Why are they showing her this way? - Page 8

Originally posted by: avantikasharma1

i) fear that she will left again, perhaps Shiv too will leave her. This can happen irrespective of our confidence. Because love hurts a lot. ii) She is not yet in love with Shiv: Though she has seen him in her dreams, it has meant nothing to her.just shock.! She still doesn't have any soft corner for him. I want to see how much she struggles against love. Shiv has just started fighting for her. How do we fight for love. We keep loving them unconditionally

Originally posted by: Khushi.

Hello everyone,

One thing is just OUT of my understanding , WHY on earth is Anandi so sad about her her divorce? Why is she crying this way? For what? Does she want Jagya to return to her?? I am so SHOCKED at her behaviour. For me , Anandi has always been that strong woman who has a dignity and self -respect. For once i thought that fine, its ok..she is ending such a long relationship with her husband who cheated her..who insulted her..but then when she came to the Police Station she seemed so cared about Jagya??!! WHY?? How can you show a woman ..specially a woman like Anandi crying for a man like Jagya?

I am at a total FAIL to understand this behaviour, if at all anyone is able to analyse this behaviour of hers then PLEASE someone , explain it to me aswell!

Desi - 😆😆 Jugya is already at stage 2

Only people who go thru divorce will know the pain no matter how much they want to separate. I know it thru my brother's divorce. It was based on mutual agreement. They parted as friends. Even then my brother was hurting from inside. He told me one knows the pain only when you go thru it .at every stage of legal formality and signing papers.this divorce phenomenon is new in our culture. When one has to go thru it , how much ever the 2 parties want it it is very miserable. In the western world people go thru with it with less pain.

Originally posted by: Khushi.

@AnjanaYYZ-Hey,

I have seen quite a few episodes of those 1000+ episodes to have a clear idea of how the relation of Anandi and Jagya was. I can figure out how much she was hurt in this whole journey..we've seen that.

To have been abandoned even though after repeated attempts makes you weak BUT it does make you strong aswell, strong enough to stand for your own dignity. Her emotional breakdown is understandable,i mentioned that but isnt the emotional breakdown too much?? So much of crying for a man who ditched you? Frankly, even a painful breakup in not painful if your partner cheats you!!The good memories haunt you..they hurt you..they make you remember stuff but with them haunts the bad things also..with them haunts the fact that this break up was because of a infidelty and if one cries for a cheating husband and also asks for help on how to forget him then. I might be too immature in saying this but really i would always stand up and clap for a woman who would stand up and slap her cheating husband and always live with a teaching in her mind of not to ever remember such a man who ditched her..and ditched her THIS way. How does those sweet memories , those helping days by Jagya , those husband and wife good moments even have any existence or importance after such a drastic end?

Originally posted by: Khushi.

@AnjanaYYZ-Hey,

I have seen quite a few episodes of those 1000+ episodes to have a clear idea of how the relation of Anandi and Jagya was. I can figure out how much she was hurt in this whole journey..we've seen that.

To have been abandoned even though after repeated attempts makes you weak BUT it does make you strong aswell, strong enough to stand for your own dignity. Her emotional breakdown is understandable,i mentioned that but isnt the emotional breakdown too much?? So much of crying for a man who ditched you? Frankly, even a painful breakup in not painful if your partner cheats you!!The good memories haunt you..they hurt you..they make you remember stuff but with them haunts the bad things also..with them haunts the fact that this break up was because of a infidelty and if one cries for a cheating husband and also asks for help on how to forget him then. I might be too immature in saying this but really i would always stand up and clap for a woman who would stand up and slap her cheating husband and always live with a teaching in her mind of not to ever remember such a man who ditched her..and ditched her THIS way. How does those sweet memories , those helping days by Jagya , those husband and wife good moments even have any existence or importance after such a drastic end?

@ Khushi. yes it is difficult to understand why Anandi is still thinking of Jagya with softness and as women we all would like to believe that god for bid if we ever are faced with this situation we would be strong and show that we dont give a damn . But speaking from personal experience , recently someone very dear to me went through a similar situation. After 20 years of marriage her dear husband decided that she is not good enough for him and as she was keeping unwell would not be a good wife any longer and dumped her like a hot potato. Not to forget that those 20 years were spent with her trying to match up to his exacting standards and him constantly demeaning her and finding her lacking in his great opinion. ( irrespective of how nott perfect he was😡). But even on the last day of divorce judgement she still broke down and is still thinking of him fondly and missing him. Its as if she has forgotten how he treated her😕. I guess women basically are emotional fools( sorry for the language-no offense meant) and for us to let go of a relationship is never easy. Can only hope that a shiv comes into my dear one s life too( though that rarely ever happens)

Originally posted by: Parihoonmein_12

Got hooked watching this show, consequently became a member, albeit a passive one until now.

So much comments about Anandi's reaction (tears, her drowning sorrow), the questions about why she is behaving the way she is and I figured I'd put in my two cents.

When Anandi signed the divorce papers, I recall that she was going through the grieving process as well and was somewhat reflective at that juncture as well. But something happened that took precedence over her grief ' anger and outrage at the way Jagdish was extorting his family members and how low he had stooped. Her concerns for her family took over her own emotions (if memory serves me correctly, anandi has always put others happiness before her own and she has always been very aggressive about fighting others' battles)'

When the dust settled, she was still not able to come to grips with the divorce proceedings ' what with the news of her recognition and the village, her subsequent commitments at home, work and as a head of the village, working with the new collector, and the projects that needed shaping, in addition to solving young brides from a fate worse than death ' we all tend to get caught up with day-to-day routine and sometimes it can be inundating. I guess with Anandi, her divorce matter just got put on the back burner and she did not have time to reflect on the ramifications of it all.

To add to the injury, she found out that her family was 'arranging her to be married off' before the ink has even dried on her divorce petition. I'm amazed that she was able to forgive her family so easily especially since the same knew of the betrayal that she had undergone with Jadgish. I was never a proponent of Dadisa's plots and schemes

The penny finally dropped for Anandi when she received the notice that within the span of a week, it'll all be over' I think that was when it finally sank in that she is getting divorce, that the relationship that she had held on for 17 years will be extinguished and maybe the insecurities started to kick in with respect to her relationship with her in-laws.

In the heat of the moment, we tend to react (Anandi's rationale for signing the divorce papers was probably reactive ' she was reacting to what Jadgish said to her in their last convo). However, at this stage, when all is said and done, she is being reflective. As a result, the floodgates have open!😳

Originally posted by: jiya25

i think the underlined part is the most beautiful thing i have heard today...thank you :)

Originally posted by: leo4ever

oh give me a break!!😡😡😡 the tm never meant this am sure!!

1. for the last time: asha a widow wanted to remarry so she helped her- here u feel since she got her married she shd marry if ds wishes her to b married? koi choice ha ya is she not given that much control on her life??😡
2. she is moving on and can u see the strength that she is not keeping any baggage? she is remembering the good times as well as bad and then moving froward, she wnt take with her the vengeance or the dard of losing a battle
3. she has taken a beating herself- she is dongi for her creer- she is reachnig new hieghts- is a owman defind suucssful only if married??😡