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You know anmol, i look at dadisa's planning a bit differently🤔-Yes,she has been extremly cruel in the past but here she is not doing anything deliberately to make gauri look bad,she is just accepting whatever gauri wants but gauri childishly keeps expecting everyone to give more importance to her and forget anandi...
All dadisa has done is make them stay in the haveli for she wants jagya to see the difference between these two wives, her focal point is whats bestfor 'her ladesar' and 🤔she truly believes anandi is best suited partner forhim--adjusting,patient,perfectly compromising whenever jagya makes mistakes...Dadisa perfectly understands jagya's flaws and according to her anandi will be perfect mate for him...Coming to haveli was gaga's choice so dadisa's little plan isnt to blame for all their troubles..Anandi has already accepted jagya's marriage ,she may still have some feelings for him but she will never be part of any plans to break gaga marriage ...So i dont think there is a jag anandi reunion any time soon-yeah, huge fights may put big strain on gaga relationship with gauri turning more and more negative,but no jaAn reunion ,atleast I hope not🤔-That would mean back to square one with jagya having learnt nothing from his mistakes .👎🏼.Anandi just needs to move on with her life away from these two ...
@Jyo and Hooked exactly my thoughts . We are looking here to get A into a well settled life and happy life since this girl has never done anything to deliberately hurt anyone and has genuinely done things for others happiness at the cost of her own. If A is out of J and G life her happiness should not be based on their suffering. In fact their existence it self need not affect her or her happiness.
J and G both are wrong and insensitive in their approach. But at the end of the day it is their decision and hence they have to live with it weather the outcome may be good or bad. But at the same time they need not impose this decision of theirs on others and throw a tantrum and insult others who are not accepting this decision of theirs. That's absolutely not their call. If they were that concerned about family approval they should have done all this before the marriage and not now. By doing it now they are indirectly imposing their decision on others who don't want to be party to it. If they want every one to respect their decision they also need to do likewise rather than force themselves on others. They have tried from their end and are well aware of the reasons of the family's disapproval. So just move out. Under these circumstances even expecting the family to support their living and education expenses is not justified in my opinion. They are old enough and educated enough to make a living. They married each other and it was only their decision to do so. Hence they need to support each other and not expect the family to provide for them.
About DS i would like to add one thing. In marriage compatibility is very important. This is exaclty what DS has sensed. J attraction to G is with her modern outlook, her modern dressing and education. But how much of this he has in himself? He has changed his outlook after going to the city to blend himself there, but how much of that he actually believes in? Is it just a way of claiming himself to be modern? For that matter G herslef is from a small village and we have seen in the past that she doesn't really believe in what she says. J and G although lived together, they have not seen the real side of each other. G always knew Jagat not Jagdish and J always knew Gauri not gudiya. Moreover they have had a smooth sailing in mumbai but when faced with hardships, it is how these two react to it is what will decide their compatibility. They both are very similar with regard to being strong headed, stubborn, impatient, immature and doing things their own way. If no one is ready to compromise and be patient fights are bound to happen. If one person is angry, stubborn, etc the other needs to be the opposite to settle matters calmly and this is probably what DS saw lacking in G and J relationship which was not true for A and J. Initially they may be ok with fights but with time how serious these fights get or how much at peace of mind these guys are, only time will tell.
But I do not find DS deliberately doing anything to cause any misunderstandings. If G wants to be a beendni in the haveli which she craves for in every episode she will have to be able to tackle the atmosphere in the haveli the way it is.
Andv @bold . So true..they truely are alike and maybe thats why understand each other so well. See how well they handled the BadePapa issue ? Both think alike in a lot of ways..in right and wrong 😆
Though I do agree that for a long lasting marriage u need to have complimentary skills...when u have 2 extremes like J and A, A will forever be adjusting and J demanding. Here - on the the other hand, I love how Gauri is making Jagya grow up by being such a tantrum queen. So, maybe these two can find a way to make it work for them 😛. I wud wish them all the best !
Jyo@bold..absolutely true. DS in her own way- has invested a lot of time (not always to our liking) in grooming Anandi to be the ideal beendni that she wud have wanted for her ladesar. And all she was looking forward to was a great grandson, which isn't such a unrealistic ambition to have from her POV.
All she is doing is letting J see the contrast. Letting them live and be themselves like in a 'Big Boss' house as u wrote in another thread ! A very apt analogy I must say !
And her biggest redeeming factor is that she has given Anandi full freedom and blessing to go pursue her dreams and be whatever she wants to be !!! This is huge - considering not many children even today in cities get that choice - some parents still do burden their kids with their preferred career paths.
yep, they 'handled' bade papa perfectly with jagat advicing her "ask about money only on second phone call"😲...Only their common goal mattered not the amoral way they chose to attain it...
😉Maybe this tantrum queen is what's needed to make this superbrat jagat grow up.😆...But gauri is much more stubborn than jagat🤔 ,after every fight she is almost fuming,struggling to control herself -🤔lots of anger management issues there-so far jagat has managed to calm her down but can he be patient in the long run remains to be seen...
So true, anandi had become the perfectly 'groomed' beendni by dadisa-it was sad...🤔almost like in those wild horse training in stables,make them run and run in circles,tire them ,break their spirit and then bridle them into submission so that they follow every command...She had become what dadisa wanted her to be,perfect bahu,but one that her husband doesn't want anymore ...
Now dadisa has set her free to pursue her own dreams ,yesterday she even started rethinking her career education options,not blindly following what others want but asking her OWN inner SELF,Anandi thinking 'what do 'I' want"-🤔that in itself was a positive sign..
Maybe with DS 😉Big Boss's ashirwaad and encouragement anandi will finally succeed in achieving her own dreams .. 😍
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