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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: annika20

No one in the world can replace one's mother!❤️

I feel Anandi is hypersensitive and has a tendency to blame herself, and fall in depressed state!😭


I do agree that Anandi has always been shown to be a very sensitive person and her first impulse is to always try and please those around her. So then - can you imagine how upset she must have become at realizing how deeply she has upset her parents FOR THE FIRST TIME in her life ? Combined with all the stress and strain of the previous days and the fact that Gauri Jagya left and after G also decided to yell her out yet again - Anandi just internalised all the pain...It is all very plausible.

This is her personality - she is not faking it. My sister is like this. Some people tend to take things to heart and Anandi had way too much to handle. The strongest among us can become weak when faced with a parents' disapproval - atleast I can easily imagine her to come down with a raging fever..

It was wonderful of BV to show this incident - this sensitivity is what makes this serial so different from the run-of-the-mill saas-bahu-sauten crap. 👏
Any other track might have shown her with Jagya's pic and wud have been so sickening 🤢
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Posted: 14 years ago
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"Paradise lies under the feet of the MOTHER",

jo nahi samaj tai marne ke baad samaj jayenge
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Posted: 14 years ago
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depends i dont know i love my mom a lot, but i am more close to my dad

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Nothing can come before maa. Neither ur love to a girl, nor ur personal happiness. If u keep happy to ur mother and make her feel proud, it will make u real happy which no material happiness can replace. I m talking abt human mothers and not those who take their children as burden, treat thm as tools and can even sell thm. Sad but such unwanted mother exist. But I even don't count thm as mother. So for me maa word is spiritual.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: hooked


I do agree that Anandi has always been shown to be a very sensitive person and her first impulse is to always try and please those around her. So then - can you imagine how upset she must have become at realizing how deeply she has upset her parents FOR THE FIRST TIME in her life ? Combined with all the stress and strain of the previous days and the fact that Gauri Jagya left and after G also decided to yell her out yet again - Anandi just internalised all the pain...It is all very plausible.

This is her personality - she is not faking it. My sister is like this. Some people tend to take things to heart and Anandi had way too much to handle. The strongest among us can become weak when faced with a parents' disapproval - atleast I can easily imagine her to come down with a raging fever..

It was wonderful of BV to show this incident - this sensitivity is what makes this serial so different from the run-of-the-mill saas-bahu-sauten crap. 👏
Any other track might have shown her with Jagya's pic and wud have been so sickening 🤢


I know that she is very sensitive. I never said she was faking it or over-reacting. I am sorry if my post gave that impression...

I am also hypersensitive and if I had ended up hurting my parents unintentionally like Anandi did, then I have also have felt guilty and felt like beating myself up! But instead of lying on the floor and falling in depression mode, I would have tried to call my parents and immediately talk to them and ask for forgiveness or I would have taken the first bus to my village and gone to my parents' house to explain my situation and ask for pardon!

See, all I wanted to say is that what Anandi is doing is never a solution. It is only hurting her. Do her parents know how much she is repenting and hurting after talking like that? No!

Clutching to their photo and saying maaf kar do is a no good option. Instead, she should have kept calling her parents and had a long talk with them or should have asked her family members to take her to them! I know I would have run to them if I had hurt them...my guilt would have driven me to directly communicate to them as soon as possible.

That's all I am saying.

Also, another thing I said was that even if she grieves, they make her squeak like little Anandi, which is not right anymore. Pratyusha should not be made to act like Avika! I mean there's a difference in the way older women cry and grieve and the way in which a kid cries.

Anandi has every right to grieve, fell guilty and feel like cursing herself, but being so bottled up to the point of falling sick so much so that the whole family has to attend to you...is leading nowhere.

[In fact, even when her mother was shocked and tried to leave when A said things to her, A should have run behind her mother even outside the main gate of the haveli, begging for forgiveness and requesting her mother not to take her impulsive statements to heart...Instead she kept standing at the door and fell down crying... :( ]

I know she is in pain...but the way she reacts or fails to react at the right time or does not react proactively, she is only increasing her pain manifold...

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Anandi saved herself from a misrable life, we have seen around us, a didi or bhabhi or aunty coming to maayka due to any reason , 90% cases she is considered as an alian or second degree citizen ,I have seen 3 widows, 1 divorcee and 1 separated women form extremely wealthy to worker class...somehow in Indian system of male preferring society, they all shared a common fate, of listening sympathy, and dejection from their respective families. Anandi's parents would be no different than Phooli's and she would be bearing someone's kid without wedlock...with naatha pratha crap...
I wonder how much a girl have to sacrifice, and a boy can go ahead and bring a new wife and start a new life as Jagya did, as Vasant did and as phooli's new husband did...a good fate like Sughna's is still a dream for India.
Edited by geet138 - 14 years ago
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Hi Annika,

I completely hear you. The way she shud have reacted and tried to undo/contain the damage is how I would work.

The way she actually made the situation worse by bottling it all up inside is how my younger sister works - and trust me it has been a very LOOONG and frustrating and irritating time till I was able to understand this is how she is and as much as I want to rant at her - she will stay this way !! It has taken me simply ages to accept her as she is...

So I guess I am saying that - while I completely agree on how she shud behave - she is the self sacrificing, please others at any cost type of people and unfortunately nothing is going to change them ever...

Am glad u and I think alike on how she can improve 😊


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Posted: 14 years ago
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I cannot imagine my life without my mother!!! For me the worst punishment is when my mother stop talking to me for any reason and i really appreciate the CVs for showing this bond between anandi and her mother thats awsum😊
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Posted: 14 years ago
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@Hooked

Yes I agree there are such submissive and docile people who keep so many feelings and emotions bottled up inside them for years and keep tormenting themselves...

In Anandi's case I think her nature was fashioned by DS' constant subjugation who rebuked her everytime she spontaneously tried to express herself!

But I am hopeful now that A would change for the better, I really hope she does!

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