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Posted: 9 years ago

#21

Nimbuli was kidnapped and her marriage is not legal, so she does not have any right to be with Jhalra people.

Was not Anandi got a divorce from Jagya, then what right she has to stay with Jagya and his family? If emotion and love is applicable for the Mom why not for the daughter.

All in Jhalra are not bad - Kamli and Puskar is no less then shugna and shyam.

Mangla is the demon but was Dadisa less? Dadisa made anandi starve and lock in rooms, has mangla ever done that? If Dadisa can become female balmiki then why not mangala.

Jagya used to abuse Anandi insulted her left and right. When he can become the perfect man and friend, then why cannot kundan. Kundan tried to rape nimbuli jagya also peeped through the bathroom lock.

So if Nimbuli cannot stay in Jhalra, anandi should apply the same rules for her as well. But Anandi allways is a hypocrit.

She got kundan arrested what happened to Mannu Puja, they are BH relations, her father and father in law is still alive, so why cannot she get them arrested now. Crime is crime at any point of time. First of all she should get DS into jail.

Her Shiv Niketan is for girls like Nidhi who has divorced father who can give her company not for Urmila. She made promise I will take care of her then she never even talked about it.

Worst example of Ideal woman.

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: Missesha
Actually, makers succeeded in showing various ill effects of bal vivah on Balika Vadhus (since the title is highlighting vadhus and not balak var /vivah).

Through their lead Anandi - it was about how it snatches one's freedom to pursue their dreams
Phooli - the burden of bearing with widowhood
Sugna - Child out of wedlock
Champa - pregnancy and death
Gudiya - disturbed childhood.

Makers indeed succeeded in highlighting what little girls go through when burdened with child marriage.

But they undid their own doing when they decided to make Singhs as the backbone support in Anandi's life.

Anandi's return to BH was a huge backward step taken by the makers. It indicates that only if DSa was this nice in the past and if J never cheated her, bal vivah would have been perfect for Anandi.

I differ slighly :

Sugna case - the child was not out of wedlock - she was married (that is how she became balika vadhu) and Chmpa was not a victim of bal-vivah but adolescence affair gone wrong.

It was not my point that they should have shown effect of bal-vivah on balak var. I was trying to say that if balak var and his family are nice people (say there was no DS) then bal-vivah becomes acceptable? The worst effect is on health of balika vadhu due to early and repeated pregnancies, malnutrition of children. And what we see in serial is super healthy and cute looking balika vadhus and all adults have either one or sometimes two children or in many cases - no child at all (like Lal Singh and Khajan's neighbour). Though maternal mortality is high in India - but the reason is not just bal-vivah - malnutrition is bigger culprit as also the frequent pregnancies. But here they repeat - maa aur bachche me se ek ko hi bacha sakte h or there is a risk to her life because of the pregnancy and bal-vivah 😔

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aparnauma

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Posted: 9 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: hisusmita

@bold, I agree with you

but @red , how does it mean that her returning to BH shows Bal Vivah is a blessing?
This was shown that Singhs are too good. What they did is they believed in that custom but when they realized they did everything for her.

Anandi fought against the custom but when the people already realised their wrong doings why to cut all the ties with them.?

What DS did with A mostly because she strictly followed the custom, not because she hated Anandi. Beendhnis should not study , they should always follow their beendh, She was harsh with Suguna too.

When DS turned to a new leaf why should she cut her ties with them.?

They not only did for Anandi only, along with her they tried to help the society too, then why should Anandi become indifferent to them.

Yes, I agree creatives should have shown her living in Jaitsar but not in BH , That would have been a good step, not because I believe A dont have any right there, but because that would have been a better story.

This is what I am trying to say.

Singhs being good people doesn't mean Anandi's child marriage is wrong or she did not suffer.

Even if Jagya didn't commit adultery and was faithful to her does that make the child marriage right?

The fact that her dreams have been quashed and this is not the life that she wanted for herself would have never changed.

What ever Singhs gave her was only after she was left destitute.

Child marriage did leave her a destitute after her husband left her.

What ever they did for Anandi after that it was partly to ease their guilt and also because they were good at heart.

Child marriage was not a blessing but the good human beings who came into her life was the blessing

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Champa's marriage was a child marriage and her husband's family dumped her and later on she had an affair with somebody..

Suguna became pregnant before her gauna and that's why eye brows were raised and they refused to accept the baby as Pratap's child. So she was a teen mother who was single.

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Even if Champa's husband dumped her - the situation was created by her affair and has nothing to do with bal-vivah. Sugna's case was something extreme - gauna is when the bride goes to live in her husband's home, but if the groom comes to meet the girl in her home - pregnancies do happen and is not termed as child out of wedlock (as far as I have seen in North India society).

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Posted: 9 years ago

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In every case of child marriage - they did show people are wrong instead of the custom of child marriage itself is wrong. And in the main protagonist's case the people were wrong and now become good - so she leaves every other relationship and goes and lives with them - what message in this?

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Originally posted by: SPuja
In every case of child marriage - they did show people are wrong instead of the custom of child marriage itself is wrong. And in the main protagonist's case the people were wrong and now become good - so she leaves every other relationship and goes and lives with them - what message in this?

Very clear message, bal vivah zindabad. It is eternal.

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aparnauma

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Even in the main protagonist's case her parents were shown to be good as well as Sumi and Bhairon were shown to be good.

Dsa was shown to be good. Even in her negative avatar she was shown working towards the good of the village.She was shown to be very harsh and strict but she was not shown to be motivated by hatred or resentment. But more motivated by desire to stick to traditions and make everyone in the family follow those tradition.

Inspite of all the people being good her child marriage is wrong and it did ruin her life.

Had she been allowed to study even atter her marriage she would not have been left in such a pathetic state even if her husband dumped her for someone else.

Child marriage stunted her growth because of the way Dsa not only did she not let her study but she did not even allow her to read books.So her growth has been stunted by child marriage.

Even if her husband didn't leave her she would have been an illiterate house wife taking care of her children and husband just like Sumi.

But still that is not what she had dreamed for herself.

Saying that she was born in a society which practiced child marriage and her life is no different from other girls' lives doesn't make her sufferings any less.

Nothing can change the fact that at an age where she should be putting on uniform and going to school she was wearing Gaghra with her head covered and working like an unpaid maid in her husband's house while her husband went to school like the kids of his age do and went to play with them after school.

Parents may have loved her Sumi and Bhairon may have been like parents to her but still child marriage has taken away her childhood and dreams she had for herself.

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SPuja

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Child marriage stunted Anandi's growth - I think her adult marriage stunted her growth. In child marriage - she gained everything - from education to some sort of career - but after marrying in adult age - she gained nothing - she stopped growing the day she married Shiv.

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Originally posted by: SPuja
Child marriage stunted Anandi's growth - I think her adult marriage stunted her growth. In child marriage - she gained everything - from education to some sort of career - but after marrying in adult age - she gained nothing - she stopped growing the day she married Shiv.

She got dumped that is why she went for higher studies. But Shiv she was happy like every women she took a break from career. But she could have easily continued growing higher studies, Social worker. Even wife of Ambani s do that. Duaghters of Birla do that.

After she died, she could have become the CM of Rajasthan she did not. Why? Is it she thought staying with ex husband s house and serving them is a time consuming affair.

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