The relationship that Anandi and DS share is much different to what DS and J share, despite J being her grandson.
They are not comparable wrt the depth involved.DS has been with A at a time that was taxing to both of them. At that point of time, they both were cheated by the same person. DS got a jolt on her blind love for her grandson, and Anandi on her love for husband.Their bond had been forged on that aspect, in the saddest of times, they have become support to each other in their personal battles.J had never been a witness to any of this.Though he is a ladesar to DS, he had never been more than a grandson to her, uptill now.It is very natural, that DS sees her own strength and chavi in Anandi...that cannot be complained, nor her dependence on Anandi can be questioned.Just as DS sees Anandi, the same emotional bonding is reflected by Anandi towards DS too.Seeing DS now in such a fragile state, hearing such news about her, is bound to shatter her to the core...Anandis reaction to DS's situation can neither be considered as uncalled for nor OTT.She can neither be contrived as a bad mother or wife, if she had to run to her side in a situation such as this.We should not ignore the fact that DS had been jailed on the offense of a murder, whatever may be the final outcome, on the face value of it, it is a crime which cannot be undermined by any one...and imagining your most loved one in such desperate situation, can shatter any one to the core.