so I am going to give a view which is neither here nor there.
1. we live in very strange times where people are incredibly lonely. it is such a problem that governments in certain countries have established 'loneliness minister' to deal with the issue as it leads to other societal problems such as increased mental health stress and suicidal tendencies. especially with the lockdown, there has been increased feeling of loneliness and people living alone found it very hard to navigate the social isolation. so as people, we need connections and many feel a long-term committed relationship such as marriage fills the gap and makes them feel less lonely and anxious.
2. what is the problem? there are several contrasting ideas at work in our society. so single people (whether man or woman) are made to feel like they are not complete unless they are in a relationship, they have failed in life if they don't get married by a certain age and that something is wrong with them that they are unable to be in relationships.
now, we live in a different time. previously, marriages had financial aspects which meant that people just couldn't survive without a home. these days, both partners are working and so you can survive on your own if worse comes to worst. so in this day, people are less likely to put up with nonsense and a bad relationship. this makes the attitude that marriage is the only way as a bitter pill to digest. the reason -- you are looking for a companion who you can have a successful relationship and not anyone will do.
3. there is a huge chunk of our society (including the older and the younger generation) who don't care who they are married to as long as it is someone. basically the mindset is that it is better to be with someone than alone and therefore, anyone will do. they aren't interested in stuff like emotional compatibility etc.
this is why priya's mom is like "just get married" -- because to them, any possibly good match is good enough. for this section of society, marriage market is like the vegetable market -- you go in with your shopping list, find something that matches and walk out with what you want. the ones who end up alone are therefore looked on less successful or just plain failures. people like akki think being single is a problem to be solved and therefore, we need to match priya with someone.
regardless of where you are -- single or married or in a relationship or complicated -- you are you and you are precious and God has a plan and purpose for you. if you believe that, then you will be okay regardless of what your romantic journey looks like. :)
Edited by mango.falooda - 3 years ago
