Thanks for sharing and indeed you make sense. But I would like to add something.
There are lot of different psychological disorders. Two of them being Alzheimer and Schizophrenia. My dadaji suffers from both and my dadi suffered from Alzheimer for couple of months before she left all of us. These two, had forgotten so many things but they remember what not to do. Like my dadaji would forget who I am but wont forget that he needs to be careful on road, because he had an accident. Each time he gets scared when he sees a car coming in front of him. My dadi even when she wasn't able to recognize the house she was in, was able to tell if the roti was made my me, my mother or the bai. And as soon as she will understand that bai has made it she will throw it away! So what I am trying to tell is that people rarely want to go back to experience, incident that causes them pain/discomfort.
Same way, when something seem to have left a big mark on your life, you either bury it so deep that you pretend to have it forgotten OR you fight to try to put it behind OR you activity find the roots and try to destroy it. Gauri being a doctor, which I hope in India they do have to take mandatory psychological courses (as everyone in US has to even if they are math major). She would have gained some knowledge and that would have helped her come out of her misery a bit more. The show has shown us that Gauri was freed from her illegal marriage with Jagya in childhood and then was given the opportunity to study and live away from family for it. That's at least around 10+ years. In these years she has learned about the issues of Child-marriages, she has gained lot of knowledge, she has been shown to be happy, and good human and was shown to activity oppose injustice to beendnis of such child-marriages.
The show has not shown us if she remembers that her own parents gave her the biggest pain of her life. They almost sold her to DS and left her to die. The show also haven't shown if she stayed with bade papa while getting her earlier education or that she actually was rejected by everyone after the panchayat declared her marriage illegal. She was shown to be happy when she was freed. A kid might not remember all the details of the past but they seem to remember the results. (ie another disorder I will tell, my brother had dyslexia when he was younger but he doesn't remember how he did many things which used to make us all worry for him he only remembers when he was coming out of it, where he started to understand things more and write correctly etc)
Also, Parents are usually fairly protective of their kids and they wont in any case want their kid to suffer same experience as the one that they know has done a lot of damage. We have seen how Gauri was shown to have told her mom not to think of past as she wants nothing to do with it. And then we see that her parents actually let their daughter go to the same family and show their disagreement for FIVE minutes!! This is not how parents are. (I tend to fall down/trip a lot..don't know why but even if its normal for me, whenever we go to places where my parents know I might fall they warn me to be more careful and my mom usually comes and holds my hand!)
So, in all, all the things that have happened after her traumatic incident, have helped her move on, make herself and her life better, get educated, and has given her the ability to choose right or wrong.
The show has shown that she within hours accepts Jagya back and since then she is shown to have little to no respect for anyone's feelings and shows no understanding of others.
I agree, she is stuck in her mind, where she wants acceptance, even if its wrong but I still do believe it has lot to do with her ego/obsession. She sure does need some therapy.
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