AnSh & Remarriage Track - My Analysis & POV

I'm usually a silent reader on this forum, but in the past few days, since AnSh got married, I have been reading a lot of posts bashing either Anandi's character or Shiv's, so I thought I'll put forth my two cents as well, because I'm one of those viewers who doesn't have any complaints with either of their characters and are enjoying their track immensely, especially last night's episode was a treat to watch, because in my opinion the CV's handled AnSh's situation and their characters perfectly.

We seem to forget at times that this show and this couple is not like our usual daily soap stories or typical jodi, this show's main USP is the problems/issues faced by the society and women even today in this day and age. Right now AnSh's story is a remarriage track of a CHILD BRIDE. How easy it is for us to be angry at Anandi, to bash her for using Shiv, for not caring about Shiv, for caring more about his family, but do we ever actually stop for a minute and put ourselves in her shoes ? Think about it, she was made to marry when she was a child, she grew up with Jagya in the same house and later fell in love with him and accepted him as her husband, so can you imagine the emotional scars she must still have after he betrayed and hurt her so badly ? It is because of these emotional scars that she is unable to give in to physical intimacy at this point which is very very natural, especially in the case of remarriages. Her fear and hesitancy is not because of her leftover feelings for Jagya, its mostly because for a woman, it is not easy to physically intimate with another man, especially someone she has known for only a few months. All she needs is some time and space to get used to Shiv as her husband and life partner, for her to realize her feelings for Shiv, which she already has, but her fears ad insecurities about herself and her emotional scars are not letting her move forward with Shiv, because we can't forget that AnSh's wedding was followed by her divorce and her mother's demise, she already had a lot of her plate emotionally and then to marry someone at this stage took a lot of guts and courage, so to expect her to consummate their marriage on the first night is a bit much for anyone to ask, ad that is what the message the CV's are trying to give to the viewers that it is very natural for a women to have this hesitancy, to let go of her past and to move on when they are remarried. With times and Shiv's unconditional love and support, very soon she will not only love Shiv, but will give in to him and surrender herself to him, mind, body and soul, because she already cares for him, the fact that was feeling miserable about saying NO to him made her feel guilty is proof enough, so once her emotional scars are healed by Shiv's love and understanding, she would have no issues or fears left.

As for Shiv, I could not believe, some of us are bashing him for being such a gem of a human being :P Like any other guy madly in love, he wanted to express his love to Anandi in all the ways possible, and physical intimacy is one of the expressions of love, but he is not the sort to force Anandi to do anything she not comfortable with as yet, so it was necessary for him to make her open up to him and talk out her fears and hesitancy, because it is quite right that he knows her more then she knows him, why wouldn't he ? He loves her, and one tends to know everything about the person they love, but for Anandi who had so much is her emotional palate already, it would take time for her to get to know Shiv as well as he knows her, and she would get to know him, but like every newly wed woman, she needs to adjust to being married again, especially to a man as wonderful as Shiv, because her previous experience wasn't all bed of roses. And itsnot as Shiv didn't know what he was getting into, Anandi has been honest and forthright about everything from the start. She had told him early on when she asked him to marry her that if it had been her decision only, she would have not agreed to marry him, so Shiv knew that it would take a lot of time, patience and love from his side for Anandi to accept his love and him, and since he loves her, he is willing to wait for her, that makes him a gem of a human being, not someone who deserves to be bashed :)

CV's are keeping their story and track as realistic as possible, and AnSh conversation in last night's episode was a treat to watch, so most definitely looking forward to see what happens next with this magical couple :)

AWESOME JOB👏 .

I agree vd u totally nd i dnt hv any prob vd current track...i thnk sm ppls cant understand d feelings of rural side gal m also 4rm a small town so its vry big deal 4 us. dt's y m saying dy r showing dt which hpn in real lyf...physical intimacy z vry vry big issue 4 me also,,m 21 year old bt still dnt knw abc of ***...i just read ur os nd ff nd got surprise all knw vry much abt ds...so guys she z right on her place cvs r showing right things which really hpn in small town nd infact m vry near 2 rajsthan nd i knw d mentality of rajsthanies also.

agreed. but why anandi is thinkin g about the good times with jagya... Actually when she hears jagya y cant she think his selfishness and his closeness with gauri infront of her... she can forgive jagya but how can she forget the way he behaved with her for gauri mata's miscarriage,etc.etc.etc... anandi having any spl. amnesia forgetting the bad and remebering the good alone... think something practical... if we remeber someone we've both things they made for us good and bad... y cv's r not showing tat😲

Originally posted by: umam

Splendid analysis 😊

Thank you :)

Originally posted by: 5cents

AWESOME JOB👏 .

Abs loved your views as they are so similar to mine. Remember ...Sloppy is a state of mind so let them bash but we'll keep the flag of positivism up 🤗

Thanks !! It is always a pleasure to see that someo of us are enjoying the show and AnSh as much as I am :)

I very well agree with your point of view. But then as shiv said she should have discussed with him. Aren't they good friends before? I was litterlly crying watching the episode and feeling sorry for both these wonderful characters.

Originally posted by: jeanniefan

I agree vd u totally nd i dnt hv any prob vd current track...i thnk sm ppls cant understand d feelings of rural side gal m also 4rm a small town so its vry big deal 4 us. dt's y m saying dy r showing dt which hpn in real lyf...physical intimacy z vry vry big issue 4 me also,,m 21 year old bt still dnt knw abc of ***...i just read ur os nd ff nd got surprise all knw vry much abt ds...so guys she z right on her place cvs r showing right things which really hpn in small town nd infact m vry near 2 rajsthan nd i knw d mentality of rajsthanies also.

I'm a girl from a city and have had a very modern upbringing, studied in co ed school and college, and most of my friends were girls rather then girls, and yet even for me being physically intimate with someone who I have known only for a short while, wouldn't be easy, so I can imagine, how difficult it must be for Anandi, to be physically intimate with someone again, since this a punar vivah for her, but its not like she would never be able to give in to Shiv, she just needs time to adjust to being married to him.

Originally posted by: cindian

agreed. but why anandi is thinkin g about the good times with jagya... Actually when she hears jagya y cant she think his selfishness and his closeness with gauri infront of her... she can forgive jagya but how can she forget the way he behaved with her for gauri mata's miscarriage,etc.etc.etc... anandi having any spl. amnesia forgetting the bad and remebering the good alone... think something practical... if we remeber someone we've both things they made for us good and bad... y cv's r not showing tat😲

From Jagya's flashback it is natural for us to think that she is thinking of good times with him, but that is not the case actually, the flashbacks were more of a reminder to her that se was married earlier on and that she had accepted Jagya as her husband, and yet what did that brought her ? Pain, tears, humiliation and betrayal ? If Jagya whom she grew up with, was friends and in love with, if he could betray her after consummating their marriage, then her fear of surrendering to Shiv is very natural, because she has known him for a very short time, and like she said in last night episode, its not him she doesn't trust, its herself, because Jagya has done quite a number on her and her self confidence. After showering her with love, he humiliated her, made her feel like crap, wrong accused her and cheated on her with another woman. In circumstances like these, a woman usually ends up loosing trust in herself as well as the guy who has hurt her, because once the doubts creeps in and it affect your self esteem, it takes time to get it back.

Originally posted by: ppp333

I very well agree with your point of view. But then as shiv said she should have discussed with him. Aren't they good friends before? I was litterlly crying watching the episode and feeling sorry for both these wonderful characters.

I agree with you, I loved it when Shiv questioned her as to why she couldn't discuss it with him, because like u said the basis of their relationship is friendship, and it is only because of that friendship and trust that Anandi finallt managed to say No to him, but I can imagine, it must have not been easy for her, because even though she is not ready to be intimate, she also feels guilty and angry at herself for not being able to move on, to give the happiness that Shiv deserves, and to get the happiness she deserves, so when she herself is in such emotional turmoil, how could she have discuss this with Shiv, when she was struggling with her fears herself.