if she accepts him back?

First Previous

Page

Frequent Posters

Nisha

@KyunkiImafan

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 14 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: pravitha
after hearing stories like these...my hatred towards society is increasing day by day...! have really no words left to express my anger on this shameless society encouraging this!!
is staying in a marriage soo important for a woman than living with self respect and dignity??!! are women so cheap?? in what way a women is any lesser than a man??!!!
selling oneself and burning oneself with a bad marriage just for the sake of social acceptance is worse than death...if a person cant live a life the way he/she wants to...(in righteous terms), then there is no point in leading a life like that... god knows when women in our country will realize this!!

I understand your frustration, but at times its not that these women don't realize the wrongs but they don't get enough support and strength to stand up and fight. There are not many ears to hear a woman's plea in villages. And even if a women stands up, there are lot more forces working to make sure she doesn't succeed.

Quote

groucho

@groucho

Rocker

Posted: 14 years ago

#12

Yes, it is indeed a sad plight for women... if in some of the most educated and developed countries, women cannot come out in public and speak up for themselves...what chance do our women have.

It is a long and hard road...but we must address these issues and do whatever we can as often as we can.

I admire all those who spend so much time trying to educate the uneducated all over India...it cannot be an easy task.

Quote

Looks like you are new here. Register for free, learn and contribute.

pravitha

@pravitha

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

#13

i am happy to see so many having views coming up... and the anger coming out on these unfair biases in the society...

all i wonder is... when a child is born, irrespective of girl or boy..it is innocent and knows nothing... so when do these ugly facets come in to a child? and make this huge difference... man and woman? in the course of brought up? if so, why don't the mothers of men teach and cultivate the good thoughts in the boy baby? to bring him up as a sensible man who will treat women like his equals? why this failure to do that?

the reason being...the mothers of these men accept the fact that man is higher than woman...hence they bring up the boy baby also the same way... what a shame!!!!

even in case of BV, the reason jagya is what he is today is just because all the elders who brought him up failed miserably in making him a good human being... he might be a doctor now... but as a human being...he is nowhere...

Quote

groucho

@groucho

Rocker

Posted: 14 years ago

#14

Sadly Jagya was spoilt by his grandmother...even when Bhairon and Sumitra tried to discipline him...I know the best time for values to be taught and instilled in children is at an early age.

Edited by groucho - 14 years ago

Quote

pravitha

@pravitha

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

#15

i would agree that it is partly true... but i will not put the blame completely on his grandmom... grandmoms are meant to be that way... they are 2 generations ahead in time and are certainly out dated for the present... i have my own experiences... i i were to follow every single thing my grandmom says, then i wont be what iam today... though i love her and i listen to her... i would know what i can absorb and practice and what i cant... this come up only from the brought up of the parents... it is the duty of the parents to make sure the child walks the right roads... failing which they should not have a child in the first place... to make other's life miserable...

but hard truth is that india is very close to china now in producing the maximum living beings on earth...soon there will be more indians than anyone else... out of those...how many will be responsible human beings is a big question !!!

Quote

groucho

@groucho

Rocker

Posted: 14 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: pravitha
i would agree that it is partly true... but i will not put the blame completely on his grandmom... grandmoms are meant to be that way... they are 2 generations ahead in time and are certainly out dated for the present... i have my own experiences... i i were to follow every single thing my grandmom says, then i wont be what iam today... though i love her and i listen to her... i would know what i can absorb and practice and what i cant... this come up only from the brought up of the parents... it is the duty of the parents to make sure the child walks the right roads... failing which they should not have a child in the first place... to make other's life miserable...
but hard truth is that india is very close to china now in producing the maximum living beings on earth...soon there will be more indians than anyone else... out of those...how many will be responsible human beings is a big question !!!

True ...but this is so subjective that all I can say is indulgent grandmothers (God bless them!!😃) are wonderful but not over indulgence...and this is the way the cv's have shown it.

Quote

pravitha

@pravitha

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

#17

yup agreed... totally... today dadisa as shown with a winking smile on her face and talking good thngs about anandi... all that is fine... but how can we forget that she is same one who locked her as a child in dark room? behind those pranks of her today...lies a very selfish woman who wants the good and the best for the sons of her blood and cares not a wee bit about the women beside them... !!!

Quote

Anmol Jain

@intruderfast

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 14 years ago

#18

then haveli waals will do pooja of her and ds will dance and ppl will say now anadi wins, she gets jagya back and gauri is a looser cos she did not get jaga in the end

happy ending tadaaa🤢

Quote

doyel

@doyelpakhi

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#19

J's return to A and her accepting him back is a COMPLETE NO-NO! If this happens, then BV will be promoting child marriage because All's well that ends well.

Marriage is a commitment for life and two individuals can only make such commitment once they are sure what are their expectations from life and life partner.

Why would two individuals will go out of their way to fulfill the commitments which were not made by them but made in the of evil social norm?
Why would two individuals sacrifice their dreams and their wishes which was initiated without their approval?

I want JG to at least try to make their marriage work because if we speak about promises, then Jagya made commitment in a real sense to G - he knew what he is doing and why he is doing.

As far as his relationship with A is considered, they were married in childhood, they developed a strong friendship and they grew up thinking that since they are husband and wife, they have to lead a life like a couple. Both of them did not question whether two of them are compatible with each other or not.

After Anandi came back to haveli, it was clearly evident that J and A has almost no mental match - their dreams, their opinions, their perspective towards life are completely different.

J and A stayed together as adults but they did so, only because they were married in childhood.

It's NOT that - J had forgotten everything and after growing up he himself chose to have an relationship with A. At the age of 18-19, J could not think of deviating from the social norm . But can we really take major decisions at 18?

We can blame J for his rude, atrocious behavior towards A or for not being honest with A about his relationship with G, but as far as coming out of the marriage is concerned, he ultimately broke the social norm after he realized what he really wants in life. J, despite all his flaws, have one argument in favor of him - Why would he try to do everything to save his marriage when he himself has not decided to marry A ?If he would have met Anandi and Gauri after growing up, he would have definitely chosen G over A.

If JG don't even try to save their relationship and J comes back to A and repents, then what message are the CVs trying to give?

The show will only emphasize the sanctity of marriage - no matter on what circumstances the marriage was done.

At the same time, I want A should file for divorce making them realize that a man can't just walk out of a marriage anytime. The legal issue will be highlighted in a better manner. If she files for a divorce, it's not necessary, that J will get punished as she will not bring any charge against him. In a way, it will make the masses aware and also Anandi can move on in life independently.

Edited by doyelpakhi - 14 years ago

Quote

1 2

if she accepts him back? - Page 2

Related Topics

Explore Topics