I had never, and neither would in future hold any negative feelings for any divorcee unless i know his/her history...even then why should i keep negative feelings for the person if he/she is not affecting my life.
But i will be consicious and know full facts about the person if i am or any of my close relation is getting involved with that divorcee...you cannot trust someone so easily in such world...remember that divorcee girl who came for Jagya's proposal...how her family was even though they told that it was groom's fault for the divorce.
I sometimes feel bad when people specially women taunt any other woman for being widow or divorcee...in Dor(film) an old lady said very apt dialouge to other lady(the saas) who was stopping her widow DIL from stepping out of kothari she said ''ye mat bholo ki kabhi tum bhi iss chaukhat par khadi hogi''...one should never taunt or make fun of other's situation because one may never know but God forbid even they may find themselves in same situation in future.
sometimes i feel that if an girl or boy is not happy and is not able to adjust with their spouses then divorce can be taken and should be...i have an example in my family...a boy married a girl in of his parent's choice but later on girl turned out to be wrong...she was moody and took care of nothing...half the time she was roaming here and there and once she left house when her MIL was seriously ill...basically someone like Saanchi...later on she left house in anger and after few months she returned back...everyone feels it's a good thing but i feel that even if such marriages work there has to be so much compromise in it and that too from one side only...one can clearly see that boy and girl are of no match and yet they have made them work out their marriage...divorce is not an easy thing for anyone but if a relation makes u suffocate rather than share your life's joy and sadness then what's the use of such marriage. Small issues happen everywhere but if they same thing happens continously and makes one's life stressful than what the use.
I would mostly avoid any rishta like Anandi's because:-
She was not ready herself
She was so attached to her ex-husband and his family that she was ready to do anything (taking care of Jagya and crying for him in front of present husband)
sorry i am very average human and have not got patience like Shiv to handle such drama specially for my spouse's ex.
Anandi is a very good girl and apt choice for being wife or DIL but what she did before marriage was not something i will ever support...i will literally get insecure in relation with such confusing signals
i will have to think a lot before accepting for a relation like Jagya...most probably no because i doubt i will be able to have faith in that person after knowing his past.
Edited by libsrocks - 12 years ago
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