Originally posted by: shalgo
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totally agree, Gauri has been encoruaging jagya and has always presented him in a positive manner in front of her friends and colleagues...
the only thing is she could have been more sensitive and done a few things like calling jagya when she knew he felt bad today, or may be asking him to do some joint shopping after hospital hours both for household needs and her clothes (rather than shopping with her colleague)...
afterall working doesn't mean that you wash off your hands from all responsibilities at home or for hubby...even a housewife expects her husband to help her with daily chores sometime, check/call on her from his workplace once or twice and include her in his shopping plans...Gauri ne to working men ko bhi peeche chodd diya hai... though what she said was right...i think her conduct was not completely right.
I agree that she could have called jagat to go shopping with her...
The problem here is that with jagat everything is as she said 'chaubiso ghante kich kich'... the previous night she and he had a fight with cold food, and then he accused her of using him to fulfill her dreams ; in the morning there was coldness between them, then again in the afternoon he shows up at the hospital unannounced. Everyone there is perfectly nice to him, but his own ego feels the 'heen bhavna' and again is he does kich kich and walks away leaving his food uneaten.
Tell me, after all this, will you in gauri's place really feel like calling jagat to go shopping after hospital hours ... or will you feel like going shopping with a colleague who is appreciative and friendly towards you?
And calling jagat to go shopping forecasts more problems. If he meets anybody at all in the mall who vaguely knew that he was a doctor and now sitting at home, it leads to yet one more episode of silently fuming or blackened facial expressions, and then his storming out from shopping.
In gauris place I would have done the same thing and thought leaving him to eat toast and tomato ketchup before the tv is the best thing to do.
And yes, housewives also expect help from their husbands -- but that is when they are overwhelmed and they have some established division of labour patterns already.
here jagat is not overwhelmed in any way, and fully capable of fending for himself and capable of going out for half an hour or an hour and getting a cylinder in his oh so busy schedule of nine hours of the working day doing absolutely nothing.
Edited by tinoo - 13 years ago
