Do you think Gauri really loves Jagya?

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 14 years ago

#31

'Was it sufficient to secure Jagat's 'disinterestedness' in a veritably, dually participated relationship existing far before? [/QUOTE]

Why was it not sufficient? This is why gauri agreed to marry Jagya - because he said that he will never go back to anandi even if Gauri did not marry him.

It is Jagya's job to maintain his marriage vows and not Gauri's. How does it matter if anandi is still interested in him or not?

That being said - the rest of your post is very well written. After coming to the haveli, she should have been more sensitive instead of trying to get anandi out of the house/vicinity and backdrop even.

The problem here is not Anandi's interestedness in the face of Jagya's disinteredness.

The real problem is that Jagya despite his claims of disinterest, still is interested in anandi (based on what gauri sees - running after her in the jeep, speaking to her in the cowshed alone at night etc. etc.)

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Nandita5

@Nandita5

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Posted: 14 years ago

#32

Originally posted by perfect.cand

I don't think she actually loves Jagya.. all she is trying to do is have her past trauma (as per her) be winned over again.

If she would have loved him then she would have thought about Jagya not just herself. She could have tried to make his life easy not hers... she has always been like rona dhona for her haq. And also she would have understood Anandi's love for him rather than cursing her that she wants Jagya back.

She is so insecure as she herself knows Anandi's love is strong than hers..

Can't say anything about Jagya he is just hopeless... he can't love anyone.

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No Gauri definitely does not love Jagya. All what she is doing is out of her desire to have them compensate her for the past hurt they had caused her. Love is giving not taking. And all Gauri wants is for herself. As for Jagya u are absolutely right. He is a spineless creep and a thoroughly spoilt brat. he is totally selfish and will go to any lengths to prove himself right.

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stuti..

@stuti..

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Posted: 14 years ago

#33

Originally posted by: tinoo

Tinoo,Thanks for you Response.

I have not seen entire MBBS period. So what exposure Gauri had on Jagya's previous involvement is a handicap gap while reacting. But when it's showed that she has been aware about Anandi's existence in his life for more than 16 years, that she was devoted to him, that he is perhaps acting callous to her, then being a 'sensitive' person, even if Anandi's feelings are not her direct responsibility, it might be very much her area of concern to the effects of her decision. Stress here again, is on her 'presumed' sensitivity. Add to this, when she herself passed through the trauma of rejection and acutely feeling even after all these years, why, she ought to be even conscious to the similar plight of other woman as direct consequence of her actions- though perhaps not entirely binding to her. If she has a wholesome relationship in her mind, then at least she ought to have nudged Jagat to secure a more humane closer with a very much alive third party ( don't know if she'd actually tried on this front), before going ahead with merely 'disinterested' Jagya. And that's why I feel her reckonings insufficient. Just my POV. Thanks again.

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amrapali dubey

@amrapali_dubey

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Posted: 14 years ago

#34

gauri is mentally ill...she is psycho...needs a psychiatrist immediately...suffering from amnesia also...in her childhood she was crying n pleading to her parents to not marry her with jagya as she wanted to study...her parents abandoned her...

n now she keeps on saying she suffered...DUH!!...get u facts right gauri...n immediately consult a psychiatrist...

she doesnt love jagya at all...she is only obsessed with her toy whose name is jagat...

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Mousumi

@-Chinky-

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Posted: 14 years ago

#35

Gauri herself doesn't know what she wants from jagya.. She thinks that she loves him but NO! she only loves her own future which must be bright and respected.. Its only anandi who loves jagya with her every breath.

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 14 years ago

#36

I've been reading online excerpts of a book on The psychology of being the other woman - by Dr. Gail Saltz.

It says that what prompts someone to be 'the other woman' is extremely low self-esteem wherein they mistake the first kind word or first kind deed that a man does to them as 'love' because nobody has really been good to them. They dont know what love is and mistake a couple of gifts, a couple of movies, and some kind words as love.

After gauri's wedding fiasco, when mahapanchayat annuled it, her parents had to change several villages. Nobody really accepted her, and she and her parents were the laughing stock of several villages. Nobody would give her father a job, nobody wanted to marry a girl who had already taken saat pheras with some other boy even if it had been annulled etc. etc. etc. ... and during those difficult times i am sure her parents also must have cursed her in frustration calling her 'manhoos' and all such things.

While her bade papa (village judge or school principal) or whoever it is must have nurtured her in some way in later years, she definitely grew up feeling a great deal of self-hatred, thinking that she is not worthy of love and not worth of acceptance. Maybe she even thought that there was something wrong with her - which is why the singh's did not accept her.

When she reached college, she found Jagat to be the person who gave her appreciation, gifts, kind words and kind deeds. I am sure that this soothed her self-hatred and he made her feel valued and appreciated so she mistook this for love.

The other thing is that the "other woman" ALWAYS looks to be # 2 in someone's life deliberately because something in her past has sent her a message which is now deeply subconsciously ingrained that she is not worthy of being # 1.

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perfect.cand

@perfect.cand

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Posted: 14 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: intruderfast
really who is setting the rules here , yahaan pe kaafi log gyaani aur philosophers banke baithe hain
aise karna chahiye , nahin aise karna chahiye , aise lkikhna chahiye
when topic amker itserlf is saying g love is not as strong as anandi love , isnt he or she making a comparision here
so usko kyun nahin kuch bolthe
or rules r diff for diff ppl😉
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@ intruderfast

Yes everyone is giving their opinions... having their thinking caps on. I am glad to see so many perspectives to one situation... but seems like you are confused and has something to say to me.

The topic is "Do you think Gauri really loves Jagya?" which invites different POV - with or without comparison. In my POV I have compared both as they are the only two who are in love with the same man. Also the traits that I brought were - selflessness and sacrifice which are above any comparison. Nevertheless that was my POV and you don't have to agree. I respect my POV, and so I respect everyone else's POV.

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Arshi86

@Arshi86

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: atria
I think she did love Jagya during the five years of their courtship, in a fairly uncomplicated way. Not every one can be selfless in love, she was an ordinary girl dreaming of an ordinary life with Jagat. Now unfortunately her love has crossed the borders into unhealthy obsession, not with Jagya, but with the Singh parivar and Anandi, for past wrongs real and imagined. Love has taken a backseat.

I agree with what you said, even I feel that Gauri did genuinely love Jagya, whatever she did before marriage was because she loved Jagya and wanted to build a simple life with him, but because of the past and everything that went on in the haveli, her love has become obsessive. Also I think she is insecure because she realizes that Jagya does not really love her but more what she represents, an educated modern girl that represents sophistication and status, compared to what Anandi represents, which Jagya feels is not within his standing. I love Anandi, and except for her yelling, I even feel sympathy for Gauri, I just wanted to point out that Gauri is not at fault for every thing, she has become obsessive because of her past and the rejection she faced in the haveli, as for Jagya his thinking is coming from his ego, which as Anandi's mom pointed out is all the fault of all the laad-pyaar Dadisa gave him.

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nihsheeth

@nihsheeth

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Posted: 14 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: intruderfast
oh no no in this serial only one character can love that is anandi the gr8👏

rest dont know what love is, anandi should open a love school and teach everyone what love is

yes thats a better career option for her, be a love guru😃👏🤣

It's not about A...it's about g ...she loves or not...umm i think not...

...she traveled from infatuation to obsession in such a jiff dat poor love dinn get time to develop...🤣

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vasuja

@vasuja

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#40

I think both the gals Anandi and Gauri love Jagya in their own ways

Anandi knew jagya from childhood and her love matured and she did everything to make him happy and successful

Gauri too loved Jagat, supported him and helped him to build confidence after ragging like Anandi...I think it is becoz of gauri jagat cleared his medical papers...I always felt that jagat was dimwitted and needed one of the gal's to educate him...I don't doubt her love for Jagat anytime becoz her love has put her in misery and harm...

As for Jagya/Jagat I don't think he loves anyone other than himself...And it is sad that both the gals are wasting their emotions on this selfish guy.

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