Why are they showing her this way? - Page 6

Originally posted by: parri814

I am not saying she enjoys being a victim. Don't know how you came to that conclusion. What iwas trying to determine was, should experience, and age factor (generational aspects) when responding to a crisis.

To a younger person, it may seem like the end of the world when problems befall them, but to someone older, it's just a hurdle along the way. It (good or bad incidents) do not define you. But SOMETIMES all this is wasted on the young😃

Parri - am talking about other posters not you when I say that I don't get their mentality that she enjoys being a victim. You were speaking about the varying perspective of people. That's the one I totally don't comprehend. YUP - With age comes a level of wisdom and from it strenght to know that this too shall pass. 😃

Originally posted by: Khushi.

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Hey , You know even if they would have shown that both of them fell out of love mutually and Anandi still loves him i would have readily accepted her emotional breakdown and crying but this stage of their relation has arrived because of a extra marital affair by her husband , it has resulted becuase the man she loved fell in love with another woman , he cheated her...its hard to believe that she still loves him or cares about him. Its really hard for me to believe that even after a 10+ old relation and a 5+ old year cheating by your hubby you STILL cry for him and love him. I really dont find this acceptable and if i would have been Anandi's friend or her housemate i would have definetly adviced her to stop wasting her tears for a man like Jagya and instead think of how good it is that such a relation ended.

Avantika - am with you. That is why I am totally appreciating Shivji. He is firstly not taking Anandi's emotional outbursts personally. That is what our resident looser would do. Moreover, he understood that she needs to talk to cry to confide her pain and arranged the skype. Mature problem solving instead of fingerpointing and pondering why she is upset and does that mean she is still in love with Jug. Kudos to Shiv for understanding what many regular or recent viewers of the same gender are not grasping.

yes, she loves being a victim -- for her she doesnt really know what love is, so she equates self-pity with love.

Its very interesting to read everybody's POV about anandi, however I also feel that its strange that she is still crying over the divorce and her legal parting with J. Tinoo and Khusi rightfully said that it was over a long time ago and all this emotional crying should have happenned when J first brought home Gauri and got her pregnant. At this point anandi should be actually out of love and mourning stage and should be looking forward to the divorce. It takes six months for a person to start coming out of grief after a loved one passes away and in this case its been five years since he left her and cheated her as well as humiliated her constantly for all those years.

Khushi - thanks for trying to see another perspective by the way. I wish real or even Anandi's reel life was as easy as you put it. Again welcome to the forum🤗

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Avantika - am with you. That is why I am totally appreciating Shivji. He is firstly not taking Anandi's emotional outbursts personally. That is what our resident looser would do. Moreover, he understood that she needs to talk to cry to confide her pain and arranged the skype. Mature problem solving instead of fingerpointing and pondering why she is upset and does that mean she is still in love with Jug. Kudos to Shiv for understanding what many regular or recent viewers of the same gender are not grasping.

Avantika - her self esteem has not recoverd varna she would not go on about "ehsaan". She doesn't consider herself worthy of Shivraj, so she is defining his feelings as "ehsaan". If she had confidence she would not have accused him of doing favour

Originally posted by: tinoo

yes, she loves being a victim -- for her she doesnt really know what love is, so she equates self-pity with love.

@AnjanaYYZ- Just read yor post mentioning Shiv's good thing to understand her pain and help her through it but Shiv does not know what we all know..He does not know what J has done to A ..he doesnt know what she has gone through and thus he doesnt have that anger which we all do..most of us or may be some of us.And as far i have know maturity , i guess the mature people are the ones wuo usually take the bold and difficult step of moving on and moving on not physically but mentally and emotionally..the mature individuals are the ones whi according to me take a stand for their dignity and in here what i want to point is what another user said ..that why did she even go to the jail? She coyld have waited in the court..why bother so much for J..and why him realise again and again that you care for him and put your self-respect at wurstion all the time?
I might be immature acc. to many but somehow i feel what i think is justified.:-)

@Avantika-Yes, I have not been in love but i have many frienda who have been in love and may be i am the worst advicer they have got cuz i keep advicing them to not think about a boy who cheated. Infact just recetly a friend of mine was in a aimilar situation as A and i have seen her cry for a boy who ditched her..what did she get by crying? nothing..all she did was curse the gurl who took her bf and cry..cry all the time..and if in a similar situation there qould have been a mature person would je/she have behaved like her? I dont think so.