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After that epic length discussion on Jagya and after yesterday's episode I wonder if Ganga is also somewhere responsible for spurring Jagya to act the way he did?
Before I begin, let me clarify that I do NOT accuse her of attracting Jagya or inviting that hug towards her.
But her behaviour could be responsible for making Jagya's subconscious take her as a substitute for Anandi.
What is her and Jagya's relationship?
Does she keep herself in limits as per Indian culture and as someone who has no relation to Singhs except for one of humanity and one of being someone who was saved/helped by them?
As a yet-to-be-divorced married woman who is also mother of a kid and has left her home, staying at someone else's home as a shelter given to her for she had nowhere else to go and was vulnerable - is her behaviour in its limits?
Working at Singhs' house is fine. But speaking in their matters, offering advice even when not asked for and giving a promise to Anandi to always take care of the family - isn't it too much for a stranger?
Till now I did not mind much. When Jagya confided about his past to her, I took it as a conversation between a person suffering from guilt to a person who had been a victim of others' atrocities.
But what was Ganga doing yesterday? When J was not having tea,she told him "Yeh chai maine peene ke liye banayi thi" and later she said, "Chai achi lage toh bata dena chahiye" (or something to that effect, excuse my mistake in recalling the dialogue!).
You do not talk like that to a paraya mard as per Indian society norms and culture, do you? One keeps a distance (not just physically) and a certain respectful formality while interacting with a previously unknown person, that too of the opposite sex - and talks in limits while staying as a guest or someone who has taken shelter in someone else's house. One doesn't start talking like a friend or...I mean such kind of talks mainly happen between either close friends, lovers or a married couple or siblings (who share a bond of love, attachment and mischief).
Ganga does not call Jagya as Doctor Bhaisaab. She calls him Doctor saab.
So what is she to Jagya? How come she talks so much and in this way to him?
Are they friends? Can a man and woman just be friends? Did the act that Jagya did that day - mistaking her for his fomer wife Anandi, indicate that his subconscious takes Ganga as just a friend?
Ussey Jagya ko kuredne ka adhikar kisne diya? Kis adhikaar se kuredti hai? (By "kuredna" I wanted to convey that she spurs him to talk, break his silence and respond).
In other films and shows if a man saves a woman and keeps her & her child at his house the woman calls him bhaisaab and makes her kid call him mama or uncle.
That has not happened in BV (and we know why). Knowing that Jagya is a little weak in controlling his impulses and has had a stormy past with women in past, how come Ganga also does not keep a respectful distance from him and talks so much?
I do not say she should boycott him and look at him with suspicion forever. But there is not even a certain formality here.
Does her closeness and frank behaviour and her open mixing up with Singhs - dancing around (at Holi) with other women of the family also contribute to what she faced at hands of an intoxicated Jagya on Holi?
Was she also partly inappropriate in her behaviour according to norms of a conservative Indian village and society?
Okay, she need not call Jaggu her brother but doesn't she mix up too freely and too informally with Singhs and Jaggu?
Here also I would like to highlight a flaw in Singhs. They neither remind Ganga of her limits nor do they gently tell Jagya to avoid talking to Ganga when she and him are alone or at least maintain a certain respectful formality while interacting with her as just a well wisher and good samaritan. They treat Ganga kindly like a family member but there is a difference between being a family member and being like a family member.
Isn't it their responsibility also to regulate their relationship with her and her relationship with them? (Here "them" includes their emotionally fragile son Jagya also)
Either DS or Bhairon should have played a key and urgent role here instead they were shown clueless!
Before I begin, let me clarify that I do NOT accuse her of attracting Jagya or inviting that hug towards her.
But her behaviour could be responsible for making Jagya's subconscious take her as a substitute for Anandi.
What is her and Jagya's relationship?
Does she keep herself in limits as per Indian culture and as someone who has no relation to Singhs except for one of humanity and one of being someone who was saved/helped by them?
As a yet-to-be-divorced married woman who is also mother of a kid and has left her home, staying at someone else's home as a shelter given to her for she had nowhere else to go and was vulnerable - is her behaviour in its limits?
Working at Singhs' house is fine. But speaking in their matters, offering advice even when not asked for and giving a promise to Anandi to always take care of the family - isn't it too much for a stranger?
Till now I did not mind much. When Jagya confided about his past to her, I took it as a conversation between a person suffering from guilt to a person who had been a victim of others' atrocities.
But what was Ganga doing yesterday? When J was not having tea,she told him "Yeh chai maine peene ke liye banayi thi" and later she said, "Chai achi lage toh bata dena chahiye" (or something to that effect, excuse my mistake in recalling the dialogue!).
You do not talk like that to a paraya mard as per Indian society norms and culture, do you? One keeps a distance (not just physically) and a certain respectful formality while interacting with a previously unknown person, that too of the opposite sex - and talks in limits while staying as a guest or someone who has taken shelter in someone else's house. One doesn't start talking like a friend or...I mean such kind of talks mainly happen between either close friends, lovers or a married couple or siblings (who share a bond of love, attachment and mischief).
Ganga does not call Jagya as Doctor Bhaisaab. She calls him Doctor saab.
So what is she to Jagya? How come she talks so much and in this way to him?
Are they friends? Can a man and woman just be friends? Did the act that Jagya did that day - mistaking her for his fomer wife Anandi, indicate that his subconscious takes Ganga as just a friend?
Ussey Jagya ko kuredne ka adhikar kisne diya? Kis adhikaar se kuredti hai? (By "kuredna" I wanted to convey that she spurs him to talk, break his silence and respond).
In other films and shows if a man saves a woman and keeps her & her child at his house the woman calls him bhaisaab and makes her kid call him mama or uncle.
That has not happened in BV (and we know why). Knowing that Jagya is a little weak in controlling his impulses and has had a stormy past with women in past, how come Ganga also does not keep a respectful distance from him and talks so much?
I do not say she should boycott him and look at him with suspicion forever. But there is not even a certain formality here.
Does her closeness and frank behaviour and her open mixing up with Singhs - dancing around (at Holi) with other women of the family also contribute to what she faced at hands of an intoxicated Jagya on Holi?
Was she also partly inappropriate in her behaviour according to norms of a conservative Indian village and society?
Okay, she need not call Jaggu her brother but doesn't she mix up too freely and too informally with Singhs and Jaggu?
Here also I would like to highlight a flaw in Singhs. They neither remind Ganga of her limits nor do they gently tell Jagya to avoid talking to Ganga when she and him are alone or at least maintain a certain respectful formality while interacting with her as just a well wisher and good samaritan. They treat Ganga kindly like a family member but there is a difference between being a family member and being like a family member.
Isn't it their responsibility also to regulate their relationship with her and her relationship with them? (Here "them" includes their emotionally fragile son Jagya also)
Either DS or Bhairon should have played a key and urgent role here instead they were shown clueless!
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