Bade Achhe Lagte hain 2 EDT #38 - Page 63

Originally posted by: AubodroKhargosh

Was there an article? If so please do link it! I would love to read it too 🤩

I will take any chance to discuss krpkab lol

nope, not article…

if I still remember right, we were discussing reg priya’s preference in men and how in the world she liked neeraj and later mythri fell for him in bh’s posts… this led to narcissistic father figure based discussion and also I had few DH Lawrence wala doubts so I pinged tournesol😉

And I have a habit of dissecting my content that I consume and make sense of it… (which is why I am reading about parenting and child adaptations)

and my curiosity led to an interesting convo

and after a good back and forth…

she recommended me the show… and I am bowled by it

every thing I wanted for raya, I am seeing it in krp show… albeit, they are Dev and Sonakshi…. Not ram and priya… if only those circumstances had Softie Kapoor and coconut kapoor

Originally posted by: vaidharbhi95

She keeps Nandini and Shivi above herself for the sake of Ram only , because she thinks that is the priority order in Ram's life.

She is not wrong, given an option to choose between romantic love and duty towards family it will be duty and obligation towards family for Ram. It's a very emotionally exhausting place for him. Ram struggles in balancing relations because unlike Priya he is soft and very conscious of not hurting people.

Diwali night made a huge impact in the way Priya sees Ram. He had confessed to her then that he constantly fears that his love will be divided after Priya entered his life and his family would feel left out. If that happens Ram would go on a guilt trip cursing himself that he let down the promise made to his dead father of keeping the family together.

So Priya as a wife has taken upon herself to respect his obligations.

I don't like drawing mythological parallels because BALH2 has become too impure for that. But still , how in some versions of Ramayan , Sita herself chooses to abandon Ram and raise her child alone in order to protect Ram's Raja dharam. Ram loves Sita dearly but still let's go of his pregnant wife and unfortunately the kids though are innocent they lead a vanvasi life instead of life of a prince. ( I am not a fan of this track of Ramayan , but would stop here because don't want to hurt anyone's religious sentiments)

This dynamic will change only and only when Ram can break free from the kind of suffocating obligation he feels towards his step family and he tells Priya about it. But we know that Ram himself will never be able to do that. The scene were Priya confronts on whether he is hurt by Shivi's words, he vehemently refuses. He has never been able to accept to himself in sober state that his step family doesn't love him and all he has is their daya/mercy.

So only when Priya sees through the evil side of Nandini which will harm Ram , she will free not only herself but Ram too ..

I never liked pri’s stance in that situation as much as I never liked ram’s stance in the same situation…

I can defend and pit each of them in their own positions against and for eo, but not for what they did in absolute sense… as it never made sense on either side🤣

This man and his woman were mirrors of eo

which were reflective, yet they stood opposing eo…

with a glaring error of missing communication and conviction between eo….

staring right into eo,

leaving the biggest blind spot that they could have seen together and addressed together…

and that kid could have had both her parents…

alas, all they had was, and is eo…

Btw Shubhu's 'Hi Pihu, Bye Pihu' 🤣

I'm loving post leap Shubhu.

So evil, yet so dumb. Hayee

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

I couldn’t have said it better ya… one more point…

I never liked pri’s stance in that situation as much as I never liked ram’s stance in the same situation…

I can defend and pit them each of them in their own positions, but not for what they did in absolute sense… as it never made sense on either side🤣

This man and his woman were mirrors of eo

which were reflective, yet they stood opposing eo…

with a glaring error of missing communication and conviction between eo….

staring right into eo,

leaving the biggest blind spot that they could have seen together and addressed together…

and that kid could have had both her parents…

alas, all they had was, and is eo…

This is so beautiful !!

Alas what to do Ram n Pri both have their reasons .. Ram for the kind of obligation he feels for step family and Pri for underestimating her need in Ram's life

One day it will change 🤣

Originally posted by: Zanutix

Btw Shubhu's 'Hi Pihu, Bye Pihu' 🤣

I'm loving post leap Shubhu.

So evil, yet so dumb. Hayee

Also Pri ka bday aa raha finally .. So exciting!!

Ramu pls ya toh khud se kuch sochna, ya kuch bhi mat karna, par kisi aur se idea mat mangna. Pileeeej 😭

Onion Kachories still haunt me . Sandy ne sab plan bigad diya. Bechara Ramu 🤣

Also what about another loop. Ramu doing all bday plans and Pri dancing and giving credits to Krishuuu.. Hayee ... What say doc 🤣

Originally posted by: Zanutix

Btw Shubhu's 'Hi Pihu, Bye Pihu' 🤣

I'm loving post leap Shubhu.

So evil, yet so dumb. Hayee

that was a loop too…

shubam takes breakfast from his family members’ plate… first time pri was drunk, and Nandu talks to ram over phone at breakfast, he takes food from Nandu’s plate and leaves to break shikki 😆

Going forward he also takes food from shivi’s plate and runs away , where I forgot exactly…

Today, he did it with Pihu

Originally posted by: vaidharbhi95

Also Pri ka bday aa raha finally .. So exciting!!

Ramu pls ya toh khud se kuch sochna, ya kuch bhi mat karna, par kisi aur se idea mat mangna. Pileeeej 😭

Onion Kachories still haunt me . Sandy ne sab plan bigad diya. Bechara Ramu 🤣

Also what about another loop. Ramu doing all bday plans and Pri dancing and giving credits to Krishuuu.. Hayee ... What say doc 🤣

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

I glanced through the past couple of edt’s, I might have missed it… please do share the links..🤗

Also, remember your recommendation? Krpkab…? I was actually reading about parental attachment and children’s adaptations according to that reg, the show… It is a gold in the dust of itv galore.

I am so glad you gave Krpkab a try and enjoyed watching it. I think it is one the best shows that demonstrates how a narc parenting looks like, and its consequences. Very well written show and characters. The show has a nice arc, esp till episode 143 or so. (krp's S3 is like HP's cursed child. 🤣 Unnecessary and ruins a beautiful story)

Initial episodes of Balh2 also had the looks of that kind of soft love story, realistic characters... and toxic parents 😅. Now only, the toxic part remains well established in the show. Except Pihu. Ram-Pihu scenes are still blissful.

To be honest, i too never liked that track of Ramayana. No offence to anyone's religious sentiments but ya... a lot of things in Ramayana just does not sit well with me! DM me if you want ever want to discuss it.🙃

Anyways onto Ram and Priya... well their chara ters are flawed indeed.

There is a concept in literature... its called Hamartia... introduced by aristotle in "Poetics" and activelybused by famous writers of all times... including Shakespeare, Jane Auten... i mean basically every writer applies it to their protagonists especiallybwhen showing them as tragic hero/heroine, which is why Hamartia is also, in popular terms, called The Tragic Flaw... the one ingerent shortcoming or flaw in the character that leads them to face tragic events

In case of Ram... its his emotional baggage and need for acceptance by his step mom and siblings to the extent that he blindly belives whatever they tell him for the fear of loosing them

For Priya, its self abandon, as CDS mentioned

Unless and untill they resolve their hamartia, ghey cant really move forward

Originally posted by: tournesol

I am so glad you gave Krpkab a try and enjoyed watching it. I think it is one the best shows that demonstrates how a narc parenting looks like, and its consequences. Very well written show and characters. The show has a nice arc, esp till episode 143 or so. (krp's S3 is like HP's cursed child. 🤣 Unnecessary and ruins a beautiful story)

Initial episodes of Balh2 also had the looks of that kind of soft love story, realistic characters... and toxic parents 😅. Now only, the toxic part remains well established in the show. Except Pihu. Ram-Pihu scenes are still blissful.

@bold - Exactly my thoughts 😆. I am still here for Ram - Pihu moments. Especially Ram getting to know Pihu is his daughter part of the scenes.