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musicmaniac

@musicmaniac

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Posted: 12 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: jack0007

completely agree with you.. if today she says 'yeh mujse nahi hoga"..what was the 4 month drama about?..she is not a child ..she got to have thought about it earlier atleast when chotimaa was asking her to backoff..

ohh i forgot that tym all she cared about was her mothers last wish.

Oh..yes...by the way, did her mother tell her to stay as a roommate with Shiv or as a glorified servant in her sasural?

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sakshi.ch

@sakshi.ch

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Posted: 12 years ago

#22

I was feeling sorry for Shiv today because the poor man deserves to hear this from his wife. As new as it is for Anandi, this is totally new for Shiv too and he might be thinking that she is a shy person and hence is afraid of the intimacy.

Anandi's problem is that she has never had close female friends her own age to discuss and gossip with, to get comfortable with the idea of intimacy with husbands. Her only female friend Phuli had an even more screwed up life. All she ever saw about marriage was what she could outwardly see in her parents and in-laws and no one talked to her about intimacy per se.

She always rises up to a challenge and I do hope she eventually shows her spark in this situation too.

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nolla

@nolla

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Posted: 12 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: jack0007

completely agree with you.. if today she says 'yeh mujse nahi hoga"..what was the 4 month drama about?..she is not a child ..she got to have thought about it earlier atleast when chotimaa was asking her to backoff..

ohh i forgot that tym all she cared about was her mothers last wish.

You are right about mothers wish, but still she is mature & understands what maried life means. Also, when she proposed to Shiv she could ve told him so when she requested him to marry her. that pls marry me but no intimacy as am not ready for that. She also had the opportunity to say what she was expecting from this marriage when Shiv decleared his love to her. she should ve bean clear right their so the guy wld have engaged himself knowing that it ll take him a long time b4 she fell for him (so in bref no expectations on the so called SR)

But back to the show, its a bore these days!!!!!!!

My dear Messisha, u said exactly what i ve been saying. The cvs should get anandi talk to Shiv as adults. Am sure he ll understand as he has always done. It ll give anandi a better start in her new relationship.

By the way, after rewatching todays episode, I laughed at her & felt a little bit sorry for her. It was like she was going to be hunged or to the guillotine. Have u heard of the American saying : "signed a contract with the devil" ? I think she just realised that, thats exactly what she did. Only we know that she signed with the angel. But in her state, she was more worried about what sauce she was going to be eaten. I think she is growing up!!!!

Edited by nolla - 12 years ago

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Jan50

@Jan50

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Posted: 12 years ago

#24

This shows a big flaw in the knowledge of importance of sexual awareness among women. There is a little bit of hypocrisy in trying to be blind to it or denying that urge for it. What is love bet a man and a woman? It is just not enough to have friendship and understanding,( though are an important requirement for he relationship to work). The marriage can not be just friendship and understanding without the most important part, the need for physical intimacy.we are all willing to admit man needs it. There is no shame in it. But so does a woman. Even in that village surrounding, Suguna's and Pratab were real with out inhibition. Why is A having so much inhibition. Does not she think she has to have these feelings towards Shiv before asking him to marry her?. No woman proposes first. It is the man who does. She was bold enough to break the norm by proposing to him first. What is the problem if Shiv makes his advances which is his right.

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stuti..

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Posted: 12 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: SiriuslySujal
Poor Anandi!

Edit: I have to disagree with you, Payal. I feel that it's only natural for her to think of Jagya... he's the only person she's ever slept with, after all, so at this juncture it is totally normal for her to draw parallels in her mind and to worry that what happened with Jagya might recur with Shiv. I imagine she feels gripped by fear, wanting to fulfil what she perceives as her marital duty, but being too scared and worried and generally uncomfortable to go ahead with it. I hope that once Shiv realises the extent of her fear, he will take things slower until she's ready. I don't think it's a prerequisite that a girl should be ready to jump into bed with her husband on their first or second night together... nor do I think she's being disrespectful to Shiv by remembering her past. Shiv entered into the relationship/marriage knowing that there could be issues and baggage... so her reticence shouldn't exactly surprise him. I think if she was ready to sleep with him, there'd've been an "I love you" from her side first? If I were Shiv, I wouldn't expect her to be fully ready to reciprocate his love at this juncture just because their marriage has been formalised... I'm surprised he does, actually! Anyway, I hope he susses out that there are issues and realises that his actions could have a huge impact on their relationship. He needs to take it slow, make her realise that it's OK if she needs space and time, and start off with little gestures that she can be comfortable with rather than full-on jhappi pappis...

You said it all. How a deeply rooted mental barrier, present previous night, disappear next day without any outward tackle as Yet?

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Jan50

@Jan50

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Posted: 12 years ago

#26

Are the cvs trying to show this is one big drawback of child marriage. A girl does not get to learn anything from her mother or sister or her friends. In our closed narrow minded society, it is considered immodest for a woman to talk about these things.i have noticed this with my old relatives who were married very young, totally disregarding the sex appeal a man and woman need to have before marriage.i wonder how Sanchi will feel about this when she hates even ordinary things about A that does not match up to her expectation.

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andv

@andv

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Posted: 12 years ago

#27

Thanks for the update Payal.

A's fears are quite understandable given her rough past. Its is also natural for her to remember J since she has had an intimate relationship with him in which although she gave her all, he only used and abused her. In addition to the awkwardness of getting intimate with another man, the fear of fate repeating itself may also be another reason for her hesitation.

Having said this, how long is A going to run away and avoid the situation? She needs to make it clear to S in clear words if he is not picking up her resistance and excuses. S also needs to remember the reasons why A married him which has not been alien to him at all and take things slowly- one step at a time. At the end of the day, A has to slowly make herself prepared to take her marriage to the next level. She cannot keep alienating her self from S. No doubt she married S for fulfilling her mother's wish, but now that she is married to him she will have to make an attempt to keep her mind open and slowly accept the relationship.

Ganga made her entry today, so it will be interesting to see how the storyline proceeds on that front.

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nolla

@nolla

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Posted: 12 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: andv
Thanks for the update Payal.

A's fears are quite understandable given her rough past. Its is also natural for her to remember J since she has had an intimate relationship with him in which although she gave her all, he only used and abused her. In addition to the awkwardness of getting intimate with another man, the fear of fate repeating itself may also be another reason for her hesitation.

Having said this, how long is A going to run away and avoid the situation? She needs to make it clear to S in clear words if he is not picking up her resistance and excuses. S also needs to remember the reasons why A married him which has not been alien to him at all and take things slowly- one step at a time. At the end of the day, A has to slowly make herself prepared to take her marriage to the next level. She cannot keep alienating her self from S. No doubt she married S for fulfilling her mother's wish, but now that she is married to him she will have to make an attempt to keep her mind open and slowly accept the relationship.

Ganga made her entry today, so it will be interesting to see how the storyline proceeds on that front.

i agree with you, she can talk for God's sake. nway, looks like we ll be seeing more of ganja than AnSh, i ll take a break from the show then for sometime.

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OMA

@OmaRamdass

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+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#29

thanks for the update

i wonder if she will enter the room tomorrow?

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Missesha

@Missesha

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+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#30

It's completely ok if Anandi is not ready to take it ahead, but she needs to speak her mind out. All she needs to tell Shiv is that she needs time. Shiv is mature enough to give her space.

But here how do we expect Shiv to understand what is on A's mind, when she has been giving enough signals that she is ready. The reasons why Shiv would assume A is ready is because, A chose Shiv over J and blurted the words that ' lagav ka vo roop, friendship etc'. Such words /decisions are indicative enough that she is ready. Even Meenu changed her opinion about A on hearing these words, then why wouldn't Shiv assume that she is ready.

And many other gestures, like accepting his payal as gift, sleeping on his shoulders with total comfort, telling him how happy she was, on following the rituals of marriage and understanding the meaning etc.

If I were Shiv, I would think A is happy with the relationship, but may be shy to initiate. Shiv is not a despo or force-it-all. He is just a husband immensely in love, who thinks his wife is ready but shy to speak.

The problem is with A's communication. Why have worried looks as if she is captured? Let her speak her mind to her friend/ Husband. Hide and Seek games will not help. By not acknowledging him or giving in forcefully, will hurt Shiv terribly.

The other problem is that A never spent any time on thinking about her post-marriage life, Shiv or the new family's culture. She never focused on how different her new family could be from her old one and how life may be different for her. That is why she is not able to move on

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