow her pride and take it all.

You can see she gets frustrated too, but she never speaks out. She is a coward, a pathetic excuse for a woman, lacking self respect and being one hell of a doormat.

If anyone has a valid explanation as to why they support her behaviour as far as arman is concerned, share your thoughts.

Blind tanisha lovers, stay away.

I did not liked , soha said to tani thar she is dignified ,others r not?

Well she isn't calm and composed by nature

Originally posted by: gurl-enchanted

Tanisha is not a child that one should feel sorry that she is being abused. She is a grown up 35 year old woman! Armaan is not going around catching hold of her by the hair and asking her to bear his abuse She is doing it all on her own cuz she likes being his devoted slave. People are blaming Tani cuz she can walk away anytime she wants or put him in his place but she chooses to be silent and "love" him anyway. How can someone feel sorry for her? In this day and age if a woman chooses to do that without any legal ties, she is condemned because she puts to shane every other woman who has struggled past way more abusive circumstances to free herself from such a male. Armaan IS like that. Tanisha has a choice which she has no courage to take. So yes, she is to be blamed more than Armaan. Zulm karne wale se zulm sehne wala gunehgaar hota hai.

PS - Request to others not to bring in absurd arguments regarding rape and murder and stuff. I am talking about Tanisha's case and all the other women who prefer being doormats in a relationship.

abuse at any age is wrong and anyone can become a victim as it is a fact that abuse also exists in OAP.
I can understand what you are saying here that tanisha can easily walk away from it but she chooses to stay in the relationship. and I will agree here that it is frustrating to watch someone go back to the very same person who is so demeaning and humiliating, but I can also see the other side of the coin as Tanisha has become a victim of emotional abuse by Armaan who has took away her self confidence and sense of self. people like armaan are very manipulative. he started off with showing great respect and admiration and slowly isolated her from the rest of the HM. People like Tanisha can almost justify the perpetrators behaviour as it can be confused as a deep connection. Maybe once out if the house she may be able to get a clearer picture

Originally posted by: Aamina2013

abuse at any age is wrong and anyone can become a victim as it is a fact that abuse also exists in OAP.
I can understand what you are saying here that tanisha can easily walk away from it but she chooses to stay in the relationship. and I will agree here that it is frustrating to watch someone go back to the very same person who is so demeaning and humiliating, but I can also see the other side of the coin as Tanisha has become a victim of emotional abuse by Armaan who has took away her self confidence and sense of self. people like armaan are very manipulative. he started off with showing great respect and admiration can almost justify the perpetrators behaviour as it can be confused as a deep connection. Maybe once out if the house she may be able to get a clearer picture

I sure hope so!

Tanisha acts like a bitchy woman otherwise commenting on the dressing sense of Sophia in trying to ensnare Armaan and using Sophia's past to justify that she has Daddy issues and so wants Armaan. I find this to be not the work of a victim but a willing participant. Maybe Tanisha likes being abused cuz she finds such men as "real" mard or something. Maybe it has to do with the conditioning in her home environment or otherwise. Whatever it is, I hope to goodness she snaps out of it cuz a relationship with Armaan is not going to be pretty.