Originally posted by: narangi_77
I actually think Ram behaved really badly...
I think what he did was terribly underhanded. To arrange for this V dude to contact Priya's family via a profile they had posted, leading them to believe that this rishta had emerged independently...that's underhanded...esp given how he congratulated her and wished her well...that's doesn't sit well with me at all.
I am not absolving Priya's family and Priya herself of the responsibility they had to take their time and do some investigating...
In fact I think everyone (including Priya) has culpability in this...but Ram, according to me, has behaved in the worst, most underhanded way...
How could he possibly think that a man who would marry for money and promotion could be a decent guy? In fact, Vikram is guilty of this as well. He's the one who suggested to Ram that finding a guy wouldn't be a problem (they could buy him off with the promise of cars, jobs etc)...he's the one who put it into Ram's head that Priya needed convincing and the only way it seems to me that they decided this would happen was to make her think that she decided to marry this guy of her own volition...
That sucks!
Anyway...I do agree that Priya's family should own their part it in this sordid mess
But Ram is guilty of something far worse in my mind...
See, I get your point. I do think he should have stopped when he was told to stop. And he certainly should have checked the guy out before. Both he and Vikram are responsible for the whole "let's find a guy - we can give him money, promotion etc" thing.
But. Ultimately it comes down to this - Ram is not responsible for Priya. His goal in finding a guy for Priya is not because he cares about her (necessarily) but because he cares about his own sister - there is an end goal in his mind that to him is far more important. This is not to absolve him from his actions, but it is almost DEFINITELY Priya's responsibility and her family's responsibility to ensure that the guy they see, wherever he comes from, is suitable. If Ram is to Nuts what Karthik is to Priya - then while we see Ram actively doing something to ensure his sister gets the best in life, even going so far as to settle some random girl he just knows THROUGH Nuts, then why is Karthik hanging back and letting him do it? If Priya is Karthik's "zimedaari", then what has he done to fulfil that? Hang around watching Nuts pretend to shoot herself? What happened to his lamba bhashan of the other day?
Yes, Ram's actions were wrong but they were born out of a desperation to get something done. Just as Shipra's actions - the lying about the age, the marriage bureau guy, the widowed guy she found on the net - all of these are born out of her desperation also. But as parents, she & Sudhir, and as a brother, Karthik are all MORE responsible in my mind to ensure that their family is on the right path. Ram is an outsider; if not for Nuts he would never even know Priya, so it is not his responsibility to even bother looking for a guy. That he has, and that he has found the wrong one, is a mistake he has made, but it's a mistake he only made out of good intentions. It's a mistake he didn't have to make. He certainly didn't do it with negative intentions - just an impatience born from a wealth he's always had, and a desire to make snap decisions. To me, Sudhir and Shipra's (and Karthik & Priya's) inaction is more dangerous.
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