Originally posted by: sg08
Just read all the recent posts and my 2 (or maybe more:) cents--
I don't think Santu is to be blamed for the way Birwa turned out. From her point of view, she was protecting her daughter from going to jail which any mother would have done and she thought there was an entire family, father, grandparents, aunt, siblings to give her the love and support she would need in her absence. How was she to know what would happen after she went to jail, that the father would shut himself off, shirk his responsibilities and totally ignore his kids, even the little ones - that the house would be divided and everyone would suddenly turn selfish and stop caring for each other and that her daughter wouldn't have the love and support when she most needed it. If you remember before she left, the family was a big, happy one where people took care of each other and were there for each other. Granted that the whole trauma of the murder and losing Santu and the guilt would have had an effect on the young Birwa but from Santu's point of view she would overcome it with the love and support of her family and that would be infinitely better than jail or juvenile facility where she would end up otherwise. How can anyone blame Santu for doing what she thought was best for her daughter even at the expense of her marriage, wouldn't any mother do the same?
As for keeping the truth from DM and spewing all the nonsense to him in jail, I am with fuzzy that she probably was trying to make DM move on past her but I don't think she thought he would so easily buy her nonsense which is what she must have thought when he just disappeared after that meeting, she must have thought he believed everything she said and it must have hurt her a lot to think that he could so easily beleive her to be so vile despite all he had seen her do for his family, that everything she did was so easily negated by a few things she said.
She is also probably angry that DM undid all her work....she was the one
who brought the family together, taught them to care for each other and
united them....and what does DM do when she is gone, he shuts himself
out and lets the same family go to the dogs, effectively ruining all her
work and sacrifice. Had she known the family was going to fall apart
the moment she left, she might have done things differently.
And how could DM ignore her for so many years despite believing her to be innocent, how could he give Khemi that promise knowing how wrong it was, isn't he supposed to be Dharamraj? He let her rot in jail for 9 years while believing her to be innocent, makes one wonder how deeply he loved her. Did he think jail was going to be a picnic? If you know your loved one was in jail for something she didn't do, wouldn't you do everything in your power to get her out? I totally did not get DM's behavior and reaction to this whole fiasco and never will.
As far as Santu telling DM the truth, I agree with Uma and Fuzzy, he has to work to get it out, I don't want Santu to volunteer the information. If DM wanted Santu to tell him, he should have tried to get it out of her 9 years ago just the way he got Moti's truth out of her - trying to get it out of her once and then doing the disappearing act does not suffice, he is 9 years too late if he wants Santu to volunteer the information.
I also think DM finds it more difficult to forgive Santu than others is because he holds her to higher standard than the rest of his family. He expaects more from her, what she does hurts him more so he finds it more difficult to forgive her.