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chalia

@chalia

Inactive

Posted: 15 years ago

#1111

You know guys, i feel that the blame balance hangs equally on both sides. Both DM and Santu have erred big time and its time to acknowledge that neither is blameless or that either deserves to be blamed more.

We can talk and argue for hours and even wait for the cows to come home about motherhood, sacrifice, hurt, self proclaimed reclusiveness, neglect and anything other things in support of both Santu and DM. But what is the end result of both their individualistic mad attempts at problem solving? Pure confusion, destruction of trust in important relationaships and evil.

A family divided, foetuses killed, pimping, adultery, divorce, psychotic children, and irreparable cracks in relationships! All attributable to both DM and Santu equally, no bias here! So DM saying "Santu will not be forgiven for hiding the truth" or Santu saying "DM has shirked his responsibility for a decade" all hold water. If you say DM should have dug the truth out of Santu I could say Santu should not have driven him away and the blame game proceeds unabated.

Marriage is a delicate balance of trust and temperment that encases the family in its comfortable folds and holds it strong. Any tilt of this delicate balance is what upsets the applecart!

By not comprehending the meaning of "sharing" and "trust" in a marriage, the Sanraj relationship much too young to bear the burden of the assault fell apart.

This is my opinion.

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Shahara

@Shahara3

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

#1112

Originally posted by: DmLovesSantu
i dont understand how people does not see DM... being wrong here... after all the facts thats being pointed out still they find a way to make dm look like the good guy here... NewsFlash he is not... he has many faults here, for one thing he needs to act like a husband towards his wife and not a Maalik even baa pointed that out to him .... even if santu wants to confess to him I dont think she has the courage enough to do so.., b cuz in the end she knows that he would punish her severly without even thinking twice like he did with the moti raaz.. (which wass dumb) .. she does not want maalik when she's in this state she wants her husband... He has too much pride and ego and untill he does not let go of these ...the truth wont come to him... I am surprised alot of women are actually supporting him for his ruthless act towards his wife.. being a woman... i dont see how u can agree with a man being soo unfair to a woman none other than his own wife... Santu did what ANY MOTHER WITH A HEART would do... and she paid for it for ten years being in jail and still is paying for it now... Santu.thinking that it would make life easier for others she jeopardize her own and got nothing but hatred in re-turn.... as for DM he sat around rocking away and to top it off he refused to take her baq when she returned,grew a stone heart towards her, and expects her to be nice??? oh GROW UP!!!! she's not a TOy she's a human being with a heart..
Santu's confidence in herself is all she has for comfort and now her nana-ji ... this poor girl I just wish after the wedding she hand over the POV, and tijori keys and just leave all those CRAZY MANIACS.. from the M mansion including DM... they dont deserve her... she's too good for these idiots.. Dm puzzles me ,, he admits he knows she did not kill??? so whats his problem arent you gonna try to find out??? or u gonna sit and let things come to u?? b cuz its never going to happen... PERIOD!!!....

(NO Offence intended to anyone this is just my POV)

Sam i completely agree with your POV, as much as I love the character DM, the CVs have completely ruined his character postleap.
Santu did wrong buy not telling DM the truth and making up her rubbish she being evil as she stated in prison to make DM not investigate and find out that Birwa killed Arjan as he would have definitely made sure the right person got punished (even though it was self defense) she thought he would move on in life without her and she thought with the family this would happen as they were united, she didn't realise her husband would turn his back on his family and go into solitude, this she is angry about and in some ways she feels responsible for his decision but this was DM's decision, he chose to and didn't bother to find out the truth 10yrs ago when he could have found out like he always did. He didn't do anything back then so he should try and find out now. He knew that Santu committed no crime and her speech in prison was all false, she is a sacrificing dufford as DM knew and knows still is for one of his so called family members and he instead of getting confession out of the good for nothings took that vachan from Mrs Bacteria who would never had got rid of her kid (she supposedly loved her husband why get rid of his child?) as this was her pass in the Mfamily forever and to rule after her sister had gone to prison as santu was the only person who had the higher status to anyone as she was Dm's wife the Malkin of the house and D'Pur which she was jealous of. Everything Khemi has done, destroying the lives and dividing the house intentionally, the family have forgiven her and re-accepted her, Santu has done soo much upon entering that house and even after returning from prison serving her time, she still is treated like crap, this I do not understand? Baa was very correct in everything she said he can forgive and forget every wrong all the family members have done but cannot forgive Santu for her mistake she did and spent her 10yrs in prison and this overshadowing all her goodness and sacrifices she made and jeopardized her life, her happiness so that Mfamily could remain happy. The thing for her to do is hand everything back and leave but this I do not want to happen. I want DM to investigate and reveal the truth and punish Birwa for her ungratefulness and forgive Santu. Santu also has to realise to communicate with her husband as she is alot older and maturer and not go making any more sacrifices especially this extreme cause at the end of the day its not worth it and the family will not appreciate her goodness at all.

Both have wronged and they both have to sort this out asap once and for all and give up their ultra egos.

Edited by Shahara3 - 15 years ago

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ammoos

@ammoos

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 15 years ago

#1113

Yes both Santu and DM are at fault.. But as Shalu said Santu WAS right what she did years back, she wanted to make sure her DAUGHTER is safe from punishment.. but now she should make a move..

DM did all wrong by just letting his wife suffer the punish,ent when he was always sure that she didnt kill anyone..

But the fact is that he feared to see one of his family member be the killer of his son.. he chose it to be his wife.. and did he thought that way just because she was an OUTSIDER😲🤔

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chalia

@chalia

Inactive

Posted: 15 years ago

#1114

Originally posted by: ammoos
Yes both Santu and DM are at fault.. But as Shalu said Santu WAS right what she did years back, she wanted to make sure her DAUGHTER is safe from punishment.. but now she should make a move..
DM did all wrong by just letting his wife suffer the punish,ent when he was always sure that she didnt kill anyone..

But the fact is that he feared to see one of his family member be the killer of his son.. he chose it to be his wife.. and did he thought that way just because she was an OUTSIDER😲🤔

Uma, my point is that Birwa is DM and Santu's daughter. If Santu explained to DM (he was eating out of her hand during Arjan's murder) her reasons for wanting to take on the murder rap, a better discussion between the two of them could have yielded a better solution than Santu ending up in jail and playing martyr. I am saying that Santu, Birwa both would have gotten away scot free. DM has clout in D'pur and the outside of it.

Santu's attempts at "saving" Birwa and DM's cowing down to Khemi's emotional blackmail has made Birwa into the monster that she has become. Confused, scared, blackmailed into silence, lonely and without warmth and nurturing, Birwa just derailed.

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Shahara

@Shahara3

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

#1115

Originally posted by: chalia
Uma, my point is that Birwa is DM and Santu's daughter. If Santu explained to DM (he was eating out of her hand during Arjan's murder) her reasons for wanting to take on the murder rap, a better discussion between the two of them could have yielded a better solution than Santu ending up in jail and playing martyr. I am saying that Santu, Birwa both would have gotten away scot free. DM has clout in D'pur and the outside of it.
Santu's attempts at "saving" Birwa and DM's cowing down to Khemi's emotional blackmail has made Birwa into the monster that she has become. Confused, scared, blackmailed into silence, lonely and without warmth and nurturing, Birwa just derailed.

Your right, I see it from both sides in the end the person who has been traumatized the most is Birwa, Sanraj both wronged, Santu for lying and DM for doing nothing. Birwa, there were only 2 options for her, to become a nervous wreck closed up or become the monster she has turned into today. Theres not much we can say other than that. Its up to the now Distant DM and Silly Santu to sort out the family problems together, trust, communicate and sort out the mess once and for all. DM I think has taken in what Baa has said so hopefully we see some change from his side and Santu seeing his change will become less aggressive towards him but I just hope Santu keeps her backbone once is all sorted because she needs it and thank god for Baa for being the only person with common sense in that house. Truly Sanraj are lucky and should learn from this wise woman.

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Samanta

@iSakshi

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

#1116

thank you chalia, Uma, and shahara, I read all of your POV and I agree... they are both to be blamed and instead of making things right as it is overdue for 10 yrs... they just decide to handle things with their anger thats raging inside of them... they both need to have some alone time to understand eachother... they need to talk to eachother... about everything.. until this does not happen our hope for a sanraj re-union would never happen... and sanraj themselves would not be happy instead they will always be angry and egostic towards eachother....

Edited by DmLovesSantu - 15 years ago

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Shahara

@Shahara3

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

#1117

Lets hope something good comes out of this Birwa track either way Sanraj should reunite but firstly sort out their misunderstandings, remind themselves of their existence they are to eachother, have it out once and for all and then they can sort out their family. Only a happy trusting, understanding, joint decision making husband and wife can make a happy home. This is a lesson to be learnt and a lesson for not a mistake like this to happen again.

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Samanta

@iSakshi

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

#1118

Originally posted by: Shahara3
Lets hope something good comes out of this Birwa track either way Sanraj should reunite but firstly sort out their misunderstandings, remind themselves of their existence they are to eachother, have it out once and for all and then they can sort out their family. Only a happy trusting, understanding, joint decision making husband and wife can make a happy home. This is a lesson to be learnt and a lesson for not a mistake like this to happen again.

I agree shahara I hope when sanraj sorts out their problem it should be once and for all no more burden should be given on the relationship...

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sg08

@sg08

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#1119

Santu made a lot of mistakes but her intentions were always good, she did what she thought was best for her daughter and she had seen how DM did not spare even his kids when it came to justice.....but I just can't understand how DM could let Santu remain in jail for 10 years when he knew her to be innocent. He did nothing to get her out, absolutely nothing. We are talking 10 years in prison here, 10 years, not a picnic.....prison life is supposed to be horrible, she was such a sweet, innocent girl, didn't he wonder how someone like her would survive amongst hardened criminals. I cannot understand his behaviour, his indifference to her plight, never have, never will....

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Samanta

@iSakshi

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

#1120

Originally posted by: sg08
Santu made a lot of mistakes but her intentions were always good, she did what she thought was best for her daughter and she had seen how DM did not spare even his kids when it came to justice.....but I just can't understand how DM could let Santu remain in jail for 10 years when he knew her to be innocent. He did nothing to get her out, absolutely nothing. We are talking 10 years in prison here, 10 years, not a picnic.....prison life is supposed to be horrible, she was such a sweet, innocent girl, didn't he wonder how someone like her would survive amongst hardened criminals. I cannot understand his behaviour, his indifference to her plight, never have, never will....

neither would I... these are questions that are running in my mind as well...😭