Anandi, please mind your own business !

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angelic8219

@angelic8219

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Posted: 12 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: Shinya

He wanted to say no to this rishta. But he thought of anandi. He thought his decision might create problems in her life. ...

Basically this mess is due to miscommunication and misunderstanding. And anandi is responsible for it because she remained silent when she should have informed Singhs about this rishta. Why could she not make a call and tell Sumi how she felt about it?

It not like everyone doesn't know what sanchi is like. The shekkars shouldn't have put the pressure on infact they should have just gone straight to jagya and asked him what he thought about sanchi and then jagya would have told them, there was no need for the whole marriage talk the shekkars would have understood that jagya doesn't see sanchi in that way and ended it there and then. Saying yes because anandi didn't say anything and assuming he has to because it will effect anandi just doesn't wash with me as if the rishta don't work then if will be even worse. There's no need to get into the whole marriage thing to make sure anandi stays happy at the shekkars as that never works if one couple is unhappy it put pressure on the other couple and this is the reason why two members of the same family shouldn't marry two members of the other family .

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sectoreight

@sectoreight

Inactive

Posted: 12 years ago

#42

Hi, this is a great thread. I haven't read all the responses yet, intend to savour it later at night with a delicious glass of mocha milk 😆

My views on the topic of the original poster is that in itself, Anandi did indeed intend to mind her business -- partly because Ira and she had problems, and partly because Sanchi had already told her father clearly not to interfere.

However, listening to saanchi talk on the phone set off alarm bells ringing because it was clear that Saanchi was two-faced and trying to present the singhs with a false impression of who she is and what kind of bahu she will be after marriage.

I don't think anandi would have had any issues if saanchi had just worn her sleeveless tank tops and jeans in front of the singhs (instead of dressing in lehengas to impress them in front of them and criticizing the dress as gawar behind their back)... or if saanchi had just declared that she had no interest in kitchen work, instead of pretending to be very interested in cooking and cleaning etc. etc. etc.

Anandi is worried that the haveli folk are being taken for a ride because of saanchi's two facedness.

If saanchi were just being herself, and the singhs had appreciated and accepted her for who she really was, (her clothes, her lack of interest in ghar grihasthi etc.) then I doubt anandi would have said anything. But she feels that the singhs are accepting her on the basis of a false image that saanchi is projecting, and therefore anandi feels the need to 'interfere'. I don't think anandi is wrong in this aspect. I would have done the same.

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Vidya

@Shinya

Rocker

Posted: 12 years ago

#43

Originally posted by: sectoreight
Hi, this is a great thread. I haven't read all the responses yet, intend to savour it later at night with a delicious glass of mocha milk 😆

My views on the topic of the original poster is that in itself, Anandi did indeed intend to mind her business -- partly because Ira and she had problems, and partly because Sanchi had already told her father clearly not to interfere.

However, listening to saanchi talk on the phone set off alarm bells ringing because it was clear that Saanchi was two-faced and trying to present the singhs with a false impression of who she is and what kind of bahu she will be after marriage.

I don't think anandi would have had any issues if saanchi had just worn her sleeveless tank tops and jeans in front of the singhs (instead of dressing in lehengas to impress them in front of them and criticizing the dress as gawar behind their back)... or if saanchi had just declared that she had no interest in kitchen work, instead of pretending to be very interested in cooking and cleaning etc. etc. etc.

Anandi is worried that the haveli folk are being taken for a ride because of saanchi's two facedness.

If saanchi were just being herself, and the singhs had appreciated and accepted her for who she really was, (her clothes, her lack of interest in ghar grihasthi etc.) then I doubt anandi would have said anything. But she feels that the singhs are accepting her on the basis of a false image that saanchi is projecting, and therefore anandi feels the need to 'interfere'. I don't think anandi is wrong in this aspect. I would have done the same.

in that case, anandi is also double-faced because when she put forward the proposition that "this rishta must end", she lied that she was doing it for Sanchi's happiness (this was shown in precap) when in reality she did it to save Singhs from her.

Sanchi's love is more of infatuation kind than real love. If Anandi had pointed this out, it was understandable. But the reasons for which she wants this rishta to end appear to be out of selfishness.

She says it again and again that this rishta will create problems amongst both families. How can it create problems ?

She first imagines that Sanchi will not be able to adjust with jagya and singhs.
Then she imagines that this might result in another divorce, which might further become a problem between the Singhs and Shekhars.
And if this happens, she will not be able to visit her favourite myka... This is her real problem.

It is all her imagination. There is no concrete evidence to say that is exactly what is going to happen.

Secondly, she cant forget all the games dadisa played and all the manipulation she did to get Anandi married to Shiv... She thanks dadisa for the lies she told to get her married to Shiv, but now she wants Sanchi's rishta to break... I find this total hypocrisy.

Anandi must first see how her own marriage with Shiv was fixed !

Edited by Shinya - 12 years ago

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angel3

@angel3

Voyager

Posted: 12 years ago

#44

sanchi is such a fake i dont think what anandi is doing is wrong at all she knows both sanchi n singh's very well

sanchi did wrong firstly by impressing the singh's with her fake pretense

of being very caring or concerned towards singhs which she is not she is only concerned about J that too only bcoz she wants him in her life

then if sanchi was so original y she wored lehenga to impress the singhs as nobody becomes good by just wearing lehenga

anandi didn't change her attire to impress the shekhar's coz she was liked by her good qualities n shiv too didn't go on her attire but her qualities, but sanchi who says something else in front of the singh's and the shekhar's and something else in front of her friends how can anandi choose a girl someone like sanchi for J n the singh family whom she is so much close and attached to

and of course if after marriage sanchi shows her true colors wont there''ll be differences not only between S-J but even between the two families also n may b even between shiv-anandi

so just to avoid the future problems (which r likely to happen if J marries S) what anandi is doing is not at all wrong