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Posted: 10 years ago
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Some observations.

Jagya looked like a teacher telling Ganga what his thinking is and Ganga looked like a hesitant student.

Both are right and both are wrong.

Jagya is a bit strict, Ganga a bit lenient. Children can see this dichotomy.

In Anandi's case, she is the sole parent and Shivam cannot run to his dad.

Shiv used to be lenient to Amol.

I used to watch one interesting serial Parvarish about kids and their whims. Cant help recalling it in this context.

I am observing that Shivam is listening but not trying to understand where he is going wrong. Or he does not want to understand. Anandi needs to make more efforts to make Shivam to listen to her properly.

Ganga cant control Abhi and she should allow Jagya to discipline Abhi and give her full cooperation to Jagya.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Don't want to say anything about Jagya Ganga Abhi
I think best example for child rearing or bringing up children was shown through Anandi Shiv and Amol.
Anandi was the strict but very loving mother and she was primary care taker of Amol.Through Shiv and Amol we saw the father and son friendship.But despite this Shiv never ever overruled the rules laid down by Anandi for Amol. - Their approach to their kid was very different but together they formed one unit. Amol knew that he can't break rules laid down by his mother.
Amol was faced with a problem like DB.Amol was scared of her and didn't know how to handle her.
So they explained to him in the begining to be tolerant towards her because she is of different mind set.Then when things became rough - they just told him to stay clear out of her way and don't enter into argument with her.They set an example to him by not letting what that lady said or did to matter to them.
Finally Amol was the one who told her to stay clear from his family in a no nosense manner - That kind of confidence only parents can give to their children.But that requires a lot of patience and efforts.

Looking at Shivam we do see that Anandi had succeeded to a larger extent and except in the area on how to handle relationships that are full of problems. She should concentrate on that.Shivam seems to be good at school and extra curricular activities and seems to be a popular kid in school too.I don't think it was his intention to show that he is better than Abhi in all those activities.He is just performing according to his own abilities. Anandi should make him realise that while perorming to his fullest abilities his duty and responsibilty to himself he should be made aware of the fact by talking too much about himself and his achievements can put off people.He needs to be told not to be a show off.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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I remember anandi used to talk a lot to amol and amol also used to give weight to anandi's words immediately. This thing is not happening with either anandi or shivam as of now.

I think with Nandini and Shivam, the team wants to make them a bit different from the usual stereotypes namely anandi and amol.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

I remember anandi used to talk a lot to amol and amol also used to give weight to anandi's words immediately. This thing is not happening with either anandi or shivam as of now.

I think with Nandini and Shivam, the team wants to make them a bit different from the usual stereotypes namely anandi and amol.

True. It looks like they want to show some difference between raising Amol and rasing Shivam.
While Shivam comes across like Shiv in many instances there seems to be problems too.
Anandi Shivam bonding scenes are something they have not shown at all.
With Amol Anandi and Shiv they have shown them balancing their work life spending time with him as well as balancing it with the couple time very effectively.
They could have shown single mother Anandi trying to give attention and time to him and trying to be both mother and father as well as balancing that with her other commitments like Shiv Niketan and spending time with Dsa and thinking about Nandini.

Between Shivam and Anandi there is lot more openness. They are at a plane where they can discuss things.Like they have shown how Anandi approached the issue of eating Abhi's snack. We need lot more scenes like that. She was kind of trying to make Shivam actually think about his action.Shivam seemed to want to brush away the issue.

While Amol needed a lot more nurturing because he is an adopted child and that too a physically challenged child Shivam doesn't require that much of nurturing but all the same they should show Anandi Shivam bonding like her making him think about his behaviour and think about the consequences of his acts.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Here Anandi was trying to make Shivam think about his actions which Shivam doesn't want to do but I think this is the right way to approach a problem with kid's behaviour.
While it is not really Shivam's fault that Abhi feels overshadowed by him and so he is rude towards him it is Anandi's duty to let Shivam not to get affected by the negativity.

There should be an open communication channel between Abhi and J. J should let him know that he scolds Abhi because he has done something wrong and not because he wants to protect Shivam.
Also this insecurities with regard to Shivam need to be addressed by his parents. They should teach him not to get affected by competition but should only think of giving his best shot at everything he did.
If not Shivam there would be someone else who beats him at everything.
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Nandini most likely will end up with Anandi and how she deals with Nandini will be something else altogether.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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It is easy to bear competition if it comes from outside one's home. If it is inside home, then surely complications arise. Suppose Shivam wins a prize and everyone will congratulate him at home.

CVs should balance here. They should show both the kids getting prizes in different fields.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

It is easy to bear competition if it comes from outside one's home. If it is inside home, then surely complications arise. Suppose Shivam wins a prize and everyone will congratulate him at home.

CVs should balance here. They should show both the kids getting prizes in different fields.

Then where is the story and where is the drama?😆

I think this track is more about teaching kids dealing with competition, insecurity and feeling of inadequacy from being over shadowed by brighter cheerful personality and also about dealing with kids who are too smart for their own good like Shivam
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Then where is the story and where is the drama?😆

I think this track is more about teaching kids dealing with competition, insecurity and feeling of inadequacy from being over shadowed by brighter cheerful personality and also about dealing with kids who are too smart for their own good like Shivam



If it is dealing with competition, insecurity why to show them between abhi and shivam only?

It is to create politics.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Not interested to talk about Anandi Shiv and their upbringings but for me Jagya and Ganga are good parents Mannu is the example of best upbringing He is a few older to shivam and abhi but sensible mature and understanding kid even though he is at more vulnerable age Teenage and where children stray quite a lot but Mannu is fully controlled

Abhi's problem is his tiff with shivam I don't think he is a bad boy in anyway needs to be disciplined His dad only scolds him when he over reacts not for everything and somehow parents should be a bit strict on kids otherwise kids take wrong impact of their too much leniency just like Sanchi took of Shekhars Jagya for me is fairly neutral parent Balanced not ignorant to child's mistakes or neither too strict just like Bhairon was . Bhairon scared Jagya too much with his frequent beatings

Now Abhi is not getting that bit is why Jagya asks him to behave not to shivam and thats causing problem in him . Same Abhi has no problem with Mannu or thinks he is loved more than him because if Mannu ever would have crossed the line Strictly or politely in both ways it was within the rights of JaGan to correct him Same is not the case here and the child is misunderstanding this bit Nothing more

Ganga is a loving mother She has seen the feelings developing in Abhi's heart thats why she is behaving like this not that she wishes to ignore her children errors as same Ganga in the past even ticked off baby Mannu when he did some mistake Ganga is not ignorant to Abhi's mistakes
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Posted: 10 years ago
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When did mannu cross the line? I dont remember.

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