Anandi's boundaries as a sarpanch - Page 4

😲...so Tinoo u have problem that she stopped someone's child marriage?

Just a word----Post Anandi's intervention and stopping the child marriage of Jyoti, the parents won't be able to ill-treat her since they would have to live in fear of the law.

On what grounds Jyoti's parents can refuse to lookafter their child?
They must lookafter her or must go to jail...
If they commit suicide she will b sent to orphanage or state rescue home...

Originally posted by: tinoo

No we criticize gauri equally, and we also find resonance with anandi's positivity and goodness as well.

Unfortunately, neither character is black or white -- gauri is completely wrong all the time and anandi is completely right all the time.

In specific situations - gauri may be right. In other situations she may be wrong.

In specific situations - anandi may be right. in others she may be wrong.

Let us not make this thread about anandi vs. gauri fan war, since i am a fan of neither.

I am more interested in the way this particular situation played out and of anandi's behaviour therein.

My bad, may be I m bad in explaining myself😉I thought I explained why I gave Gouri example, but u still think I m making ur thread Anandi vs Gouri. Don't want to argue, so leaving😆

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

Just a word----Post Anandi's intervention and stopping the child marriage of Jyoti, the parents won't be able to ill-treat her since they would have to live in fear of the law.

I dont mean illtreat her in tangible obvious ways. I am sure there will be intangible scars and words being used for jyoti like 'manhoos' which is intangible verbal abuse. There will be no trace of this. People will make fun of her too.

Originally posted by: sreevask

On what grounds Jyoti's parents can refuse to lookafter their child?
They must lookafter her or must go to jail...
If they commit suicide she will b sent to orphanage or state rescue home...

Thank you for reiterating my point.

Tinoo I think Anandi has full right to do what she is doing.Being the sarpanch she ought to be the savior of law.What she did was her duty.How can you call this as a personal matter???From that point of view even domestic violence is a personal matter bcoz after all a husband is hitting his own wife!!Even foeticide should be a personal matter bcoz the one who has made his wife pregnant has the right to kill the baby in her womb as well???I mean that is so irrelevant.Anything that is against basic human rights can never be a personal matter!! Its a matter of the society and the mankind.

And I also diagree that Anandi should save Jyoti only if she promises to keep her at haveli or pay for her education.She is not running an NGO or social service societyShe is a social worker whose job is to voice against such injust practices and report such cases to government so that the government aided societies like schools/colleges/hospitals/shelter homes can support the victim.What u said is same as saying that a police man doesnt has the right to save a girl from being raped just bcoz he cant keep her in his home if her family and society abandons her.Dont u think it sounds really weird.

Originally posted by: tinoo

I dont mean illtreat her in tangible obvious ways. I am sure there will be intangible scars and words being used for jyoti like 'manhoos' which is intangible verbal abuse. There will be no trace of this. People will make fun of her too.

You do have a point. But still, it does in no way mean that the child marriage should have been allowed to commence. Like I said, let's not mix the two issues. Also, this would serve as a means for Anandi to increase social awareness about how child marriages are evil and the girl child is not to blame for it.

Maybe she can even arrange them to go to the city and lead a better life free of such mental harassment.

Originally posted by: tinoo

Hi elasingh -- I dont have issues with her going into folks homes and demanding answers from them...but I just want to know what she plans to do if there is a gauri type of situation...where gauri was an unwanted beendhni and had that stamp. If bhairon had not funded her education, we dont know what might have happened to gauri.

it is perfectly okay if anandi barges into someone's wedding... but my broader question is what plans does she have for the fallout of her actions? Is it just enough to stop it and then dust one's hands and walk off?

I dont think CV has shown that Anadi has any kind of backup plans like Bhairav. Bhairav funded Gauris education when she was not accepted as beendani. I admire him for that. If anandi is taking this child marriage issue so seriousely then cv shold show what she is doing with these girls once their marriage is stopped. And I do have issues with the way she questions ppl.

Tinoo..as u have raised questions on anandi's action of stopping a child marriage...i would like to ask u something...