I am Dr.Jaggu - Mujhe sharm nahin aati - Page 4

Originally posted by: pjyo

😉gauri se bolegaa "tumne bus ke upar daako se ladaii naa ki hothi to main tum par lattoo nahi hotha sab tumhari galthi hai gaurii"😆..or he will blame lal singh or makhan kaka🤣

Originally posted by: CutiePiee4

u never know with this guy he can even blame that NRI guy for hurting his ego and saying u made me say "I LOVE YOU" to gauri. Had u not been there in the picture i would havde never done this😆😡

😆So true,bolegaa,"Oye NRI😉 ,kya zaroorath thi flight pakad ke mere time pass girlfriend se milne aane ki😆,naa tum aathey na main propose karthaa😆,sirf tumhare kaaran maine commitment kii😆..dekha tumhari wajah se maine kiss musibath se shaadi karr li"😆

Originally posted by: pjyo

So true,bolegaa,"Oye NRI😉 ,kya zaroorath thi flight pakad ke mere time pass girlfriend se milne aane ki😆,naa tum aathey na main propose karthaa😆,sirf tumhare kaaran maine commitment kii😆..dekha tumhari wajah se maine kiss musibath se shaadi karr li"😆

Originally posted by: ankit111

@doyelpakhi - if go by this logic thn all couple of arrange marrige sd be justified for their adultery, becoz in arrange marriage mostly its family choces and couple did compromises. so if couples find better option thn they sd be justified as per this logic. in Jogia case after reaching adulthood he hd choice to accept it or ignore it. his second marriage rashm with Anandi was like arrange marriage with his acceptance, thn how can we justify tht only after going mumbai he realised tht they r not made for each other. tomorrow he will go abroad and find another realization tht G is not made for her😆 we cant justify his every realisation. there was a lot of proof, on the basis of wht hs been shown, tht he loved Anandi. i cant believe this cheater word only tht he didnt love her😡 he can say anything. he is saying tht Anandi was ONLY his friend. thn wht was tht honeymoon. was it only friendship honeymoon?? so only his word to manipulate and justifying his word is not acceptable for me😡 u r saying wht sacrifices he hd done for Anandi, can u tell me wht sacrifices he hs done for G. u can say he left his family for her, but now he is begging from same family. HE IS A SELFISH PERSON AND HE CANT LOVE ANYONE IN TRUE SENSE AND ON THIS BASIS U CANT JUSTIFY HIS ADULTERY😡

I differ slightly in this regard - J and A both were socially conditioned to believe from childhood that they have to stay together as a couple. After being adult , they were not asked whether they want to continue the relationship or not.

In arranged marriage, when two adults decide to marry, they know that commitment and many baggage come with marriage and knowing the scenario well, two adults willingly take the vows. In JA case - it's different. Here they are first married off, then with time and age they realize the baggage and have to continue with it.

In JA's case they already had a strong bond of friendship and comfort level. So when A was coming back to haveli, it was natural for them. J and A - both never questioned the social norms because that's what they have been seeing around them. Groucho has explained their relationship nicely in one of the above posts.

Marriage is a life long commitment and both parties have to try their best not to break it. But my question is - when the commitment is thrust upon you when u r a child, is it really necessary to fulfill it?

It was after J moved to Mumbai he knew what he wants in his life and what kind of partner he wants. I am not supporting the way J treated A and the way he came out of his first marriage, but his attraction towards G and his decision to end his marriage with A shows clearly that when two different mentality people are asked to stay together for life for that evil norm Bal-bibah, result is disastrous. I don't think J's decision not to fulfill his commitment is wrong as he has never made any commitment. Definitely, he should have end it in a civil manner and should have shown more consideration for A.

As far as incompatibility is considered, after being adult, J - A did not spend too much time with each other. But within that period, there are number of times, when difference of J and A were evident.

J from the beginning wanted his wife to be like city girls donning modern clothes - he even brought mini-skirt for Anandi during their honeymoon while A was not at all willing or comfortable wearing ultra-modern clothes ( however, she succumbed to J's pressure and did wear salwar kameez).

J did not think twice to be rude to people - for eg - he insulted Shyam's parents several times while A knew exactly how to deal with such situation in matured manner. When A used to make J understand, he did not ever care to listen to her.

There are couple of other examples regarding Dadisa, changing his name and few other matters where we have seen that J's way of thinking and A's views are completely opposite.

That's why I am saying they are always incompatible. A went according to his wishes, so J had no problem with A. Had A been also adamant in some cases and refused to go according to J's wishes, it would have been more clear to the viewers how much incompatible they are.

A has accepted all of J's flaws and loved him and trusted him. But did J ever loved her? I don't think so.If one loves someone, then one must have respect and understanding of the other person. J might have consummated their marriage, but he has neither shown any respect/understanding for what A is nor has done any compromise for her sake.

Anandi was like a habit to him - since childhood, he has been told she was his beendni; he used to get help from her in his studies and hence when she returned to haveli he accepted her without raising a question

@doyelpakhi just want to ask u one qstn. agreed that A was so flexible with J hence they never had much problems. but since G argues and disagrees with lots of things with him do u think he likes that. Do u think he loves G sincerely?

Originally posted by: fast trak

@doyelpakhi just want to ask u one qstn. agreed that A was so flexible with J hence they never had much problems. but since G argues and disagrees with lots of things with him do u think he likes that. Do u think he loves G sincerely?

He went to the city and found out that he likes the modern thinking G more than A. This happens to many guys who come from small towns. But doesnt mean they leave their wives and marry a more modern girl. Sometimes its ok to admire the modern ways but ultimately when it comes to daily living everyone prefers the traditional methods or the ways and culture that they have been brought up under.

J got carried away with G's modern thoughts but now when hes back with family he cant help getting attracted to A and her ways. The way he ran behind her rickshaw and waiting behind her to thank her...they way he thanked her at the dining table saying that he will never forget how she always is there for him in need says it all.

In order to be a good spouse u first need to be a good friend and J and A get along very well and she understands him the best of all. G needs to go a long way yet in the relationship and its not easy with A already in J's mind. The comparison will always be there and A always comes on top.

@hooked 😆 lol so much talking is giving J a headache now. He has never heard any of the ladies shout so much in his house. But he wants to taste something different and soon he will know that all that glitters is not gold 😆

I think sitting and watching a TV show it is easy for us to simplify matters according to our own beliefs and perceptions...sadly the reality of similar situations must be terrible for those involved.

Originally posted by: fast trak

@doyelpakhi just want to ask u one qstn. agreed that A was so flexible with J hence they never had much problems. but since G argues and disagrees with lots of things with him do u think he likes that. Do u think he loves G sincerely?

He went to the city and found out that he likes the modern thinking G more than A. This happens to many guys who come from small towns. But doesnt mean they leave their wives and marry a more modern girl. Sometimes its ok to admire the modern ways but ultimately when it comes to daily living everyone prefers the traditional methods or the ways and culture that they have been brought up under.

J got carried away with G's modern thoughts but now when hes back with family he cant help getting attracted to A and her ways. The way he ran behind her rickshaw and waiting behind her to thank her...they way he thanked her at the dining table saying that he will never forget how she always is there for him in need says it all.

In order to be a good spouse u first need to be a good friend and J and A get along very well and she understands him the best of all. G needs to go a long way yet in the relationship and its not easy with A already in J's mind. The comparison will always be there and A always comes on top.

J was infatuated with G 😃 I don't think J could love anyone really deeply. He always wanted everything according to his wish and has always been self-absorbed person.

As JG relationship is considered, at least, J did something for G - he came into this blessing mission on G's insistence; he was ready to fight with his family for G even though it might have been an emotional decision by J and he might not have considered the consequences regarding his finance at that time.

But yes - he always wanted his wife to be like a city girl.Even when they were teenagers, J brought a modern dress for A. Basically he wants someone who is educated but will always listen to him obediently, smart but not assertive - a trophy wife.