Anandi is going through the seven stages of grief

Anandi is grieving the loss of a childhood friend
whom she believed would be with her till the end
She is grieving the loss of a relationship
that she thought would last a lifetime
She grieves for the happy times they spent
that are gone and will never return
She grieves for all that could have been
She grieves for all it became instead.

Let her grieve because grief is cathartic
It will expunge the pain and the suffering
She must overcome the despair that is within
She must live through the dark night that surrounds her
To fully appreciate the beauty of the new morning

The rising sun will bring renewed hope
Anandi will again be able to dream
This time in destiny's plan there will be no flaw
Anandi will get the happiness that is her due
She will get the friend she needed
which Jagya never was truth be told
She will get the partner that she wanted
who will hold her hand until they grow old


I see a lot of people unhappy with how Anandi is being shown. I think her feelings are completely valid. She is going through the process of grieving. There are supposed to be seven stages of grieving.

1. Shock and Denial
She went through this when she first heard about Jagya-Gauri's relationship and needed to see it
with her own eyes to believe it completely. 😭

2. Pain and Guilt
She has gone through this phase also believing she did something wrong and as a result of this Jagya left her. How many tears has the poor girl shed? 😭 She has also questioned herself several times why me? what did I do wrong?

3. Anger and Barganining
Anandi has been angry with Jagya and yelled at him. She has been extremely patient with him but when he asked for a share of the property she finally lost her cool and slapped him. Remember even when he came with Gauri to stay at the mansion, she did try to take care of him because she still loved him and in some corner thought he would come back to her.

4. Depression, Reflection, Loneliness
This is the stage she is going through now. Look at each one of her questions including the questions she asked daadisa today. Everyone can see that she is depressed. She is clearly lonely with Sumitra gone and everyone can sense her loneliness. She is very reflective of her past life and the questions as to how she can forget him when she remembers the joys and the grief he gave her equally show that. She also asks daadisa how she can forget him. So she is in this phase now.

5. The upward turn
This will be the next phase after the divorce is over when she will start to move on with her life. She will start taking a renewed interest in the things around her.

6. Reconstruction and working through
She will truly cast off the shadow of Jagya and build a life on her dreams, her aspirations and her goals. She has already been doing this but she needs to move on with her life on a personal level. This will open the doors to that.

7. Acceptance and Hope
This is the stage when she will be ready to consider a new relationship maybe not that of marriage but atleast one of friendship with Shiv. Things will progress from them on.

Anandi is at stage 4 which means she is more than halfway there. 😃

Shiv has to be patient to let Anandi complete her mourning. Because once she is done, a butterfly will emerge from its chrysalis - ready to spread its wings and fly. She will be ready to meet new people and build new relationships. We will see an Anandi who is stronger, more determined and more open than before. She will still be wary of personal relationships but she will not treat Shiv like she is treating him now.

If Anandi does not finish the grieving now, she will not be able to settle into a new life or a new relationship because she will have all this unresolved baggage. So better to let her get all this out of her system before she begins a new life with Shiv.

That's the end of my bakwaas 😆
Now over to all of you

Jhan - Perfect. But... I have to but, its in my contrary nature according to some na?😆 Just one minor correction from my recall of the grief model and psych class... its not necessarily that orderly. As in You don't have to go through those phases in that exact order and persons can be at multiple stages/states at once. So, don't get excited about stage 4... but, am sure she will persevere and get through them all sooner rather than later whatever order she does it.

let this come to an end n new phase starts to end this nightmare

tm aap ki baat solah aane sach hai

Very nice !

lovely!! just what the doctor ordered for tis forum which is suddenly become a diving board for ansh!! 😡

Originally posted by: dixie123

Very nice !

I think DS needs to read this. Shiv is ready to give her time but yeh baat DS ko kaun samjaye ?

Nice Post.👏

😃😃 I LUV DS SHE IS A STAR. O LUVED THE WAY SHE IS PLAYING CUPID. SHE IS THE CUTEST CHARACTER OF BV.⭐️⭐️⭐️
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