Wonderful post Tina,
I too felt Shiv was exactly to the point and very appropriate with everyone.
He put his point very accurately.
If you give respect , you will gain respect. Ira knows her son loves Ajee, She has seen her since past 6 months. She has agreed for the marriage and now when you came to know this everything has changed?
This is the main wound of Anandi . She has lost her confidence that she can be a good wife, When she just started gaining confidence Ira has rubbed salt on her wound big time. Shiv knows this may compel Anandi to put herself in cocoon again.
I understand she is angry, She could have asked differently, but saying so demeaning words Ira proved that being educated also she cant keep her dignity.
She has not given scope to her DIL to say anything instead trusted an outsider.
Last time when she made their private life public shiv made her understand very maturely but this time she insulted Anandi like anything.
So I think this was very much needed. And I am sure Shiv will manao his mom. He is that kind of person