TM - Thanks for the topic.
It is true that Gauri was no angel.
When she fell in love with Jagya she did not about his truth.She just thought she has fallen in love with her classmate which happens all the time in medical colleges.
She made her first mistake by marrying Jagya despite knowing that he is a married man and that too he along with his parents rejected her in childhood.She thought their love for each other will overcome the feeling of being rejected in childhood by him and his family.But unfortunately it did not happen.The family rejected her all over again and Jagya could never convince her that he loved her.
How could he convince her that he loved her when in fact he never loved her he only saw her as a better option than the wife he had left behind and to justify his actions he always compared her with Anandi just like he compared Gauri with Anandi before he left Anandi.He compared with her and found her wanting in every aspect and that was enough to fuel her insecurity.
And to make things worse all her achievement she was proud of like getting good education and a career because of that was infact facilitated by the same family who treated her like an unwanted trash who they couldn't wait to get rid of.A child may not understand that she was being rejected and being packed off for her own good..Was it her fault that she found herself to be married off into a family that did not want her when she was a child?
The second mistake she did when she found out that she was being funded by BS she should have tried to pay back the money by some way or other at least that gesture would have been good enough.
Her third mistake was the way she treated Anandi.She was fuelled by her insecurity and instead of taking out on her husband who is responsible for that she took it out on Anandi.
As for Jagya he did a lot of things that he shouldn't do before his marriage with Gauri and after his marriage as well.
Before marrige he lied to her for five years about his status.He kept her hanging when finally an alliance came for her he declared that he loved her and wanted to marry her and made her say no to that.
He told her the truth only when it came out and then he blackmailed her into marrying him.
Even after marriage he continued to cling on to Anandi in one way or other.If he had any self respect he would have said no to the financial help arranged through Anandi by his father.What kind of a man takes the help of his ex wife to support him and his current wife?Not just that he was too tired to drop his wife off at work but always found energy and time to chat with his abandoned wife over the phone even if the abandoned wife had no interest in chatting with him.
Did Gauri tell him to cut off ties with his family?He did that on his own.He rejected everything their parents stood for when he decided to make a life for himself in Mumbai.
Well it was Gauri's idea to get share of property in exchange for divorce.What ever happened to his brain?
Why did he expect Anandi to sit in one dark corner and cry while signing on the papers?Why did he get drunk after signing those papers?What kind of a man gets so upset and gets drunk after signing divorce papers?Only a man who wants to hang on to his wife will react this way.How right was it on his part to behave that way that too when he is in a relationship with Gauri?
If Jagya's actions were considered as part of his immaturity so are Gauri's actions. After all Gauri was much younger than Jagya and Anandi.
As far as their behaviour towards each other is concerned they are part and parcel of every marriage.He felt insecure and inferior when Gauri was doing much better professionally because of her abilities and Gauri was immature in handling his insecurity and inferiority complex.
He found that his wife insulted his parents and justifiably he got angry with her but that is no reason for his walking out on a marriage and wanting to walk back into Anandi's arms and wreak havoc in her life just because he refused to take him back.
Jagya may be sincerly trying to turnover a new leaf today but that in no way wipes out all the things that he did.It does not alter the fact that he walked out on two relationships without giving a proper closure.Whether he gets back with Gauri or not he does owe her a proper closure of their relationship.He told Anandi over the phone that it is all over and now he is telling Gauri that it is all over by leaving a letter for her.He thought he could end relationship by walking out on the women when they were not pleasing him anymore and thought he could resume the relationship by bulldozing his way into their lives with no regards are what so ever for the feelings of the concerned woman.
So whether they resume their relationship or not it is important that Gauri returns.The decision to resume the relationship or give it a closure should be mutual.
Also it is very easy to stay good when the going is good.The true test to see whether his goodness can withstand the negativity that Gauri brings along with her or not.
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