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Posted: 13 years ago
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Anandi is probably just venting because they all kept her in the dark, I think anyone else would also react in that way if it was a life changing decision they were planinng without the person involved whos life it is going to effect.

I would have preferred it the otherway around with Shiv asking the familly if it was possible and his intentions rather than Dadisa asking him. Shiv himself didn't bring it up yet, as I'm sure he wanted to get to know Anandi better and give her time to get use to him before thinking of proposing. Dadisa just hurried things along and Shiv probably thought they have given me this chance and I better grab it before they find someone else for her. They don't really know Shiv that well shouldn't they have inquired more about his background from someone else other than Shiv and bhim singh


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Posted: 13 years ago
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The one thing I have disliked about this shiv-dadisa track is that dadisa has no knowledge of shiv's background ... is it enough to know that he is a collector and that he is charming and hunky? should she not have done even a little bit of checking ? I mean she has enough ways to get information about him and his family...
Maybe he is a creep like jagya hiding something... Jagya too was very good looking and very charming and a to-be doctor when he met gauri... hypothetically, if a girls parents had met him at that time, they too would be completely gaga about getting him hooked to their daughter ... but a little deeper probing would have revealed that he had a wife and a completely different family in a completely different village somewhere.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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ha angelic --we posted the same thought at the same time. 😃
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I agree with your sentiments regarding Anandi's frame of mind Suchi. It's quite a dilemma, that she is in and decisions like this are never taken overnight. As Tinoo point out, she should have been forewarned and prepared mentally.

To Dadisa's credit, she probably thought that Anandi will marry the person I pick (can't blame her for that thinking because she has changed but not to that extent).

Bhairon was initially reluctant about this whole thing but I don't think he articulated it properly. I can't remember, but did they factor in Anandi's agreement to marry whomever they pick?

At the end of the day, it is not easy for anyone (male or female) to just rebound from a bad relationship and fall into another without hanging on to some baggage. Every experience reshapes a person and never leaves you. Anandi will come around, but it will take time. In fact it would appear unbelievable if she accepted without some rebelliousness.

I think herein too lies a message for elders who are motivated by the good they want to do for their kids, regarding most suitable method to adopt when enacting that good. And herein also lies a message for the young person that life does renew itself, we just have to be open it. There is also a message for the so called samaj to understand the intricacies of the emotional state of the abandoned female and supporting, motivating, encouraging rather than dictating a new beginning.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: parri814

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To Dadisa's credit, she probably thought that Anandi will marry the person I pick (can't blame her for that thinking because she has changed but not to that extent).

Yes, this is what it was ... anandi is a super-obedient person who trusts in the decisions of elders... dadisa probably assumed that she will be obedient in this case too.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: tinoo

The one thing I have disliked about this shiv-dadisa track is that dadisa has no knowledge of shiv's background ... is it enough to know that he is a collector and that he is charming and hunky? should she not have done even a little bit of checking ? I mean she has enough ways to get information about him and his family...

Maybe he is a creep like jagya hiding something... Jagya too was very good looking and very charming and a to-be doctor when he met gauri... hypothetically, if a girls parents had met him at that time, they too would be completely gaga about getting him hooked to their daughter ... but a little deeper probing would have revealed that he had a wife and a completely different family in a completely different village somewhere.



Tinoo forget Shiv she was to ready to marry anandi to that inspector also😆 I think this is the only flaw in dadisa's way of finding happiness for anandi.I think more than for anandi dadisa is doing it for herself.She surely realizes that she doesnt have a long life ahead of her.And she is so guilty conscious about the fact that it was her who tried to do jagiya's secret marriage and the girl today has spoilt anandi's life.She just wants to rectify her mistake and give anandi all the happiness before its too late.And so she cant see other things.Even a small light seems like a new dawn to her.
Edited by princessyashika - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: tinoo

The one thing I have disliked about this shiv-dadisa track is that dadisa has no knowledge of shiv's background ... is it enough to know that he is a collector and that he is charming and hunky? should she not have done even a little bit of checking ? I mean she has enough ways to get information about him and his family...

Maybe he is a creep like jagya hiding something... Jagya too was very good looking and very charming and a to-be doctor when he met gauri... hypothetically, if a girls parents had met him at that time, they too would be completely gaga about getting him hooked to their daughter ... but a little deeper probing would have revealed that he had a wife and a completely different family in a completely different village somewhere.


exctly.tin-tin...so true...
what i was also pointing ke yes he helped anandi in lot of ways but would that be enough for one to get marry the person...and that too nto to know about his background...and here tou they dotn know him ...they dotn know anything beside he the collector fo jaitsir...thats it...so as i posted before...this DS doing so fast and breaking her promise to bhairo ke she wont do anything without him consulting and his consent she did exctly oposite...and bhairo said he will llok inot his background and he still hasnt taken a step towards it...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I feel soo bad for Anandi. I was happy for AnSH but if Anandi is getting hurt in the process... I don't care about that much. I want Anandi to be happy and thats all
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

I feel soo bad for Anandi. I was happy for AnSH but if Anandi is getting hurt in the process... I don't care about that much. I want Anandi to be happy and thats all

Very well said Suchi ...👏
We want anandi's happiness ..
In her situation its difficult to get over the pain !!!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: princessyashika

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Tinoo forget Shiv she was to ready to marry anandi to that inspector also😆

But atleast she saw and met the parents, she knew the boy's background, bhawri had vetted him, and the parents had also agreed to marry a divorcee girl ... that is leaps and bounds ahead of any conversation she has had with shiv...
even then i felt it was odd that she was ready to commit without asking anandi...

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