I have many feelings about ganga - Page 5

Originally posted by: sectoreight

I feel differently. I think that Manu will grow up to be a wonderfully empathetic human being.

He will learn that grief, disappointment, unhappiness are all normal facets of life, and that everything is not coated with jam and sugar on it. Interactions with ganga will give him wonderful skills he needs for his future training for his life.

It seems very constricting to plaster on a happy face sticker all the time in front of kids and let them think that life is just one big la-la land.

The only thing that ganga needs to be careful about is that she doesn't take out her frustrations from other causes on to him by saying "oh you are a burden, I have to do all this because of you" or something like that.

But just crying herself does not make her a candidate for inducing depression into her child.

I fully agree with you

Gehna screaming was natural and nothing hyper about it. I have seen this type of behaviour in many mothers. They become protective about the helpless infant.They become too strict with the supposedly elder one.
I have come across sibling rivalry which is worrisome. One 6 year old tried to strangle his infant brother and the timely intervention saved the baby from certain death.
One girl used to be all sweet in front of her parents and once she is alone with the baby, she used to manhandle the baby until someone discovered .

But nandu loves his sister and gehna will understand. If mannu was there, he would have been blamed by sumitra if the baby cried in his presence. thank god that mannu is far away.

Originally posted by: sectoreight

Gehna scared me last night. All nandu did was drop the rattle a bit to the side of her head. and that too by accident. For that, there was such a big song and dance from her. 😲

It would be one thing if he dropped something really small into her throat and choked her, or if he deliberately stuck his fingers into her nostrils and she couldn't breathe... but the reaction of gehna for just dropping a rattle was OTT.

One of my kids would always climb onto the other kid who was just a baby and put her hand right on to his heart and I would scream because I thought the baby would stop breathing or have a heart attack... but sheez, for nandu's behaviour, she seemed really insane to me.

That is the starting point of sibling rivalry. Over protective mother,s attitude-- is the main cause of this ...hurt feeling...but in most cases it is[ the action and reaction ]quite natural for the mother and as well as the child too

@ Leaves: Calling Ganga 'servant-like' may not be right because G had to show her gratitude in some way for staying in haveli and she did show that by working hard in the kitchen and helping out.

However I agree that G lacks the spirit / attitude that Gehna or Anandi had when they were struggling with their lives i.e. when Gehna rebelled against Ds for her rights, or while A made someone worthwhile of herself enough that even a guy like Shiv fell for her.

For G every difficulty of her was solved by Singhs. She really didn't thave to do much for herself. They got her Mannu, they got her free from RAT & they even sent her to Mangalore for her studies to upgrade her life. They have done enough for her. Now it's time that G takes the driver's seat and drive her life instead of crying for J or Singhs.

Even if she loves J she needs to make herself suitable enough to equate J's mentality & level. For that she atleast needs a good education & self-confidence so that she can fit both in J & his family's life. This can only come when she focuses on her studies & makes someone out of herself.

G has always been pushed by J for her betterment, but she herself hasn't spared much thoughts on how she is going to live her dreams. If one does not have the right attitude to grow & develop themselves they cannot earn the respect they expect from others. Gaining sympathy is easier than gaining respect.

I only hope going further CVs show G taking charge of her life & earn that respect enough to be looked upon as suitable DIL / bride of Singhs & J

Originally posted by: Missesha

@ Leaves: Calling Ganga 'servant-like' may not be right because G had to show her gratitude in some way for staying in haveli and she did show that by working hard in the kitchen and helping out.

However I agree that G lacks the spirit / attitude that Gehna or Anandi had when they were struggling with their lives i.e. when Gehna rebelled against Ds for her rights, or while A made someone worthwhile of herself enough that even a guy like Shiv fell for her.

For G every difficulty of her was solved by Singhs. She really didn't thave to do much for herself. They got her Mannu, they got her free from RAT & they even sent her to Mangalore for her studies to upgrade her life. They have done enough for her. Now it's time that G takes the driver's seat and drive her life instead of crying for J or Singhs.

Even if she loves J she needs to make herself suitable enough to equate J's mentality & level. For that she atleast needs a good education & self-confidence so that she can fit both in J & his family's life. This can only come when she focuses on her studies & makes someone out of herself.

G has always been pushed by J for her betterment, but she herself hasn't spared much thoughts on how she is going to live her dreams. If one does not have the right attitude to grow & develop themselves they cannot earn the respect they expect from others. Gaining sympathy is easier than gaining respect.

I only hope going further CVs show G taking charge of her life & earn that respect enough to be looked upon as suitable DIL / bride of Singhs & J

Well said, Misseha. ganga herself was content to be at the singhs and it is Jagya who pushed her into a career.

Originally posted by: Missesha

Even if she loves J she needs to make herself suitable enough to equate J's mentality & level. For that she atleast needs a good education & self-confidence so that she can fit both in J & his family's life. This can only come when she focuses on her studies & makes someone out of herself.

I don't think this is true at all. Love does not know pre-conditions of focusing on studies and making someone out of herself.

The thing I like most about the Jagya Ganga relationship is that Jagya has been solely driving it from the start, from the moment he laid eyes upon her.

He has said it loud and clear she is his personal responsibility. Saanchi, his mom's tirades against Ganga, and all these unfavorable situations and circumstances will just melt away, his dedication and attachment to her are that strong.

Originally posted by: morningdew

The thing I like most about the Jagya Ganga relationship is that Jagya has been solely driving it from the start, from the moment he laid eyes upon her.

He has said it loud and clear she is his personal responsibility. Saanchi, his mom's tirades against Ganga, and all these unfavorable situations and circumstances will just melt away, his dedication and attachment to her are that strong.

Jagya reinvented himself. And he is maintaining such a relationship with no romantic overtones. It is strictly business for him. While his bonding with mannu has emotional overtones.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Well said, Misseha. ganga herself was content to be at the singhs and it is Jagya who pushed her into a career.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Jagya reinvented himself. And he is maintaining such a relationship with no romantic overtones. It is strictly business for him. While his bonding with mannu has emotional overtones.

More than business, I will call it humanity. And yes, he wanted to atone and redeem. That need is strongest.