should anandi still be in love with jagya?

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

I use the term "should" quite loosely and in a hands off manner.

It is not appropriate for me to say what someone else "should" feel and should not feel...

If they feel a certain way, then they just do.

But it bothers me that even after Jagya humiliated her for four years, then left her without letting her know that the marriage understanding that they had was off, then walked in a most indecent manner with gauri hand in hand at the time of the puja...then after that also... and she still is in love with him.

I can understand a clinical tolerance towards him with the desire to help him because she sees

1. child marriage as the culprit and

2. feels guilty that she is the cause of separation between J and his family

...

but still, to be in love with him even now strikes me as a bit too much.

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Posted: 13 years ago

staying in haveli with the same people around , however loving they might be seemed to have an impact on Anandi.she is unable to move on completely. She might be in love with J, still don't think her ethical sense will allow her to accept him

Edited by -Perseus- - 13 years ago

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woman11

@woman11

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Posted: 13 years ago

There is a difference between the question of public ethics and personal ethics.
If you ask should Anandi be in love with Jagya, the answer is both yes and no.

1. Anandi can be in love with Jagya as long as she maintains public ethics. That means, as long as her love for Jagya does not do any harm to anyone else or make her a public liability. Now Anandi's love for Jagya is a purely personal feeling. She has not pursued it actively, she has not asked Jagya's involvement in her act of loving and most importantly, her love does to seek to affect or alter the life of another person, i.e. Gauri. So she is very much within the bounds of public ethics in loving Jagya. If she ever actively changes the course of things because of her love---like tempting Jagya back, plotting against Gauri, making elaborate plans to break them up, dragging them to the court to get Jagya back, etc etc, then we might raise a finger at the ethics of Anandi's love and whether she should love Jagya--who is already settled with another woman and has impregnated her. Since she has not done so, she is entitled to her own feelings.

2. However, coming to personal ethics, I think Anandi should not be in love with Jagya for her own sake. There is a saying---no one can hurt you till you let them do so. The same goes for Anandi. I have always said that the biggest flaw in Anandi's character is that she is emotionally weak when it comes to Jagya. She does not harm anyone else with that flaw, but she harms herself the most. She should learn to move on with her life---which she did to a certain extent---but the BM episode has made her weak again. That's precisely what Gehna said---throwing a stone in the still waters will again create ripples. Hopefully Anandi will become still water once again---for she herself hates herself for becoming weak. That's a great sign. A person can improve only when she sees her own self critically and understands her own flaws. I hope Anandi realizes soon that she should not love Jagya, not for her own sake.

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Blukitten

@Blukitten

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Posted: 13 years ago

There's no definite answer for this... Logically and ethically she should not be in love with him...he's too selfish and undeserving..for such devotion.

But love defies all logic...She might not act on her feeling...she might try to remain aloof and indifferent but in her heart if she'd still pining for him its natural...

As long as she's in her boundaries and not doing anything to gain him back and her love remains personal to her its ok...

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731627

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Posted: 13 years ago

frankly speaking anandi yeh kai baar keh chuki hai ki main apne beete hue kul ko bhula kur apne ko strong banoongi aur kabhi aapne ko jagya ke liye kamjor nahi karoongi pur maine dekha hai itna baar kehne ke baavjood bhi agar jagya uske saamne aa jaata hai ya phir jagya ke baare mein koi baat karta hai to woh apne aasuon ko rok nahi paati hai.abhi kuchh din pehle anandi ne sumitra se kaha tha ki maine aapko rula diya na ab mein kabhi kamjor nahi padoongi.pur aaj maine dekha ki jagya ka kurta dekh kur udaas ho gayi phir jub gehna aagayi to phir usne kaha ki main apne aap ko strong banoongi.sach to yeh hai ki anandi ka kehna ki main apne aap ko strong banaoongi mujhe is baat pur ratti bhar bhi bharosa nahi hai kul ko agar by chance jagya se mulakat hogi anandi phir emotional weak hogi aur maine to anandi ko phooli se kehte hue bhi suna hai kya karoon phooli main apne aapko sambhalne ki koshish karti hoon pur sambhalne nahi paati anandi hur cheej ke liye true hai pur yeh kehna ki main jagya ke liye kumjor nahi banoongi iske liye true nahi hai

Edited by surabhi01 - 13 years ago

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