Originally posted by: jiya25
seems like pretty much everyone missed out on the sarcastic humor/tone of this post and took it too seriously...
i meant to make a lighthearted post but there doesn't seem to be much appetite for that in this forum...
oh well...never mind, lesson learned and topic closed...
Jiya25,
your point was well taken. I cant speak for anyone else, but I will say this about myself. I dont appreciate sarcastic humour. I find that it feeds the intellectual ego of the person cracking the joke, because of a false sense of witty repartee, but it does not demonstrate any sensitivity towards the emotions of the person who is the focus of the joke.
i.e. sarcastic humour usually is at the expense of another person. Good humour is a joke which everyone enjoys.
I did not find your post lighthearted at all. I believe that Gauri is a bully of the worst order and has inflicted a lot of pain on anandi -- and needlessly so. I am not talking just about her initial wedding to Jagya in court ... but thereafter too, on several occassions. And Gauri had vicious and cruel intentions.
To put a post on a thread that we should 'thank Gauri' for doing all this to anandi reeks of bad taste (to me atleast -- others may have other views, and that is perfectly okay).
I think your original post is presumptuous on many levels
1. you assume that anandi was not doing anything worthwhile before jagya left her, and that her aspirations at that time to be a wife, bahu and mother are not worth anything... but after jagya left what has happened to her is "better" than what she was before. I disagree with that. I just see it as another stage of her evolution. There was nothing wrong with who anandi was even before. she was a sweet girl, a good bahu, a school teacher championing girls education.
2. you also assume that anandi's professional success compensates for her personal trauma.
I dont think it does. The two are very separate. Anandi has been humiliated in the worst way by being abandoned by her husband. She still cried all the way home the other day after heth singh told shiv the whole story.
3. You assume that anandi's success both in terms of sarpanch and shiv's entry into her life are BECAUSE of gauri taking away Jagya. I find that revolting. I think that it is quite the opposite. It is INSPITE of gauri taking away Jagya. Big difference.
Yes, people enter our lives all the time, and their actions may de-rail us and cause some sort of loss for us...and we may eventually climb up out of our loss or our emotional depression...and through good fortune may access different things and people that make us happy again. But that can hardly be good reason to give thanks to our tormentors, particularly when they did harm to us intentionally and knowingly.
I feel the moment we start saying "we should give thanks" ... then we start legitimizing the actions of the tormentor and start minimizing the pain felt by the victim ... just subconsciously.
I dont like this brand of sarcastic humour and I urge you to please reflect on my words if you feel they have any value. If not, no issues.
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