Okay, even after yesterday's episode, the mood in the forum is still stuck on what happened on the episode of 17th March. And that is obvious considering what happened was something not ever seen before on Indian television. Many words have been thrown around. Abuse, torture and the like. I would like to put forward my two cents on what happened as well. This is just my take and you are not obliged in any way to share my views and I would love to know yours.
Lets rewind a little bit. I might as well start with the slimy little ball of sleaze otherwise known as Chuniya😡. He played his cards really well. I have to give that to him. He called Lakhan and made it sound like Poonam was being bullied. He knew ( I don't know how though. Maybe it is general knowledge in Begusarai) that when it comes to Poonam, Lakhan loses his restraint and becomes the human version of an angry bull. Poonam is the metaphorical red flag to his character. She is the one capable of pacifying him and the one capable of pushing him beyond his limits. Lakhan when he charged after those boys believed it in his heart that he was saving Poonam, defending her honor and the like. His poor shy, timid little fiance who can barely string a coherent sentence together was forced to sing in front of a bunch of strangers. They must have coerced her. Or so he thought. And so he did what he always does. He punished them.
And then our resident sleazebag, Chuniya went and told Mithilesh that Poonam was laughing and singing gaily in front of the boys (which is near the truth but not quite). He used the age old adage that the best lies are the ones with a grain of truth in them. But did anyone else notice that Chuniya (I have such a wonderful rhyming word for his name that would fit him perfectly)😆 went to Mithilesh and said that stuff about Poonam? While pointing his fingers at poonam, he did not do so in front of lakhan. No. Because he was well aware that had he done so; had he said to Lakhan ki "Poonam ji ki galti he" directly, Lakhan would have fed him to the dogs. Literally.
But that part about Poonam enjoying the ragging came from Mithilesh. His elder brother who also included and might I repeat "achche se pooch taach kar chuke he hum." Mithilesh told Lakhan that he has already done his enquiries and found poonam guilty. Now imagine here, the fiance whom you desire, and who does not even meet your eyes properly sings in front of strangers and happily too. Hurt. Betrayal. And finally disappointment. And while he was already hurt Mithilesh added to it by saying he has no control over his wife, hurting his male ego and striking an already sore chord with him. He is very aware that Poonam does not love him the way he does. He is also aware that Poonam would rather listen to Priyom than him.
Now lets come to how Lakhan reacted to this. Imagine someone else in Lakhan's place. Manjeeta would have beaten his wife black and blue. Maya would have in most likelihood been shamed in front of the entire family and then shunned by Mithilesh. It is amazing how Lakhan shows restraint only when it comes to Poonam. What happened after was an original scene never done before in Indian television. Usually when the angry young heroes get mad in a show, they shove a girl against a wall, door , whatever other surface is available , then grasps her wrists or arms and taunts her or slaps her or just neglects her and let the charming in laws torture her. And yet that is true love.
Lakhan ka anger did not stem from any misplaced sense of ownership over Poonam. It stemmed from the fact that he is always the one who had to maintain a distance from her and the fact that she is always skittish around him. He gave her a punishment that he thought was fitting the crime. He thought Poonam had enjoyed unwarranted attention and so in return he lavished her with attention. Attention she did not want. Being the centre of attention when she did not want to be one was her punishment. Was it abuse? Depends on how you define abuse. Harming a person physically, mentally or verbally is abuse. What Lakhan did to Poonam was crowd her space and make her feel guilty. But still whatever Lakhan did was unwarranted and not justifiable. But I can bet you anything that one sentence from Poonam. The thing she told her mother that she was not at fault. That she did not do anything. Had she said the same thing to Lakhan while looking in his eyes, then Chuniya would have been six feet under by now. But Poonam was already scared shitless. He had just witnessed her father slapping her mother.
That is what has been happening for so long, isn't it? Poonam's fear for Lakhan is more psychological than real. She is directing her fear towards her father towards Lakhan. Lakhan like Manjeeta is a man of few words and so she fears that her fate will be the same as her mother's. But she does not know that her case is vastly different from her mother's. Her father cares little about her mother. But Poonam just so happens to be the focal point around which Lakhan has made an existence for himself. She is paramount in his life. Whereas in her father's life it is the Thakurs who are paramount and everything even his family comes secondary.
Lakhan is not the modern enlightened meterosexual *read wimpy* cosmopolitan man (thank goodness for that). His thoughts, his views and his love is that of a bygone era. The zamaana when men when they said they loved you actually meant it. When the word was not just thrown around as a casual figure of speech and used randomly for everyone you took a fancy to. When you did not have to say the word "pyaar" every five minutes to make the other person understand that you love him/her. When actions used to speak louder than words. Let us take a look at his actions and I am going to list things borrowed from a discussion with my hearts, Anky Chan and CP Senpai.
1) When he went there to beat the boys, he first visited Poonam. Was that just a filler? No I don't think so. He wanted to visit her first, reassure himself of her safety. He must have thought she was bullied and so he wanted her to see that he was dishing out the punishment to the ones who bothered her.
2) He uses "aap" with her. I never noticed this but Couch Potato pointed it out to me. Puri duniya ko gaali denga par Poonam is always "aap". Even when he is scolding her, even then she is "aap".
3) Seriously was I the only one who saw the hurt in his eyes while he was scolding Poonam? He was raging and his face was angry but his eyes were glazed over and misty. I know I was not the only one to see that because anky chan did too.
4) Once the suit modeling part was over and they were in their jeep. Once his anger had resided and he had calmed down, his voice and eyes both softened. He tried to take the bite out of his harshness with her by being soft with her.
BotBoth Lakhan and Poonam are victims of their natures. It has been hinted on earlier too. He does not ask, she does not tell. He wants, she withdraws. He is used to raging and she is used to flinching. They are two pieces of puzzles who probably do not fit together but make a beautiful picture nonetheless.(in my eyes)
Now lets come to the discussion of whether Lakhan is too possessive. Firstly, I have not met any man who is not possessive by some measure. Either of his girlfriend, wife, sister or daughter. But is Lakhan over possessive? Beyond the limits of what is healthy. After the beating of Mr. Yellow Shirt, most are of the opinion that he is over possessive. But I have seen and understood that those guys were beaten because Chuniya led Lakhan to believe that those guys were teasing her. Remember when he told Mithilesh "Wo Poonam ko chcher rahe the."? Had he been overtly possessive of Poonam, do you honestly think he would have tolerated her close friendship with Priyom? The well known womanizer? I don't think so. Even normal boyfriends won't let their girlfriends , let alone their fiances have any sort of proximity to Priyom.
On a parting note, did any of you notice that Lakhan always refers to Poonam as his dharam patni? Not hone waali dharam patni...But direct dharam patni. So basically in his head Poonam is already his wife.😆
Now I don't know what path this story will go down. But I am rooting for this pair and Priyom-Bindiya pair. Because anything else would make the show dreadfully predictable. If Poonam and Priyom get together, we would have two sets of antagonists at our disposal. Bindiya and Lakhan. Which would ultimately make the show dreadfully predictable. And predictability is not what I signed up for when I started watching Begusarai.
P.S- Shweta Tiwari is too brilliant to have her talent wasted as an out and out antagonist.
I would love to hear your views even if they are contradictory. But it is a humble request that while presenting your views do not try to undermine mine or anyone else's. And also direct or indirect digs at my or someone else's person will not be welcome. I am usually a very amiable person but trust me, I am fully capable of replying to insults.
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