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Ever since the telecast of the last two episodes the only thing i am seeing is the bashing of pooja...some calling her selfish, some calling her lame some even thinks that the CVs messed up the entire thing to justify EMA. There are i think around 20-30 topics regarding the same thing😆 ok no problem that's everyone's personal POV and opinion. Now i actually want to give my opinion and yes i am pretty sure i am in the minority because i can actually relate to the selfish girl who didn't do anything to save the marriage. And you know why? Because i have SEEN a couple like Adija and Alhamdullillah there are very much together but their story is very much similar to theirs.
My friend went into a relationship with her bestfriend when they were in grade 10. The boyfriend did everything which would make a third person think that he is the perfect boyfriend but only my friend knew that he was not. He used to take all his friends to their date. Can you believe that? lol. My friend once planned a beautiful surprise for him on their anniversary which was meant to be for the two only and he brought all his friends there and he didn't even realize how upset my friend got. Sounds familiar? My friend did a lot for him literally a lot but to him his studies came first and she was never in his priority list. what sakshi said about pooja that day to Adi that ''woh tujhe dihti tou thi lekin woh tujhei dikhai nahi deti thi'' was true for my friend too. But my friend is a very strong girl and she is adjusting with it and they are actually quite happy with each other but yesterday night after watching this episode she literally called me and said ''yaar yeh tou meri kahani hai'' and i had no answer.
Now what was the purpose of telling you all this?
Am I justifying EMA or i am calling Adi a bad husband?
Neither.
I am saying that its really easy to call a woman selfish and dumb when we watch her on tv but its not easy to be that woman. We think that Adi did everything for the marriage and he had his own flaws but at least he was loyal. Before Yash came, was pooja disloyal? wasn't she with Adi for what 16-17 years? Did she go off track then?
Adi is very nice yes but can we deny the fact that he was actually childish. I am not degrading him or calling him a bad husband but at least except the fact that his fault was thre too! And we like it or not he needed that backlash from sakshi because he was considering himself to be ''perfect'' now imagine he would not have gotten that from sakshi and he would have been the same with Zoya the way he was with Pooja how would that have been? We all wanted Zoya to change, to come out of her la la land and what about Adi? he was in his la la land too.
One thing i loved about my friend's relationship is she always used to tell her boyfriend about his flaws and he rectified it thus they are so happy with each other. But in Adija's relationship Pooja did tell adi many times ''tum baare kaab hoge'' but he took it as a joke. IF your partner takes all your words to be a joke, how would you feel?
Now coming to the most controversial one, her pregnancy. Yes she should have told him and even she knew he would have accepted the baby and then? that kid would either have grown up seeing his parents fight 24*7 or would have been the kid of a broken family, to adi it was the perfect marriage so he would have accepted the baby but would not have been very happy about it. Sakshi didn't put the entire blame on adi, obviously it was pooja's decision! No dialogue no post in the forum nothing says that Adi told her to abort...pooja herself did it but she did it because she knew Adi was not ready for it.
Pooja was not ''mahaan'' she was flawed but she was not the only reason for the failure of the marriage. She actually did a lot she adjusted with Adi's childishness, his favorites were her favorite. she organized big parties for him whereas he hardly remembered her birthday/anniversary. So if we can accept the fact that Aditya was flawed still gave his best then why can't we accept that pooja was flawed but still she tried her best. In a marriage understanding,romance,support is equally important as loyalty. In Adija's case one was not understanding one was not loyal but we are busy bashing only one overlooking everything that girl did for her marriage. She found the love in Yash which Adi could never give her and that was her mistake and actually it was a sin. EMA is something which can never be justified but atleast understand POOJA. But no as she was disloyal lets overlook every single thing she did for the marriage, the one where she was suffocating and maybe after a while Adi would have started to suffocate too,
In my opinion, CVs did not justify EMA instead Adi was shown the mirror so that he can change himself and move forward and lead a much better life with Zoya where they both can be happy with each other. I hope i have not hurt anyone's feeling and could state my opinion clearly.
sorry for such long post but didn't feel like writing the same thing on 10 different posts with the same topic.😊
My friend went into a relationship with her bestfriend when they were in grade 10. The boyfriend did everything which would make a third person think that he is the perfect boyfriend but only my friend knew that he was not. He used to take all his friends to their date. Can you believe that? lol. My friend once planned a beautiful surprise for him on their anniversary which was meant to be for the two only and he brought all his friends there and he didn't even realize how upset my friend got. Sounds familiar? My friend did a lot for him literally a lot but to him his studies came first and she was never in his priority list. what sakshi said about pooja that day to Adi that ''woh tujhe dihti tou thi lekin woh tujhei dikhai nahi deti thi'' was true for my friend too. But my friend is a very strong girl and she is adjusting with it and they are actually quite happy with each other but yesterday night after watching this episode she literally called me and said ''yaar yeh tou meri kahani hai'' and i had no answer.
Now what was the purpose of telling you all this?
Am I justifying EMA or i am calling Adi a bad husband?
Neither.
I am saying that its really easy to call a woman selfish and dumb when we watch her on tv but its not easy to be that woman. We think that Adi did everything for the marriage and he had his own flaws but at least he was loyal. Before Yash came, was pooja disloyal? wasn't she with Adi for what 16-17 years? Did she go off track then?
Adi is very nice yes but can we deny the fact that he was actually childish. I am not degrading him or calling him a bad husband but at least except the fact that his fault was thre too! And we like it or not he needed that backlash from sakshi because he was considering himself to be ''perfect'' now imagine he would not have gotten that from sakshi and he would have been the same with Zoya the way he was with Pooja how would that have been? We all wanted Zoya to change, to come out of her la la land and what about Adi? he was in his la la land too.
One thing i loved about my friend's relationship is she always used to tell her boyfriend about his flaws and he rectified it thus they are so happy with each other. But in Adija's relationship Pooja did tell adi many times ''tum baare kaab hoge'' but he took it as a joke. IF your partner takes all your words to be a joke, how would you feel?
Now coming to the most controversial one, her pregnancy. Yes she should have told him and even she knew he would have accepted the baby and then? that kid would either have grown up seeing his parents fight 24*7 or would have been the kid of a broken family, to adi it was the perfect marriage so he would have accepted the baby but would not have been very happy about it. Sakshi didn't put the entire blame on adi, obviously it was pooja's decision! No dialogue no post in the forum nothing says that Adi told her to abort...pooja herself did it but she did it because she knew Adi was not ready for it.
Pooja was not ''mahaan'' she was flawed but she was not the only reason for the failure of the marriage. She actually did a lot she adjusted with Adi's childishness, his favorites were her favorite. she organized big parties for him whereas he hardly remembered her birthday/anniversary. So if we can accept the fact that Aditya was flawed still gave his best then why can't we accept that pooja was flawed but still she tried her best. In a marriage understanding,romance,support is equally important as loyalty. In Adija's case one was not understanding one was not loyal but we are busy bashing only one overlooking everything that girl did for her marriage. She found the love in Yash which Adi could never give her and that was her mistake and actually it was a sin. EMA is something which can never be justified but atleast understand POOJA. But no as she was disloyal lets overlook every single thing she did for the marriage, the one where she was suffocating and maybe after a while Adi would have started to suffocate too,
In my opinion, CVs did not justify EMA instead Adi was shown the mirror so that he can change himself and move forward and lead a much better life with Zoya where they both can be happy with each other. I hope i have not hurt anyone's feeling and could state my opinion clearly.
sorry for such long post but didn't feel like writing the same thing on 10 different posts with the same topic.😊
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