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hooked

@hooked

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#41

Andv - very well said !

As for who is the more guilty or more grieved party - its a close race.

Gauri and Jagya both claimed BV destroyed them and both claimed they were exercising their mature rights. At the same time - very interestingly - they both kept bringing up their own aborted-by-panchayat-BV to justify their post-18 hormonal rage.

Gauri could never have distanced Jagya single-handedly from his family, had he too not behaved callously and lied and betrayed them on his own. But Jagya alone was responsible for all the hurt undergone by Anandi. Gauri was a major pain to the entire Haveli - but it was Jagya who allowed her to be there in the first place and let her misbehave and create all those dramas.

Jagya can come back to ask for repentance - I am good with that - but whether he deserves to be forgiven is entirely in each of the Haveli members hand.

He hurt DS in a way that is hard to overcome. He gave away her most treasured wish n blessing for him. He betrayed his mom n dad's trust in ways that is hard to ever forget.

But he tricked Gauri too - by letting her believe that shadi Certificate was genuine. Anyways - Bhairon had clarified on their 2nd visit I think - that that cert was just a useless piece of paper - so Gauri has no legal basis to penalize Jagya.

😉 She can't even claim alimony as she was the one "keeping" him.

Hence I don't think it is fair to decide who was more wronged. Gauri had it all coming to her, and am glad she got it with interest. Complete loss of face in front of colleagues shud be worth giving her fresh nightmares.

But I doubt J can be sent to jail by Gauri as some claim. Who knows if that useless cert was just something J procured ? He can claim she was fully aware of his CV with Anandi and both ignored it. Why shud he alone be penalized ?

As Ankit said - all JG suporters were super thrilled with - My-life-my rules - so now when J is chosing his life his rules for himself - why can't Gauri be adult about it ?

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

#42

I guess I wasnt clear about what I meant about Gauri sending Jagya a legal notice. It is not that I think Gauri is an aggrieved soul.

It is that I do not want Jagya to go scot-free.

One day he gets up and says "oops, I was born into the wrong geographical area - a village; I was born to wrong parents, I was married forcefully to the wrong woman and I am now walking out on anandi"

Then two years later he says "oops I just realized that they were the right family, the right village, the right woman after all... and now I am walking out on gauri."

I have been irritated with anandi's refusal to do anything -- she has tolerated, made excuses for and accomodated his lousy behaviour. Consequently he got off scot free the first time.

Now again, there is the potential of getting away scot-free the second time.

HE gets to be the decision maker each time ... now once again, HE decided that the whole thing was damn inconvenient, so it is good bye Gauri, and ending the relationship by boarding a bus. 🤢

Why should it be so easy for him? If anandi didnt do, I atleast hope that gauri will give him grief...not because she wants to retain him ... but because even if he leaves, she doesnt want to make it easy for him.

He shouldnt be allowed an easy life.

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Nazneen

@SiriuslySujal

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#43

Originally posted by: tinoo
I guess I wasnt clear about what I meant about Gauri sending Jagya a legal notice. It is not that I think Gauri is an aggrieved soul.

It is that I do not want Jagya to go scot-free.

One day he gets up and says "oops, I was born into the wrong geographical area - a village; I was born to wrong parents, I was married forcefully to the wrong woman and I am now walking out on anandi"

Then two years later he says "oops I just realized that they were the right family, the right village, the right woman after all... and now I am walking out on gauri."

I have been irritated with anandi's refusal to do anything -- she has tolerated, made excuses for and accomodated his lousy behaviour. Consequently he got off scot free the first time.

Now again, there is the potential of getting away scot-free the second time.

HE gets to be the decision maker each time ... now once again, HE decided that the whole thing was damn inconvenient, so it is good bye Gauri, and ending the relationship by boarding a bus. 🤢

Why should it be so easy for him? If anandi didnt do, I atleast hope that gauri will give him grief...not because she wants to retain him ... but because even if he leaves, she doesnt want to make it easy for him.

He shouldnt be allowed an easy life.

I agree that he shouldn't be allowed an easy life. He needs to give his relationship with Gauri closure. But am not sure the law can do anything for her given that the marriage was not legal (and as far as I've been told, there are no provisions for live-in relationships in India?).

She should demand that he give her the closure she needs to their pseudo-marriage, and he shouldn't be allowed to just end the relationship by boarding a bus. But unfortunately, without the legal commitment, he CAN do that. Hence her insecurity at not being properly married and her desire to marry him ASAP after the divorce... unfortunately for her, her fears of being abandoned have been realised. Whether right or wrong, the law lacks provisions for this particular situation...

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Autumnn

@Autumnn

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Posted: 13 years ago

#44

Even if Gauri is not able to hand him a notice or punish him, Anandhi and Jags family will. By not accepting him back he will be left all alone to deal with his issues. It will not be easy for him. That will be his lesson.

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hooked

@hooked

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#45

Tinoo - He won't get away scot-free. He will get his dues in the form of not getting forgiveness and acceptance that happens to be on the top of his current I-WANT LIST.

But I am more worried that Gauri and her parents are getting away too easily. They messed up their job as parents. they never gave her decent morals or values. They sold her and abandoned her and led her to believe she was a discarded wife and let Gauri grow up with a huge festering complex about being not worthy enough to be accepted.

Jagya atleast has realization of his own hand in his miseries. When will Gauri get her realization ? And most important - when will her parents get accused by Gauri as being her MAIN CULPRITS ?

One shud be fair when meting out blame. Jagya is no angel but neither is Gauri. She deserves hell too !

Edited by hooked - 13 years ago

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mahi12

@mahi12

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#46

Legal notice for what 😆..he lied to me he was already married before marrying me there are so many witnesses who can tell court Gauri knew jagaya is married while marrying him ...so won't she get a tight slap from court😆legal notice for what he cheated me left me there are witnesses who can tell who cheated who in this relation 😆who broke whose trust and who made things worst to this extent instead of accepting her mistakes she is challenging her husband yes i did ..😆she will ask her rights from him with what face what rights of wife she has given to her husband ...😆if Gauri has anything naming shame and common sense in her instead of sending legal notice to him which will leave no stone unturned to get her more humilation among people because the truth of illegal relation will be revealed to all she should try to find ways to make peace between her and him because fault is of her not him ..of course i am not saying he will accept her back because once a trust badly broken always broken theory doesn't apply on women only it applies on men too so they should end their relation on a compromise ..for that you need to wait and watch the serial this is no over yet 😆

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mahi12

@mahi12

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#47

double post sorry 😛

Edited by mahi12 - 13 years ago

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santhisaj

@santhisaj

Beginner

Posted: 13 years ago

#48

It is not Gauri's fault. She was fighting for her place as a DIL. But she took Anandi as her foe.That was her mistake. J never told Gauri he was married, and even when Anandi was introduced he said lies. She decided to end her affair after she found he was married. But he went to her house, and said Anandi was a mistake his family did. Now he ditches Guri and moves on. The lie she told him, or the truth she hid from him -it is nothing to break a marriage. She has expressed anger to his family before, even in his presence. No -it is not the lie that bothers him. He is bored with Gauri now. So he wants to go back to his life full of comforts. This is not repentence for the mistakes - just his way of escapism from doing work and accepting his actual mistakes. I hope Anandi does not run from her engagement to J, leaving Shiv.

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tinoo

@tinoo

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

#49

Originally posted by: santhisaj
No -it is not the lie that bothers him. He is bored with Gauri now. So he wants to go back to his life full of comforts. This is not repentence for the mistakes - just his way of escapism from doing work and accepting his actual mistakes. .

Fully agree. This repentance business is unconvincing. And it would have made sense if he had repented while everything was still going good for him - happy marriage, good job, and then one day he realizes.

Here, it is just that he feels suffocated in his mumbai life -- Gauri is a controlling shrew and never gives him a moment of mental peace, nag nag nag nag, and doesnt give him money, and on top of that he doesnt have a job of his own, nor is he completing his MS. Life has become an altogther difficult proposition and he is craving the comfortable life he had in Jayetsar with a pampering family and a wife who saw him as God's gift to mankind.

If he wanted to repent, then he and Gauri should have gone together to Jayetsar ... OR he should have gone to Jayetsar alone and apologized for gauri's behaviour ... but still retained his marital status to gauri. Here he has just dropped gauri as wife like a hot potato, and going back to anandi as if that is as easy as pie.

It is still escapism. There is zero repentance here.

His regret is only for how his own life has turned out so pathetic because of his actions. He doesnt give a damn how his actions have impacted others - either family or anandi.

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731627

Suspended

Posted: 13 years ago

#50

tinoo i do not agree with ur third paragraph

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