ANANDI...me too wanna say... - Page 3

Originally posted by: chumki...

A MICROMINI THANKS..👍🏼...YADAVJI...TO ...LISTEN TO US...i m d happist persone today...u might wondering why i m saying this?? let me explain...i m happy the dialoug ira said to ANANDI...i know i know u people r wondering is me anandi ki galati kya hai...but remember guy's sometime we get punised without any fault and we keep wondering what we have done? but the punisment may not be for that particular incident..may what we done before we have to suffer for that...and exactly anandi is going through this don't forget how she behave with shiv before marriage, how she deprived shiv in d name of her so called "darr"..it was shiv who was more then suppotive to her rather then anandi to shiv...and i m 1000% sure with this diolouge..yadavji is planing to grounded now anandi and later sanchi..coz when sanchi'll be back to KB ad ira will come up this issue again.the daddu will tell ira what exactly sanchi did...and then ira will realise that her daughter misusuing the liberty they have given...so ira will also be grounded...that is why yadavji created that scene when before going to social sanchi came infront of anandi and daddu..and showed them what she was wearing...
and now ira anandi convo...i know the reason might be wrong...but what she said to anandi that is not wrong at all.we all here shouting from d roof top why she is in haveli? whe she didn't use her brain when it's d question of haveli...i agreed she stayed in haveli coz "shiv" told her...but as a bahu why didn't she told shiv...that mom is not at KB...i have the responsibilty and i don't want sanchi to stay here...agar shiv se woh yeh kehti.shiv will definetly listen to her.she can told shiv that sanchi shd go with her friends...she can told shiv that jagia ko udaipur ghoomane ki zaroorat nahi hai...then what now??...i told u all before also when it's d question of love towards shiv it's only dialouge and the action only be seen when it's about haveli or jagia...
AND yes what she has done to shiv in kashmir...any wife will do that.she didn't do any favour to shiv... but don't worry who is today hurt by ira's word...this will all come infront of ira when she will start blaming anandi infront of everybody in KB when they will return from BH...which make her realise that she and her daughter is a total failaure as human, as a MIL and as a SIL..but the line ira told anandi today...i also wanna tell her infact we all r telling her...".plz plz plz...apni is family pe, shiv pe zara dhayan do anandi"

hey chumki, nice topic from you after a long time.

I don tthink Ira was wrong. She did not blame anandi but only pointed out that anandi is so engrossed in her 'parivar' that she has no time for shekhars. Is this not the truth?

As anandi is her daughter-in-law, she expected her to phone her and inform about the incident.. But anandi failed in her duty, is what she was trying to point out to her.

I think what i am going to write is almost written by many of you here, but still i am feeling so 😡 today that i want to write . i donot agree that it was Anandi's fault in any way. It was complete nonsense from Ira's end. agreed she was angry that no one told her and her family should have. but to blame everything on Shiv and anandi was very wrong.

what is Shiv going to do if sunny and his friends get released due to any xyz reasons? how can she say that main kabhi maaf nahi karungi? i mean agreed Shiv is a collector but he doesnt have law in his hand.

and what she said to anandi..everything was crap. how can she talk like this without knowing anything.
First Anandi was responsible to take care of everyone and specially her doll. and anandi doesnt like Sanchi. Come on Ira very well knows that sanchi hates anandi and she herself has tried to put sense in her daughter. but since Urmi devi fiasco she has just started finding everything wrong in anandi. like mother like daughter fits really well, they both dont think even once before speaking. where has that old Ira gone?
Second Sanchi is not a baby or school girl that needs to be taken care of. and when Sanchi doesnt pay heed to her own family, why will she listen to anandi, whom she anyways hates. and anandi did her duty by pointing to sanchi about her dress. now she lied and went its no one's fault but Sanchi.
Third anandi did go to comfort sanchi after the incident, but what sanchi did to her? anandi actually tried to fulfill her duties very well. she even told Sanchi that since Ira is not here it is her responsibility to take care of Sanchi. the way sanchi treats her, anandi is bearing way too much than she should.
fourth - agreed her utensil falling reaction on Jagya's news was OTT and i was miffed at that point. but then later when she didnt cry to go to Jaitser and neither wanted to stay there i think i can let that go. Shiv and daddu coaxed her to go and Shiv forced her to stay there. she never wanted to.
fifth she wants to go back to Udaipur asap, and this she told sanchi before Ira's call. so it is not that she is going because of ira's nonsense. and that is the reason she went to lal singh as well to get J discharged so that sanchi agrees to leave. for anandi jagya is no more than a member of singh family, they dont even share a proper relation of friend as anandi know J's feelings for her and since then she has maintained a safe distance from him. and even if tomorrow they do become friends i think there is nothing wrong in it.

Anandi is doing everything and also putting up with sanch iand ira's nonsense because she loves Shiv dearly. and she will never want to hurt him or create any tiff between hi mand his family, specially when the issue is related to her. she has always been very tolerant when it comes to her own people, in front of outsiders she is a tigeress, but with her own people she is always very very patient. she is taking all efforts to better her bond with sanchi and she was equally worried when Ira was angry with her and she did try to pacify ira and even asked for forgiveness.

i agree that anandi's relation with shekhars is not same as she has with singhs, but it has improved a lot. BH is her mayka in every sense, she has practically grown there...how can you expect her to have the same relation with her in- laws in few months? why is it always expected from a girl t oadjust? she already has left her home to go to a new home with her husband. i think it should be the in-laws who should adjust first. MIL should be a mother to her DIL and SIL a sister. till you make your bahu comfortable and your own how can you expect it from her. she is new to everything, away from her family, already trying to adjust and please everyone around. anandi was a bit aloof in the start, but with all the love she got from shekhar's she did start to be their own (inspite of sanchi's tantrums) and specially we could see it more after her confession to Shiv.

today she is trying to balance it out between her two families, and we do see her caring for singh's as well because Shiv does it first. he is a perfect SonInLaw who takes care of Singh's as a son. and hence we see anandi more associated with BH matters. but still she is now learning to draw a line and set her priorities very well. she loves Shiv (agreed she is not very vocal or expressive about it, but sometimes i feel that is also because when she tried to do it with J she was always ridiculed) and now she has started to open up in front of him .her dialogue about missing her on the phone does say that, she was shy but still she did say. earlier she used to just listen from Shiv and smile or shy away but never reciprocate. and partly it is CVs as well, who just love to not give us good anSh scenes lately.

ufff i think i have written quite a lot!! the longest post i have ever made till date and that too defending anandi whon i do love and adore, but a little bit less than my Shiv 😆😆😆

Originally posted by: surabhi01

anandi is not at all fault here so there is no question of anandi getting punishment .ira is at totally fault blindly supporting her daughter .instead of scolding anandi why do not ira scold her daughter

Originally posted by: aparnauma

People seemed to conveniently forget the fact that Anandi did question Sanchi's choice of dress.I think there were posts about that too.Saying why she is bothering herself with Sanchi when all Sanchi wanted was to be left alone.

Even after the incideny when she went to check on Sanchi she was totally rebuffed by her.Then also people blamed Anandi for going after Sanchi for showing her unwanted concern.

When they heard news about Jagya and reached there and found Sanchi there her concern for Sanchi was very much the same for her concern for Jagya.

Care and concern for sasural wale comes with time.In the initial days of marriage she has not even accepted her marriage in real terms and it was Shiv's duty to help her settle in married life so that they can have happy marriage.That's what Shiv did like a sensible human being he was just working on his marriage by giving her time.How can that be called as sacrifice or something extraordinary?

When she came to KB after Shiv was shifted Udaipur she has already accepted Shiv as her husband and thought only of Shekhars and their well being and thought of ways to make them happy and she put up with Sanchi because she is part of the family.

Even before her marriage she put up with CM's nastiness all because she was part of Shiv's family.

So when did she not show concern to Shiv's family?

As for love and affection for Shekhars it will come with time.

The relationship with Singh family and the bond she shares with them was because of years of togetherness and she just started her life with Shekhars and why is she expected them to love them just like she loves Shinghs.Why doesn't anyone say that Shekhars also should strt loving her from day one?

Is it only the duty of bahu to love and care for Sasural wale?Don't they have to do anything to earn the love devotion of daughter in law?

In comparision to Singhs what did Shekhar family do to her other than giving birth to Shivraj Shekhar?Is that alone enough to beelgible for undyling love and devotion from Anandi?

Which newly married woman starts caring for her husband 's family just like she cares for her parents from day one?Why should Anandi be any different from other newly married women in that respect?

Originally posted by: SPuja

@bold, where is Anandi's concern for her parents? She cares about her ex-sasra. She conveniently forgot about her own father who is all alone. Perhaps her father does not know that she shifted to Udaipur. Anandi is completely different from other women in this aspect.