The CLASS of Shekhars and Shiv

I must say with every episode the contrast between classy Shekhars and ujjad pendu Singhs is coming out better.

Shekhars were offended. Ira reacted the most. But she was in her limits. Imagine if the same had happened to Jagya and Singhs? Junglee DS would've shouted her lungs out! And Sumitra would've been making faces or cursing those who slandered her son. While Basant would've been fuming! Bhairon would have been the only one to handle it well.

Ira is justified in feeling bad about what happened, as a doting mother. Choti Ma also acknowledged that whatever Anandi and DS did was wrong but she thought it better to keep silent and use tact than shouting or cursing!

Daddu knows it's all wrong. But he is willing to think about it, take time to put it in perspective and try to understand Kalyani.

Shiv was mature in not shouting. It was brilliant how he apologised to UD and his family.

The shameless Singhs did not have courtesy to even call or visit KB to apologise for their action. They did not apologise to UD either. Rather they defended their manipulative matriarch!

It's poor Shiv who is folding his hands and apologising for Kalyani's action! Adarsh damaad! Singhs may have failed in their duty as in laws. But Shiv is ideal. He apologised for their blunder. He stood up for his wife. Kamaal aadmi hai! 👏

Singhs are lucky that those junglees got a man like Shiv as SIL!

Shekhars were impeccably mature and classy in handling this situation.

Ira is angry. But never resorted to using the kind of language that DS would have used in such situation. She is conveying her concerns and insecurities to Alok so well. Mothers do feel possessive towards their sons and feel bad when sons outright disagree with them and only favour their wives even in case of wrong committed.
It is natural.

Still Ira did not behave like an outright b***h.

Shiv could have avoided all this by telling truth to his family earlier or letting Anandi talk about it to them.

But I applaud Shekhars for being so balanced. They did not bark at UD. Shiv apologised to her too.

Shiv instructed Sanchi to behave. But it's nice that at least now rest of the Shekhars did not pounce on her.

They are thinking, discussing and willing to listen. They admit their confusion yet keep an open mind to all views.

Great maturity and sensitivity! Most importantly they are truly humane!

I applaud BV CVs for showing such a family. The Shekhars are human in truest sense. At least they don't behave junglee and then claim we're human the way Singhs do.

I hope Singhs have shame to themselves take initiative and talk out plus apologise to Shekhars for fiasco DS did.

Well said...shekars behaved according to their characters. They did not create a big hangama on this matter like singhs.

you are right about comparision about Shekhars and Singhs...if same would have happened in Badi haveli there would have been a shouting match and Anandi would have been packed off back to her maika...i hope Singhs do not tell Shekkars that it was not so big issue that they are blaming them with such hard words because they better know how they would have reacted if same would ahve happened with Jagya...and Daddu needs a appalaud...the man is truly wise and mature...Shiv ek dum iss par aur Chotima par gaya hai...He was absolutely right that this situation needs to be thought about and will take time to digest so ti's better to give it a rest...Dadisa was the most immature person in Singhs haveli with most cunning brain

well said i agree with you. shekhars are a realistic and very dignified family 👏 hats off to cvs for showing this family in this way.

But Ira should not have said - to Aji she is balika vadhu and divorce blah blah in front of UD. It is very hurting.

On the surface, yes it appears that Shekhars are classier than Singhs. And they well may be too.

I must say Shiv is the complete man.
He is too good to be true.
He is the ideal man for any lady - humble, intelligent, mature, tactful, romantic, confident, manly, intellectual, sensitive, humorous, jocular, tall, gorgeous, hunky. He is also able to handle pressure and adverse situations well without losing his cool, most of the time. The list goes on...

Totally agree with you!!! only thing that i didnt like was Ira's dialogue to anandi about BV and divorcee...that i didnt expect from Ira...i wud have expected this from Singhs but not Shekhars...

We can't compare singh's and shekhars because they are from different background.To uplift shekhars its wrong to demean singhs.We can't expect the same behaviour from a literate person and an illiterate person.Shiv's daddu is from army background and your daddu being a army man thats a huge thing.And if I see ds she is not educated enough but she was able to create such a huge wealth despite of being a illiterate woman.She had faced all kinds of adversity a woman can face in her whole life but she has successfully made it all on her own.She was a bad woman and you can't expect from a bad woman to love her adopted child more than her own child.Singhs family may not be classy like shekhars but the whole family is not that bad.Look at bhairo he is very sensible and perfectly well behaved person and in my opinion it has happened only because of education.Ds was once obnoxious and orthodox to the core in her behaviour but she has changed a lot.They were sensible enough to support their DIL not their son.DS was the first person who make me feel proud when she supported anandi that should be applauded.Jagya is bhairo and sumitra's son so he was bound to redeem.

As Ira was from shekhar's clan so I expected her to use decent words when she was blaming anandi in front of everybody especially in front of UD.She could have asked UD to go and she could have said hum baad mein baat karenge on this matter or after shiv's arrival.Ira ki jagah agar sumi hoti I think she would not used such harsh words.Aur sanchi ki behaviour to kya kehne.The most immature,uneducated and battamiz insaan bhi istarha se baat nehin karti jistarha se sanchi ne behave kiya.Nandu bhi isse jyade achcha behave karta hai.So its clear that exceptions are always there.

The point is both the families and their behaviour are good at their own ways.Singhs family is the family of the male protagonist to uski family to achchi honi hi hain.If some members are not good enough then slowly slowly they turns into good persons.And shiv's family is also the family of the female protagonist to uski bhi family classy honi hi hai.Its a rule of tv serials.

@Reshmiroy & @Parri

I disagree with your thoughts on Ira's behaviour in yesterday's episode. Mothers tear apart anyone who says a word against their child. And mothers also feel hurt if their child has been hiding something from them.

Ira was hurt as a mother. She couldn't tolerate the fact that DS and slandered Shiv in such a way (DS had talked crap by bringing even Ashima in it!) just to dissuade others from considering Shiv as a prospective match. And she felt worse that Anandi did not tell her the truth.

She first asked Anandi if she knew all this or not and if she did then was it before marriage or after it. When Anandi told her she knew all this efore marriage, that is when Ira got angrier!

How's Ira supposed to know Shiv also knew it? When she reacted, she thought only Anandi and her family knew it and felt they perhaps kept even Shiv in dark and "trapped him".
So she said what she did.

Later Shiv went on and on without giving her a chance to talk. And talked rudely in front of everyone to Ira, literally giving instructions to her on how to behave.

It's natural she must've felt hurt.

How the hell is she supposed to know Shiv knew everything and Anandi was shieldng Shiv also by not telling he knew the truth?
Shiv talked of Anandi's great silence later.

Also let's see her POV too. Her son is ready to understand why DS did what she did. But he can't understand why his mother behaved the way she did? Ira was only being a protective mother!

If Ira did not behave right by talking to Anandi this way in front of everyone then even Shiv did not behave right by barking at his mom in front of everyone. Nor did DS behave correctly by doing what she did or AnSh for hiding the truth. Today Anandi and Shiv were only paying for the wrong they had done (blindly suporting DS, hiding truth and expecting nothing would come out or if it did then family would laugh it off).

Anandi is a BV and a divorcee. Ira only reminded her of who she was and it implied she could not take Shekhars for granted. Shekhars do not owe anything to Anandi or DS. They of course owe a lot to them. They should respect their sentiments instead of taking them for granted.

There is no way a pendu family like Singhs would've got a cultured and educated family like Shekhars for their kids (most of whom are second hand maal except Nandu! Sugna and Jagya are tainted. Anandi is not tainted but she is a divorcee, which is a stigma and not anyone's first preference).

Singhs and Anandi should be careful in dealing with Shekhars and give them due respect both in front of them and behind their backs! Don't think they can get away with tricks or lies and expect Shekhars to laugh off everything.

Ira's reaction was still controlled. Someone like DS would've slapped DIL and barked at son also without giving them a chance to speak and she'd have also called samdhis to bark at them on phone!

Ira has already been way more permissive than usual MILs.

It's time she also made it clear what she can tolerate and what will not be tolerated.