@Jan50:
I do appreciate that you see that point that divorce couples eventually do become okay with each other and yes I also agree the emotional drama that occurred btw Anandi and Jagya would cause normal divorced couples to be at loggerheads/awkward with each other. BUT this is Balika Vadhu so they tend to always handle these realistically tough situations with sensibility, showing us how/why we should not react in such hostile/awkward manner, that there is a way to transition from hostile to awkward to normality with what was once a broken relationship. We humans sometimes want to stay angry at the person who wronged us even though we have been taught that to err is human and to forgive is divine. I think that BV has kept true to its progressive storytelling by showing its audience that when there is a broken relationship it IS possible for that broken, embittered relationship to heal and become normal. Yes Anandi will never go back and love Jagya like she once was able to, Jagya ruined that, she also emphasized that to Shiv when she had that November confrontation when Shiv tried to break it off bc he thought that's what she wanted. Anandi has had the time to heal not only because of time but bc of Shiv as well. He has helped her healing process in mending those wounds caused by Jagya and as we have seen from today's episode, will continue to heal her emotional scars with his love and care. I think BV is showing the most mature way to handle divorce. This is a daily soap who differs from everyone in showing the more mature route in handling a tough bitter thing such as divorce, it affects everyone, not just the couple involved and one treads a fine line when trying to keep a happy balance with all involved family members.
That is why I think that even though, for us, it might be awkward that AnSh and Jagya are in the same room, it really shouldn't be bc why should AnSH have insecurities?? They have a deep trust/bond with each other. The whole point of Nov confrontation was to test AnSh's dedication to each other and Shiv had promised that he would never doubt their bond ever again while Anandi made it clear she no longer is in love with Jagya. Yes she still has those memories, bc most of her life she spent caring/liking/loving/married to Jagya so those wounds go wide and deep for her. I think BV is showing that it is possible to be in the same room with each other, even after a bitter divorce, if only we allow ourselves to heal our wounds, don't fill our hearts with bitterness/negativity and just let the past issues go and move on. I know some have written that they wish that Anandi would remain mad at Jagya, but I do not believe that is the correct way for Anandi to move on, the way Anandi can move on is by doing what she did, giving herself time to heal, letting love/bond (with Shiv) fill the holes/tears in her heart, and to forgive/be okay with Jagya.
You know, initially I use to think that perhaps keeping distance from one's divorced husband is the best thing, but after seeing Balika Vadhu, the show has changed my perspective on it. I mean not saying that it might be possible in all situations ie abusive husbands, but seeing how Jagya is reforming himself to be a better human being, I think it is possible for things to be normal btw divorced couples. Yes AnSh just got married, but I think Anandi facing Jagya as someone who is not her husband only allows her to get more comfortable in accepting Shiv fully in that role. Shiv, I think being the wise guy he is, knows that the best way for Anandi to heal and accept him with all her love is to make her emotional environment as normal, comfortable, and loving as possible.
Plus Anandi is the sarpanch and Shiv is the collector, very powerful people in the village, it is impossible for them to avoid Jagya (who will now be head of the hospital). It's best that in this transition period that everyone is comfortable so that it not affect their work professionally and their relationships in their personal lives. I think that Jagya and Anandi may eventually go back to being careful friends one day (perhaps when Jagya gets busy with saving Ganga), not immediately, but soon bc they are people who love their families too much to allow their negativity to break apart their family as we have seen in the past few months. AnSh, and Jagya's personal and professional lives are too intertwined for them to avoid each other now or later.
Sorry I think I wrote too much,😕 but prob bc I have been thinking about this ever since this divorce has happened. I think that if I were to ever be divorced (knock on wood, I do not have to do that), that this is how I would want things to be. I wouldn't want to begin my new life, with hate/awkwardness still there in my heart for my ex-husband. Yes I would have a place in my heart for my ex, but never would i want to be bitter about it bc it would affect my new relationship with my current husband.
I am thankful to BV for showing such mature handling of such sensitive topics with such grace/sensibility as always!
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