Is Ani wrong ?

Hi to all the wonderful ppl on the forum !

I am watching BB after quite some time. Just came across the promos and watched one episode. And I was wondering if Ani is actually in the wrong here.

I know we all love Rudita and since it is a show this track will somehow end with Ani realising he loves Bon or something along those lines. Manorama could turn out to be a villain like every other woman in this show. But looking at this track is Ani wrong ?

I know many are upset with Ani vacillating between Patni and Zimmedari but looking at the whole scenario from his perspective it seems to make some sense to me. Ani married Bon to save her life. He promised to be with her for a lifetime. He just wanted to take her responsibility. Protect her and give her education. But the villagers said the relationship needs a name. So he became her husband. Yes they have come a long way since then. She is not just his zimmedari any more. She is his family, his first priority, his partner. But is she his wife ? Yes..she is his wife in that her sindoor is his...she shares his surname...she is his family. But anything more than that is a no at this point. She is still a child and he knows it. The society and his family are used to seeing child brides...to them Bon is a wife. She is ready to be a wife according to them. But not According to him. He knows she is just a child and the relationship she is talking about is something she herself doesn't understand. She is going on with the stupidities fed to her by the people around her. I think Bon would be proud of him for this when she grows up. Also despite all his love for Bon Kaka Sasur is definitely not the influence Bon leads right now. She is a teenager and needs proper guidance aur yahaan to Sampoo and Kaka Sasur are diverting her to wrong things. This is the time for her to study and fulfil her dreams not pray to save her marriage. Hope Ani makes her realise this soon.

Now coming to the actual topic. Is it wrong if Ani loves Aazadi express ? Ani cares for Bon, she is the most special to him but does that mean he has to love her ? From his pov she is still the child who he wants to see achieving heights of success. He wants her to be barrister Bondita. He never once spoke of seeing her as his wife in the future. Would it be wrong if he fell in Love with Mano ? I don't mean he marries her right away. What if when bon grows up and becomes independent he marries Mano ? I know this would never happen on the show but I was just wondering.

Originally posted by: chemgirl

Hi to all the wonderful ppl on the forum !

I am watching BB after quite some time. Just came across the promos and watched one episode. And I was wondering if Ani is actually in the wrong here.

I know we all love Rudita and since it is a show this track will somehow end with Ani realising he loves Bon or something along those lines. Manorama could turn out to be a villain like every other woman in this show. But looking at this track is Ani wrong ?

I know many are upset with Ani vacillating between Patni and Zimmedari but looking at the whole scenario from his perspective it seems to make some sense to me. Ani married Bon to save her life. He promised to be with her for a lifetime. He just wanted to take her responsibility. Protect her and give her education. But the villagers said the relationship needs a name. So he became her husband. Yes they have come a long way since then. She is not just his zimmedari any more. She is his family, his first priority, his partner. But is she his wife ? Yes..she is his wife in that her sindoor is his...she shares his surname...she is his family. But anything more than that is a no at this point. She is still a child and he knows it. The society and his family are used to seeing child brides...to them Bon is a wife. She is ready to be a wife according to them. But not According to him. He knows she is just a child and the relationship she is talking about is something she herself doesn't understand. She is going on with the stupidities fed to her by the people around her. I think Bon would be proud of him for this when she grows up. Also despite all his love for Bon Kaka Sasur is definitely not the influence Bon leads right now. She is a teenager and needs proper guidance aur yahaan to Sampoo and Kaka Sasur are diverting her to wrong things. This is the time for her to study and fulfil her dreams not pray to save her marriage. Hope Ani makes her realise this soon.

Now coming to the actual topic. Is it wrong if Ani loves Aazadi express ? Ani cares for Bon, she is the most special to him but does that mean he has to love her ? From his pov she is still the child who he wants to see achieving heights of success. He wants her to be barrister Bondita. He never once spoke of seeing her as his wife in the future. Would it be wrong if he fell in Love with Mano ? I don't mean he marries her right away. What if when bon grows up and becomes independent he marries Mano ? I know this would never happen on the show but I was just wondering.

right and even bon can experience true love with someone in her life and she and ani can have the unique relation

Originally posted by: chemgirl

Hi to all the wonderful ppl on the forum !

I am watching BB after quite some time. Just came across the promos and watched one episode. And I was wondering if Ani is actually in the wrong here.

I know we all love Rudita and since it is a show this track will somehow end with Ani realising he loves Bon or something along those lines. Manorama could turn out to be a villain like every other woman in this show. But looking at this track is Ani wrong ?

I know many are upset with Ani vacillating between Patni and Zimmedari but looking at the whole scenario from his perspective it seems to make some sense to me. Ani married Bon to save her life. He promised to be with her for a lifetime. He just wanted to take her responsibility. Protect her and give her education. But the villagers said the relationship needs a name. So he became her husband. Yes they have come a long way since then. She is not just his zimmedari any more. She is his family, his first priority, his partner. But is she his wife ? Yes..she is his wife in that her sindoor is his...she shares his surname...she is his family. But anything more than that is a no at this point. She is still a child and he knows it. The society and his family are used to seeing child brides...to them Bon is a wife. She is ready to be a wife according to them. But not According to him. He knows she is just a child and the relationship she is talking about is something she herself doesn't understand. She is going on with the stupidities fed to her by the people around her. I think Bon would be proud of him for this when she grows up. Also despite all his love for Bon Kaka Sasur is definitely not the influence Bon leads right now. She is a teenager and needs proper guidance aur yahaan to Sampoo and Kaka Sasur are diverting her to wrong things. This is the time for her to study and fulfil her dreams not pray to save her marriage. Hope Ani makes her realise this soon.

Now coming to the actual topic. Is it wrong if Ani loves Aazadi express ? Ani cares for Bon, she is the most special to him but does that mean he has to love her ? From his pov she is still the child who he wants to see achieving heights of success. He wants her to be barrister Bondita. He never once spoke of seeing her as his wife in the future. Would it be wrong if he fell in Love with Mano ? I don't mean he marries her right away. What if when bon grows up and becomes independent he marries Mano ? I know this would never happen on the show but I was just wondering.

If they had wanted this to happen why did they show Ani going crazy to save her during HM and show him as if he developed something he cant explain for Bon?! Why call her patni or himself pati babu to her or let her be called RC's bahu? What was the need? If he had not then maybe we could have accepted that! What in the world is RTM 21! It is not a feeling described between friends for sure... Ani who rejected his childhood love for Bon is super in love with a woman he barely knows? Then now suddenly Ani snapped backed to reality that Bon is a zimmedari but not patni?But now after coming a long way ,,,really how to accept that? Both Ani and Bon could have just avoided the promise they made that they will not disappoint the fans at the start of the year... I love Aurra's and Pravisht's acting! It is phenomenal but it is not interesting to have a love triangle after all these-my pov

Originally posted by: sharafah

If they had wanted this to happen why did they show Ani going crazy to save her during HM and show him as if he developed something he cant explain for Bon?! Why call her patni or himself pati babu to her or let her be called RC's bahu? What was the need? If he had not then maybe we could have accepted that! What in the world is RTM 21! It is not a feeling described between friends for sure... Ani who rejected his childhood love for Bon is super in love with a woman he barely knows? Then now suddenly Ani snapped backed to reality that Bon is a zimmedari but not patni?But now after coming a long way ,,,really how to accept that? Both Ani and Bon could have just avoided the promise they made that they will not disappoint the fans at the start of the year... I love Aurra's and Pravisht's acting! It is phenomenal but it is not interesting to have a love triangle after all these-my pov

Completely agree buddy...totally agree yup acting part Aura and pravisth remarkable one.... 👍👍👍👍👍

Very true the transition from apne pati babu ki Bondita to Bondita sirf meri zimmedari hai seems out of the blue. As much as I would not want to say it but it seems to stem out from his sudden love or infactuation whatever it is for AE.

The question should be - What is Love? 😊

Why would Ani fall in LOVE with Manorama ?

He met her hardly 3 to 4 days back. Except for the fact that she looks beautiful and her personality is admirable, what does Ani know of her that he should be falling in "Love" with her.

As per the current track it seems the makers are tying to show that Ani has merely fallen for her looks and personality... this feeling is not love. It is important not to glorify such feelings as true love.

These infatuation and attraction driven feelings are responsible for so many breakups and divorces because people do not understand that it's simply Infatuation which could be taken as a simple human emotion. But most people start thinking it is love and force such emotions to grow ultimately spoiling their good relations 🥺

Even for those who are Single, Love might start with infatuation but it is not necessary that all infatuations must end with Love. There are so many young people out there who mistake their attractions with love and later regret it. So it is important to know that Love needs patience and it needs time. "Love" at first sight is actually a myth!

Love is not about having those giddy feelings and attraction when u see a beautiful face and an adorable personality , love is a lot more than that, it makes you completely dedicated to a person, but these things cannot happen unless you KNOW THE PERSON WELL and trust me, it takes some time to know a person so well to actually fall in love with them. 👍🏼

Had these things applied on Ani and Manorama, I would have definitely understood that Ani is totally in his senses and he has found a soul mate in Manorama which he could not find in a 12 year old whom he did not consider his wife. But again, in that case he shouldn't have given her the impression of being her husband even for once. Because even if Ani does not accept her as a wife, she sees him as her husband.

I had no issues with Ani calling Bondita his responsibility earlier because he said that due to society's expectation of them having to consummate their marriage. But the moment he insulted her publicly and called her zimmedari, denied having pati ka rishta with her and later confessed that he did all that because or his feelings for Manorama, I did not like it. Ani is equally responsible for Bondita having wife like feelings for him because he supported her Pati Patni jaap all this while. Now just because her expectations are growing he is just backing off and shouting instead of making her understand ? Not done! 👎🏼

In the end, neither of them should be forced to fall in love with each other. If Ani cannot accept her as a wife, he NEEDS to break ties with her because he cannot keep her married to him and have the liberty to fall in love with every other woman he finds attractive just because his wife is a child and he married her unwillingly.

Similarly, Bon should also not be forced to love Anirudh if he cannot accept her love.

No matter what Anirudh thinks, there is a reason why marriage ties were made. It is a life long commitment and both sides needs to follow it with loyalty.

There is absolutely no need to have romantic feelings but definitely there needs to be trust & faithfulness. It's just that if they have a platonic married life but both fall in love with some other person later, there is no point or being in the relation just for the sake of society...

Originally posted by: Itsmesabah

Very true the transition from apne pati babu ki Bondita to Bondita sirf meri zimmedari hai seems out of the blue. As much as I would not want to say it but it seems to stem out from his sudden love or infactuation whatever it is for AE.

Nah re... It started popping up when Kaka mentioned SR.

Yes but that time it seemed like fear. The anniversary outburst was brutal. So could you say that It wasn’t at all influenced by his feelings for AE.

Originally posted by: Itsmesabah

Yes but that time it seemed like fear. The anniversary outburst was brutal. So could you say that It wasn’t at all influenced by his feelings for AE.

I could Sabah! He clearly didn't want Bon mooning over him instead of studying. The anniversary outburst seemed more like him losing control completely, which is in line with Ani's character. AE came into the picture only when Bon confronted Ani about the laal gaal.

Originally posted by: Itsmesabah

Yes but that time it seemed like fear. The anniversary outburst was brutal. So could you say that It wasn’t at all influenced by his feelings for AE.

Agree he influenced by his feel for AE ... which he realised wen his inner sense questioned him....