Re: AnSh after marriage - Page 2

Originally posted by: nniks

Well u dont know anandi at all...

- Anandi has strong bond with the Singhs more than a girl has for her mayka. Though Shiv's family is very nice other than Saanchi, she will feel not at home and will half take them as their own family member. And she with her sad face and emotional talks will convince shiv to return to haveli again and again. She will be like those DIL for whom maika gets a priority over in laws as her heart lies there.

I saw a very happy face as soon as she reached Kesarbagh with Shiv...Yup she did cry during bidai which is normal...but after Shiv's soothing talk she seems pretty normal and happy in kesarbagh.Infcat she was all blushing bride when Irs pulled her ghoonghat.Anandi will be a very devoted DIL...she was devoted to Singh's and she will be devoted to shekhar's as welll.tht her nature...yeah she will remain in touch with singh n why not...a girl need not break all her ties after marriage.Btw I find ur line "She will be like those DIL for whom maika gets a priority over in laws as her heart lies there. " very degrading and anti feminist...Its girls wish whome to give priority after marriage its not her duty to serve the in laws it her wish...and If she dosent want nobody has right to force her.

- She is used to a traditional family and a vague husband. A person if used to something takes long to adjust to new things unless she has an open mind. And Anandi is 1000 miles away from an open mind so far as her personal life is concerned. For her it will be difficult to absorb a loving and caring husband and the freedom of a modern city bred family.

Anandi can change herself according to situation.She seems much more open minded than so called modern saachi.She didnt care abt apshukan...she got widow girls remarried...got them to apply mehendi...if u think this is not open mindedness I dont know wat is.

Btw if ur referring to modern dress and english speaking as being modern then anandi can speak fluent english and she will def wear a modern dress to if required.

- Her feeling towards Shiv - she is very sure that she does not love him and her love is one time her jagya. This is the most frustrating part of Anandi's character. A mahanta ka devi with out having feeling towards a person is marrying him to keeps her family happy, to keep her mother's wishes and to get a support for a new beginning. Normally a good person will never do this compromise because it is an injustice to the other person and Anandi knowing that is doing this. All her mahnta and honesty has gone for a toss when it is her collector saab - he is taken for granted because it is his fault that he loves her.

She def loves him...she has not realised it yet...didnt u notice her blushing smile when she is with him...she will relalise it soon.

And when did she take him for granted ??

I always find her very repectful and supporting towards shiv...maybe ur watching some other version of BV 😛

Anandi has always been fiercely devoted and protected towards her sasural she will remain so...If u remember she always gave priority to the singhs than khajan and bhaago when she was married to jagay..Now her loyalities will change towards shekhars.Thts her basic character.

- Jagya's new love - hope she will not stand as an example for her by the singh and has to compete Anandi's shadow. Anandi will stop being the good soul to bring her close to the family.
Well I dont want Jagya anywhere near AnSh...he can go arnd with as many girls as he wants I hardly care as long he stays away all is fine.😉

I used to respect her till this marriage ceremony started, I appreciated when she chose Shiv over Jughead, but her confusion of mind with Sumitra has put people into question.
She is about a girl of 24 - 25 years. Every girl is apprehensive about her married life but a girl of that age is not so much negative in thoughts about marriaage as shown in BV. With so much apprehension, it is compromise and that does not make a marriage work. She may settle down and be ok. But mentally she has not grown up from Balika Vadhu to a Vadhu.

Actions speak louder than words...I dont see anything wrong in her attitude or behaviour towards shiv and her family.

Originally posted by: nniks

Actions speak louder than words...I dont see anything wrong in her attitude or behaviour towards shiv and her family.

She was just having pre marital jitters which everyone has...even I had it. and I was also a 25 year old ...everybody in this world has it specially in a arranged marriage scenario...

If ur stuck on her just one sentence and ignore all excitement and happiness during the wedding and with Shiv...I cant argue on tht.

May be u r right. I will be more than happy to see her well settled. Just look at Jughead, his love is so fllexible, one week back he said Anandi - your memories are enough. Now he is all set for a new chance. May not be relevant but suprises me. Jagya is a true casanova.

if anandi could accept her in laws even wen she was a kid, why would she have trouble as a super mature n really nice adult that too with a doting (instead of immature/selfish) husband at her side??? logic kuch jamaa nahi TM

Originally posted by: padmaja545

I have been reading your post , other comments and replies against it.. I would like to say that an individual should actually be a Bali ka vadhu to understand Anandi and her feelings. In this show some scenes are far from reality but some were very close to real life. Being a Balik a vadhu myself I can understand Anandi very well. But then it all depends on the writer how he will show Anandis marriage with Shiv successful.

I do not want to get into your personal life. But I hope you are having a happy married life. Whatever, the writers shade of her character, some of her sufferings are too much which can happen in any marriage not a val bibah. Hope her life with shiv becomes successful. BV does not mess it up by showing that people under gone child marriage cannot be happy in life.

At TM,

@TM I dont get it why u have already concluded tht anandi's married life will not be successful.
I know it depends on the CVs too.but seeing the story till now I dont see her being unhappy or restless in shekhar's household...lets forget her baal vivah.
Her apprehensions and fears are same as any girl who gets into an arranged marriage...It takes time to become comfortable with ur spouse...U cant expect her to jump on Shiv immediately after marriage.
Her sleeping on his shoulders is a start...it shows tht she is getting comfortable with him and slowly she will accept him..
She is behaving like any normal girl in this situation.So why do u have so pessimistic view regarding ansh marriage.

It should work out. No marriage is smooth. All has to go through tough times and happy times, then only marriages survive.
People want AnSh to be happy, But at times BV does some stupid dialogue and over drama, that confuses them and negative thinking starts. But at the end BV will not make the marriage fall.
See all expamles - Sugna, Asha. So we have to just be patient.