Agree with everything you have said here.
I have seen many commenting in favor of Aditya while maximum blaming Pooja.
To be honest, I feel the writers are doing a tremendous job in shaping up the story.
I am not justifying EMA. I have always hated EMA. But this story has actually made me think that it's not just physical attraction - even after loving your partner, at some point you can fall out of love.
And that's where I appreciate the writers. For making audience think.
I find myself defending Pooja even when she did wrong. In many comments, people have argued saying why didn't she say anything to Adi. We have seen only flashes where she was hurt & started getting distant from Adi. I personally think we should have more Pooja-Aditya scenes.
I am sharing my own experience here. Me & my best friend grew up together. She was the sister I never had & I was always very protective of her. She is really immature & I'd try to help her in different situations. But after a certain period of time, I got frustrated. Because I needed my space & whenever I was in a problem, she wasn't there or she didn't give importance. Multiple times I have actually told her that what I expected. She would say sorry & then repeat the same.
She was just my best friend & a sister-figure.
Then imagine how would you cope up if you are married to such a person.
I don't think Pooja never talked to Aditya about her like-dislike. Aditya just never gave it much importance as Pooja would stand beside him anyway. That's a common mistake most of the husbands commit - take their wife for granted.
Here, there should have been more scenes like did Pooja ever confided in Adi & after his repeated rejection, stopped asking or she just mistook Adi to be irresponsible.
Then we could have judged the situation better.
Right now, both Pooja & Aditya are right & wrong in their own ways.
Pooja was right to choose her happiness but wrong to cheat Adi.
Adi is right to accuse Pooja after the initial revelation but wrong to think himself as perfect. Friendship is a must in a relationship & a bit of childishness is endearing. But when you love someone, you have to compromise a little bit. Sometimes attending a boring poetry club means more than organizing a party.
As for Zoya & Yash - I really wish we got to see Yash's POV also. Right now it just doesn't make any sense why had he fallen out of love when Zoya seems a darling.