Selfish Sumitra? - Page 8

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

As it is we women can be very trusting and naive at times. When she found out her marriage was illegal - unfortunately it was too late. Because she wont break the vaadas that she made whilst she got married - even if it turned out to be illegal.

Originally posted by: tinoo

Here, I think the key is that she craved the legality. Not him. Slimebag has never once tried to give her the security she craves,

And therefore, when it turned out that it was illegal, she should have assured him of her constant support and desire to be with him but forced him to legalize it by giving anandi a divorce.

If on the other hand, she was bound only by her feelings, and did not care about the legality, then she shouldnt be upset about it now.

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

every woman wants that legality or else she would feel cheap. Im pretty sure Gauri deep down feels cheap and without this legal status she feels insecure. But she didnt leave him when she realised it was illegal. She did try to persuade him but then dropped it. She fulfilled her wifely duties - till she realised that Anandi was still very much a part of their livees and the insecuirty started. Then she started playing mind games.

Originally posted by: tinoo

And that would be great if Jagya/Jagat had appreciated that she stood by him when she realized it was illegal. But the fact is that he hasnt. He has taken her for granted. So now what? I keep coming back to the NOW moment. Not what coulda woulda shoulda happened in the past.

So, now she will have to figure some things out... starting right here in this moment...as to what she wants to do.

But I think this is where our personalities differ ... I just dont waste time anymore trying to figure out whether it was fair, unfair, who should have behaved in what way at what time. Its useless.
The only person I have control over is me myself. And even if something was unfair and wrong, I just focus on "what now?"

Its very hard for me to follow your discussions srkluvr simply because my brain circuitry is not aligned in that direction.

For me, it is very clear, actions speak louder than words.

He may be lovey dovey, but he doesnt acknowledge me and shows no remorse for it either.

His actions have been a clear slap on my face.

whether that is right or wrong is irrelevant. I just dont fight against reality. accept it for what it is and move on to the next course of action.

Originally posted by: tinoo

and now, I have yet one more instance of lies/hiding truth ... my husband did not even tell me what the puja was for. 😲😲. so now the writing is on the wall. can i read it is the question?

Originally posted by: lakshmim_84

Why should she worry about the kid. It was Jagat and Gauri who decided to go ahead with their relation however illegal it was and only those two are responsible for the kid. Not Sumitra.

In the same forum, it was said earlier when Gauri married Jagya, that she need not have to worry about Anandi. She has to only think about her and jagya's Sacha pyar.

Here too Anandi was as innocent as the kid. So the same logic applies here. Sumitra needed not have to worry about Gauri or her kid. She only wants Jagya back.

And if Jagya comes back leaving Gauri and his kid, the blame should be on Jagya only n not Sumitra.

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

. But the baby ...the baby