Gauri's Anandi phobia - Page 2

I dont understand why she does everything first, and then cries about not having their acceptance.

Instead of informing them after the fact, she should consult them before IF their acceptance means that much to her.

If not, do what you want and lead your life in Mumbai... or be like Jagat, completely insensitive and blind to his surroundings, and going around thinking that he is accepted everywhere.

tinno-they had nt thought abt child so soon.ok,secondly one has hope that one day wen family might accept after hearing the news of child,n bhairon is a fool?does he needs to be explained abt her child n all?no,he is matured enough to understand al dat,he never cared abt them ,infact he was happy that entire life they wil live with anandi bheek.

tanvi - that is precisely the point. bhairon never cared about them.

so where is the issue of his caring now? yes, he knew that there would eventually be children, and he is not bothered. He has told them to live in Mumbai and lead their own life.

why come here and inflict this child down everyone's throat?

and atleast now, when you know that your hopes of this child being accepted are zero/nil, then why not swallow the bitter pill and move on to plan B - which is abortion, or having the child and raising it on your own, whichever is more convenient?

why stay here and keep shouting that they are not accepting?

Instead of thinking abt these serious issues she put her full energy in keeping Anandi away from J and blaming everyone. Suppose even if A will be out of picture, will it solve all those issues. Will it make their marriage legal and child legitimate? No na. Thn why not finding way to legitimate their marriage by asking divorce, instead of shouting.

After knowing the truth her demanding acceptance is madness .y?frm wen legality became the most imp for singh parivar,even before they were nt aware of fact dat anandi is legal wife dat time they suported anandi,becoz relations just doesnt depend on legality but emotions also,so g also wants to be loved,accepted.Just becoz she came to know dat she is nt legal wife she should nt demand acceptance n wer is she fighting n demanding now?she is only getting hurt n tensed abt her child. living in dat haveli in the room ,she moves outside the room,faces people ful of hatred ,isnt it hurting?

and the funny thing is that the real issue of legitimacy and illegitimacy does not seem to bother her.

The metric being used is whether the singhs are celebrating or not.

Even if the singhs were celebrating ... that does not mean that the child would be legitimate.

There is no connection between the two.

Originally posted by: tanvismile

tinno-they had nt thought abt child so soon.ok,secondly one has hope that one day wen family might accept after hearing the news of child,n bhairon is a fool?does he needs to be explained abt her child n all?no,he is matured enough to understand al dat,he never cared abt them ,infact he was happy that entire life they wil live with anandi bheek.

tanvi, I will repeat my question again. Since you understand Gauri so well, could you tell me what is Gauri's own expectation of acceptance? What does she want to be accepted as? As a second wife? What according to her should be her status in the Singh family? Jagya's second wife?

In that case, Gauri believes in the middle age feudal culture where a man could have multiple wives. Right? Significantly enough, in such a system, all the wives were aware of each other's equal rights and had no issues in sharing the husband. Now I think Anandi believes in such a system of polygamy-----that is why she has accepted Gauri as Jagya's second wife and talks about Gauri's patni rights and rights over Jagya. However, if Gauri also believes in the same system when why is she so against Anandi's rights and denies her claim over Jagya? Isn't it contradictory that she expects her own acceptance on the basis of polygamy and does not want to follow the rest of the rules of this system? Either you believe in polygamy or you not, why the contradiction here?

Originally posted by: tanvismile

she is only getting hurt n tensed abt her child. living in dat haveli in the room ,she moves outside the room,faces people ful of hatred ,isnt it hurting?

Gauri is getting a stipend. She is not financially dependent on Jagat. she should tell him to stay as long as she wants, and then book a ticket for herself and leave.

It is a one hour comfortable car drive from jayetsar to jaipur... and a one hour flight from jaipur to mumbai. I honestly doubt that there is any situation which will create physical danger to her child.

Get the hell out of this place where people look at you full of hatred if you dont want to look at hate filled faces. She is not compelled to stay.

Originally posted by: tanvismile

After knowing the truth her demanding acceptance is madness .y?frm wen legality became the most imp for singh parivar,even before they were nt aware of fact dat anandi is legal wife dat time they suported anandi,becoz relations just doesnt depend on legality but emotions also,so g also wants to be loved,accepted.Just becoz she came to know dat she is nt legal wife she should nt demand acceptance n wer is she fighting n demanding now?she is only getting hurt n tensed abt her child. living in dat haveli in the room ,she moves outside the room,faces people ful of hatred ,isnt it hurting?