Is parents approval necessary - Page 5

Originally posted by: ankit111

I salute u all, who love their parents and r ready to sacrifice their own happiness for theirs, because they hv been doing this for u whole life. They deserve ur love, respect and some sacrifices. See tht it wd not be too late to understand it .

Originally posted by: Suchi-NivReniac

kiyunki! such a sweet girl you are!

I hope your dad sees your way and accepts you with your wishes right away!!!

Originally posted by: ankit111

Kiyunki, u r really inspiration. 👏 👏 the best thing is ur mom understand u. Whn mom is with u nothing bad can happen with u. My best wishes with u.

Originally posted by: intruderfast

<div></div>do i come in that category bade bhaiyaa😊😆😆

Originally posted by: _zephyr

Hi Ankit - you know me but i am not using my account as there are friends of mine who come on to IF so using a friends.

I come from a Brahmin family and fell in love. Knew him for 4 years, parents were shocked when I told them but once they met him and realised he was Brahmin too and other things added up ok withhis family, they okayed and we got engaged. Then he went abroad on a job and came back after 18months for the wedding, he landed 2 weeks before the wedding. And in those two weeks he showed me hell!

First marriage in a joint family, i have a younger sister, all cousins are girls, all younger to me...and with this absolute knowledge that I making the biggest mistake of my life I got married. If i backed out then my mother would have killed herself and my entire family would have borne the brunt! And then we were in India for 2 more weeks before we came abroad...and then the real mental torture began...no friends, no family, no nothing was living in a void with each day going any which ways! His mind worked in ways which was beyond me, he tortured me (mentally) and with his doubts and suspicions...

After 10 months or so I got a job and as the joining date was after 2 months i wanted to cometo India for a holiday and he said ok and he would join me later for our first wedding anniversary.

No one in my family/friends(except one) knew about what I was going through...and once he came to India, the mind games began again...and this time he opened his mouth in front of my mum and spoke nonsense about me to her...it half killed her and I went berserk...how dare he...and then again the empty promises, i will not do this again, dont know what came over me and so on...and believing him i still came back abroad...

eight months or so after my marriage my sister announced that she was in love and he is a non-hindu! parents went mental...so i could not burden them with my troubles.

came back abroad, about to start work in 10 days and the mind games began again...and on the day before i started work i said no more and left him...either it was to join work and stay back in a foreign land and survive or get the first flight back home and get everyone on my back convincing me to go back and all marriages have hiccups (they were doing this on the phone anyway)\

i stayed back without knowing a single person in the entire country and went and joined work...

I asked myself one thing, do i want to wake up next to this man for the rest of my life...and my entire being revolted and said NO...rather die...and that was it. my decision didnt change. my mom became completely silent, father tried anger love sweet words threats everything to make me 'understand'...but i stood my ground and one fine day just like that they agreed. after one year i got divorced in India and i was free! but the memories both good and bad haunted me for a long time and my parents were there through out...

and then after my divorce, over the next couple of years i worked on my parents as my sis was adamant that she will marry him but with their blessings only or she is ready to wait forever without ever getting married.

And then they eventually agreed and my sis got married to the person she loved and they got me married too and today we both are happy with our husbands...

and in all this my parents have been absolutely marvellous...they wanted their daughters' happiness and although it took them some time to get it in the end they have proved that love triumphs all especially parents love for their kids! my parents are everything for me.

3 years ago i decided that i had enough of a phoren life and my husband and i moved back to India, my in-laws live with us. my parents live 1 min away from me. my mum sends something or the other every day with my dad and he comes around at 10.30am or so with my mums food to have a cup of tea with my in-laws. Today i have everything that i ever wished for and my parents were there always...and supported me through the darkest of times even if deep down they felt i was making a mistake...

sorry for the long post!

Originally posted by: _zephyr

Hi Ankit - you know me but i am not using my account as there are friends of mine who come on to IF so using a friends.

I come from a Brahmin family and fell in love. Knew him for 4 years, parents were shocked when I told them but once they met him and realised he was Brahmin too and other things added up ok withhis family, they okayed and we got engaged. Then he went abroad on a job and came back after 18months for the wedding, he landed 2 weeks before the wedding. And in those two weeks he showed me hell!

First marriage in a joint family, i have a younger sister, all cousins are girls, all younger to me...and with this absolute knowledge that I making the biggest mistake of my life I got married. If i backed out then my mother would have killed herself and my entire family would have borne the brunt! And then we were in India for 2 more weeks before we came abroad...and then the real mental torture began...no friends, no family, no nothing was living in a void with each day going any which ways! His mind worked in ways which was beyond me, he tortured me (mentally) and with his doubts and suspicions...

After 10 months or so I got a job and as the joining date was after 2 months i wanted to cometo India for a holiday and he said ok and he would join me later for our first wedding anniversary.

No one in my family/friends(except one) knew about what I was going through...and once he came to India, the mind games began again...and this time he opened his mouth in front of my mum and spoke nonsense about me to her...it half killed her and I went berserk...how dare he...and then again the empty promises, i will not do this again, dont know what came over me and so on...and believing him i still came back abroad...

eight months or so after my marriage my sister announced that she was in love and he is a non-hindu! parents went mental...so i could not burden them with my troubles.

came back abroad, about to start work in 10 days and the mind games began again...and on the day before i started work i said no more and left him...either it was to join work and stay back in a foreign land and survive or get the first flight back home and get everyone on my back convincing me to go back and all marriages have hiccups (they were doing this on the phone anyway)\

i stayed back without knowing a single person in the entire country and went and joined work...

I asked myself one thing, do i want to wake up next to this man for the rest of my life...and my entire being revolted and said NO...rather die...and that was it. my decision didnt change. my mom became completely silent, father tried anger love sweet words threats everything to make me 'understand'...but i stood my ground and one fine day just like that they agreed. after one year i got divorced in India and i was free! but the memories both good and bad haunted me for a long time and my parents were there through out...

and then after my divorce, over the next couple of years i worked on my parents as my sis was adamant that she will marry him but with their blessings only or she is ready to wait forever without ever getting married.

And then they eventually agreed and my sis got married to the person she loved and they got me married too and today we both are happy with our husbands...

and in all this my parents have been absolutely marvellous...they wanted their daughters' happiness and although it took them some time to get it in the end they have proved that love triumphs all especially parents love for their kids! my parents are everything for me.

3 years ago i decided that i had enough of a phoren life and my husband and i moved back to India, my in-laws live with us. my parents live 1 min away from me. my mum sends something or the other every day with my dad and he comes around at 10.30am or so with my mums food to have a cup of tea with my in-laws. Today i have everything that i ever wished for and my parents were there always...and supported me through the darkest of times even if deep down they felt i was making a mistake...

sorry for the long post!