Is Dadisa totally at fault for playing cupid?

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tellygeek

@tellygeek

Voyager

Posted: 10 years ago

This thought baffles me, hence created a post to share views.

Regarding marriages, I agree that Dadisa is keen to see every single young lady of her family married. But deep down the ladies/men knew that Dadisa had a valid point and hence eventually gave in to her. Dadisa strongly believes in the institution of marriage and makes her point clear, but why is no body correcting her ? She might be playing cupid as an old practice for Anandi, Jagya, Gehna etc, so they could find like minded life partners easily. She has honest intentions. Whether they would want to go ahead with it or not, is their personal decision. Anandi agreed for re-marriage only for her dead mother's sake. Even Jagya agreed to marry Sanchi only for Anandi's happiness.

But, I simply don't understand the reason for Gehna agreeing to this marriage. Gehna could have stuck to her guns and simply refused to budge. Just a day ago she was all tears for her dead hubby, and things changed the very next day. When one is deeply pained due to a broken relationship or demise of one's life partner, it takes time to heal.

The point I am driving is Dadisa is only trying to make people happy, playing cupid is also not a joke.

Edited by tellygeek - 10 years ago

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Missesha

@Missesha

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Posted: 10 years ago

Dadisa has the most noble intentions at heart. She is also a firm believer that 'marriage' is the ultimate aim of life for everyone.

In her days, she strongly believed that once a woman is a widow she cannot re-marry, but being a widow a woman must follow all rituals forever i.e. a woman must stay connected to the marital aspect of her life whether as suhagaan or as vidhva.

The concept of living an independent life is not Dsa's ideology of happiness. The fact that she made an independent living for herself and her sons is also because she was practicing widowhood and needed means to survive. Not because that was her idea of happiness.

With time she progressed, and now believes in a woman's happiness is through re-marriage if things went wrong for the first time. She does not think of things like partners' compatibility, an individual's choice, idea of remaining a career-oriented single woman or just following widowhood due to lack of interest in another man.

Hence she plays cupid and is trying to 'give' happiness to her family members by forcing / suggesting them to get married.

May be its time for one more change for DS and an opportunity to progress to the next level.

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DrMCallgari

@DrMCallgari

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Posted: 10 years ago

Personally i don't mind Dadisaa 's desire to get her children married Having a life partner is a blessing She is too guilty of her misdeeds Her wrong decisions with every one 's lives are also a burden on her Anandi Jagya Gehna Sugna all these are victims of Dadisaa's wrong decisions so she wanted to correct her misdeeds too and give them a life which they would be having in case she would not have forced her wrong decisions on their heads but her ways are always wrong Her intentions her own interests thats why she forces them She leaves no option for them they have to agree Why she never thinks by forcing if marriage did not work but fall apart then what will happen ?She is always greedy for her own personal interests and prefers them over others emotional state and happiness

She used Anandi's dying mother to force her to marry Shiv Shiv was a very patient and loving partner ,he loved Anandi but Dadisaa never thought since Anandi is not ready to marry on her wish what if marriage fallen apart ?

Jagya She was totally selfish here Did she bother about his happiness ? I must say No More than being concerned for his happiness she was concerned about having great grandchild to take Bhairon generations ahead There is a scene where she is thinking about this When Jagya refused Bhairon made her understand to give him time but she did not listen Even when Jagya agreed after being bullied by Anandi he did come to DS with his fears and insecurities clearly saying he is not ready but she did not pay attention There was no point in bullying him to agree to marry Sanchi bringing Anandi ka sasra Its his life why he should take his decisions thinking how it will impact Anandi ?and the truth is DS herself never happy with Sanchi She knew she is not right mate for Jagya They both are no match but still she was planning plotting so it can happen

Here in Gehna's case she bullied her taking Basant's name ? Peace to his soul ?

Why she does not let the marriage be the personal decision of the person? Each time using such tricks to hit at the weakest possible spots of persons so they grow weak and she takes advantage of that This is completely selfish

and cvs never show anyone teaching her lesson too When she was after Jagya Bhairon said to her we need to be patient but she said the way we made Anandi agree we will make him to agree too How he won't agree ? i thought Anandi will make her understand how much difficult it was for her when she forced her but no Anandi followed her footsteps and herself ended up bullying Jagya Now when she started this Gehna's marriage drama i thought Jagya might will make her understand when he was forced how much painful it was for him but no cvs did not show that either and we are heading to another marriage with bullying from Dsa and what cvs to prove through it ? Frankly these forced marriages are not never entertaining leave giving social message It makes a person angry

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Missesha

@Missesha

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Posted: 10 years ago

Coming to why Gehna agreed - it's not convincing.

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BeautyBabe

@BeautyBabe

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Posted: 10 years ago

Dadisaa is not at fault for playing cupid but she is at fault for the emotional pressure she puts on a person to get married Honestly her intentions deep down her heart can be true to give her children the happiness but her ways only show her own selfishness to lessen the burden of guilt on her soul and like in Jagya s case she was greedy for great grandchild as well

Coming to Gehna yes her reason to agree is not convincing I think she could put the foot down but she did not which i did not like and come on cvs high time to teach DS this lesson marriage should be individual choice of the person and when he /she is ready Anandi was lucky to get Shiv Jagya was lucky to get Ganga and his life did not doom with Sanchi that does not mean DS ways were for correct This important lesson should be taught to her

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 10 years ago

Dadisa is not at fault when she wanted to see Anandi married or Jagya married or now for wanting Gehna to be married again.

If she found someone suitable tries match making with that person also there is nothing wrong in it like creating opportunities so that they will end up with each other get to know each other and finally end up together.In fact that is something very nice.

But the fact is that she goes beyond all this and uses their emotions and forces them to do what she wants them to do and that is what is not acceptable.

Anandi - Shiv the beginning was nice where she created situations where they could meet and it was cute sweet and thoughtful too. But it didn't end there she proposed to Shiv on Anandi's behalf without even telling her that she is thinking of getting her remarried. When she didn't agree she used Anandi's mother who is heartbroken over the fate of her daughter's life and guilt ridden to blackmail Anandi into marrying Shiv. Which was so not acceptable at all.

Even for Jagya she wanted a partner.She felt he was lonely and she wanted him to have a companion.Her reasons for wanting Jagya married is because of the Anand that has gone out of his life not just because she wanted padpota.Again here she used Anandi to get Jagya to agree for a marriage. Anandi was forced into marriage with Shiv and at that time she was high on her newly discovered love for Shiv.😛😆So Anandi thought what worked for her would work with J too.He wil find happiness just like she did.😛😆Jagya agreed because he was already unsure of himself and what he wants in life and on top of it his guilt feelings towards his family and Anandi made him weak enough to give in.

Now Gehna - After Basant died she made Gehna incharge of business then Niranjan appeared from no where and this plan got hatched in her mind that Niranjan is the guy for Gehna because she was very much aware of the past and how they shared good rapport etc. Here she created situations for them to interact with each other and to made sure that Nandu also interacted with Niranjan.

Here she used Basant's feelings for Gehna and Nandu's growing proximity with Niranjan to force Gehna into agreeing for marriage.

All three scenarios she used same plan manipulated their emotions and made them to agree for marriage which is what is not acceptable.

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Dsa ended up as independent woman because she had no choice widow remarriage was unthinkable for her and she ended up alone managed alone in life.So she knows what it is to be without a partner and for her leading a life with a partner is an ideal way of life and she tries to find partners for every body.

Her intentions are not wrong but her methods are wrong.

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 10 years ago

Gehna;s reasons for agreeing for marriage are simply not convincing jusy like her reasons for rejecting it in the beginning were equally unconvincing

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DrMCallgari

@DrMCallgari

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Posted: 10 years ago

If Jagya was guilty of his mistakes everyone including Anandi took good advantage of that to force their views on him not listening to him ?If he says firmly They started crying you are hurting us because this what Anandi did when he firmly said no to her I can do anything for my family but cannot marry Jagya very clearly said i don't want to marry but Anandi was pretty clever to punch his guilt and make him weak by saying you did this with me in the past now again because of you i will carry a heavy heart all my life You are selfish only think about yourself not about family you did not change even now Her arguments were even worst than Dadisaa At least Dadisaa did not declare Gehna or Anandi bad if they did not want to marry like Anandi pounced on Jagya when he said no She started blame game calling he is doing injustice with his family if he is not marrying ?If she was flying with her newly found love for Shiv This was highly wrong from her and her own husband made her understand someday he might desire to marry himself the day he found some match for him

Jagya was unsure about what he wanted in life that time? In my view no body let him lead his life the way he wanted Both Bhairon and Shiv made DS and Anandi understand to give him time but no one did He takes one decision bash him no do what we want We are right you are wrong Singhs never really helped their emotionally shattered son to gain confidence in him back They made sure they criticize him for everything he does or says because they were too over confident they have always been right( no matter it is completely untrue )and according to them he will always be wrong no matter he was right there Glad he put his foot down later and married Ganga it did make huge drama later but he was not responsible for their problems They paid the price of their wrong acts Thankfully he did not follow Anandi and DS later otherwise would be destroyed by now after marrying Sanchi i don't want Gehna to suffer but if this Gehna Niranjan marriage fails it will be good lesson to DS

Edited by jermey1 - 10 years ago

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