I have seen this kind of thing in a friend’s family. The father abandoned the family when the kids were young. U would think that after growing up in that situation, the girl would be longing for stability & normalcy so she would choose a sasural which has a stable family setup. But nahin, she chose to marry a boy whose parents were not speaking to each other & the boy himself had recently come out of a bitter end to a long relationship. Any sensible girl should have steered clear of such a boy, but she went for it. And her life after marriage was as miserable as her growing up years were. Finally she got out of that bad marriage with 1 child. A few years later she remarried - this time a guy who had another kid from a previous marriage so there were always some tensions over your kid my kid. I could never understand her choices.
Similarly I dont want to judge but after the terrible situation created by their father, u would think Sara would be extra careful in the men department & not make avoidable choices like getting pregnant before marriage. If she had waited & had say a regular love or arranged marriage & then got close to her hubby, she may have had the chance of a normal life, like a lot of Indian women do. But by sleeping with her BF before marriage she made her own life difficult - it was a risky choice for her specifically since she did not have family security.
Somehow a traumatic upbringing leaves such an impact that the person goes looking for a much better experience but ends up with the same.
Edited by Bana - 3 years ago
