Anuj abusing adhya

I am sorry to say that anuj kapadiya is abusing and threatening adhya to accept shahs and anupama for his own benefits

same way he was threatening Malvika to give job to vanraj in kapadiya empire so that he marries Anupama when she kicked him out of kapadiya em[pire although vanraj cheated/did EMA with her before

What anuj did to Malvika hes doing same with adhya again after 8 years

Anuj knows how badly CA was treated as a kid by shahs and anupama, yet he wants her to fall at their feet and worship them so that he can woon anupama and marry her again

When CA does not want to meet Shahs who is anuj to force adhya to accept them so that he can again do love shove with anupama

CA should complaint to child care in USA against anuj and anupama that they are forcing her and sending her to her past abusers Shahs and anupama too and that shes not safe with them

Anuj trying to emottional blackmail adhya and threten her to accept shahs and anupama against her will

Hes telling lies after lies he says aadhya to not play victim card wow. He did same drama with Malvika you know during his and anupama wedding time. The most victim card drama is played by anupama the great than hasmukh the great than pakhi the great than toshu the great than baa the great and vanraj the great always. Adhya has never played victim drama like Malvika shes splitting truth that anuj cannot really digest.

If what adhya is saying is playing victim card than what was anuj kapadiya playing 26 years victim card of lover of anupama while having ONS with other women. If aanupama was so right why she told anupama 5 years back you never prioritize me and ca only shahs. Now he wants anupama so nicely shifting all blame on kid like he never blamed anupama. This is like anuj does murder but putts on adhya head by giving murder weapon into her hands when police come. Anuj is trying to shoot messenger here

No child should be treated like this by any parent

Sometimes relatives are physically or mentally abusing kids especially girl kids and hence kids are scared to go to them than no parent has right to force or threaten that kid

If parent force or threaten parent should be in jail because no parent has right to do that even to a 5 year old or 12 year old like adhya simple

Anuj was trying to do same with Mlavika trying to force her to take her abuser varaj back in kapadiya empire so his marraige with anupama does not stall in 2022.

Anuj parents must be cusring their fate and turning in their grave why they adopted such a son in life whose pushing his sister, daughter towards abusers instead of protecting them?

Adhya should have pushed Baa or hasmukh in fire not anupama they are horrible humans

I seriously want adhik or malvika to come and protect adhya from this maniac anuj kapadiya

to get his love he will sell his sister or daughter too(sorry for using such harsh language but thats what anuj doing) such a cheap man

And hes lying about anupam asaying she left her career blah blah blah

Anupama left her career in USA and ran not to take care of CA but shahs. She could not live one day without vanraj and baa so ran back from plane simply reason she gave as CA liar. Not one week she took care of CA and was back serving Shahs after getting down from plane

Just because anuj is parent he has no right to push adhya towards abusers and harmful ppl

This is what happens in real life too if a child says it does not want to go to certain relatives there is a reason its being abused may be verbally, psychologically, emotionally or in extreme cases sexually

But parents are blind and send kids to relatives or elders without any thought and child gets traumatized for life

I have seen a kid who had tried to commit suicide because her parents were forcing her to go to a place where she was being abused. She gave hints again and again and after few months tried to commit suicide. Parents may have understood something going on but like typiical asian parents ignored it as all elders are bhagwaan, cannot displease relatives or family friends and spoil relatonships even if child is suffering. Keep forcing child to behave normal or go to abuser place again and again till child finally breaks and takes extreme step actually.

Kids are innocent they cannot easily stand up to any type of abusers and neither tell at home what abuser doing keep in mind and fear many years and if parents force may take extreme steps under pressure. Of course even 5 year old kid will give hints about abuse but are parents mature enough to understand or like anuj /shruti who give a damn and only want good relations with shahs at cost of adhya life and health

Adhya is 13 years not very big to handle abusers or that shahs will get scared not to abuse her simple so why go near them why go meet them or to places they are in

Anupama enables abusers shahs annd does not protect CA against shahs at all that is reason aadhya scared of anupama too

Why the kid has to bear Shah's and her ex mom? She's doing rang rangila with third stb husband. Shah's were her ex sasural no relation to Anuj. Someone make me understand where is Anuj connected to them and why his daughter needs to be around them?

Of course if Anuj isn't taking care of the kids well being he's no lesser than abuser. Abuse isn't just beating kid or mistreating them. He had failed as a parent the moment he had taken in the kid tbh. Anupama and her clan as family is just not stable why he subjected a kid to this is mind boggling

Originally posted by: Phir_Mohabbat

Why the kid has to bear Shah's and her ex mom? She's doing rang rangila with third stb husband. Shah's were her ex sasural no relation to Anuj. Someone make me understand where is Anuj connected to them and why his daughter needs to be around them?

Of course if Anuj isn't taking care of the kids well being he's no lesser than abuser. Abuse isn't just beating kid or mistreating them. He had failed as a parent the moment he had taken in the kid tbh. Anupama and her clan as family is just not stable why he subjected a kid to this is mind boggling

Parent duty to protect kid from abusers or those who want ill for their kids or ill treat their kids even if its own spouse or relatives

Anuj has failed miserably in this with adhya and before Malvika

Luckily sara ran off to usa or she would have met same fate as malvika at hands of shahs

Disclaimer: not anyone's bhakt or fan

So, you are trying to say whenever a parent or even our parents scolded us or showed mirror of our mistakes - they abused us????

So, parents should not tell us where we are right or wrong??

CA has gone through but the method in which she is venting it out is not right!! Anuj needs to send her for counseling and in the US counseling for "kiddos" are greatly facilitated.

Originally posted by: shwetha85

Disclaimer: not anyone's bhakt or fan

So, you are trying to say whenever a parent or even our parents scolded us or showed mirror of our mistakes - they abused us????

So, parents should not tell us where we are right or wrong??

CA has gone through but the method in which she is venting it out is not right!! Anuj needs to send her for counseling and in the US counseling for "kiddos" are greatly facilitated.

First rule is never force a victim to go to their abusers in life again just to maintain your relationship or benefits

You cannot force a human even 5 year old kid to go to a person or place it does not want too

Parents or teachers or boss etc can also be wrong - that is first lesson thought in psychiatrist/counselling course

You are assuming parents or elders are always right

But psychiatist and counselling course never do that

CA may be behaving rude but that does bnot mean her fear and feelings are wrong and only anuj is right as parent

I do not think anuj is right - if adhya do not want to go to shahs and anupama why force her?

If you go to psychiatrist they will say same thing

I would never blindly say elders are right because i have seen ppl suffering for life when parents force kids to go to their abusers again and again in real life the abusers may be anyone relatives, teachers, neighbours etc

Not every parent is fit to be a good father or mother - if you say do parents have no right to correct- that depends on if parent is mature enough to be a parent to a child

Both anuj and anupama are not fit to be parent of a small kid

Originally posted by: myviewprem

First rule is never force a victim to go to their abusers in life again just to maintain your relationship or benefits

You cannot force a human even 5 year old kid to go to a person or place it does not want too

Parents or teachers or boss etc can also be wrong - that is first lesson thought in psychiatrist/counselling course

You are assuming parents or elders are always right

But psychiatist and counselling course never do that

CA may be behaving rude but that does bnot mean her fear and feelings are wrong and only anuj is right as parent

I do not think anuj is right - if adhya do not want to go to shahs and anupama why force her?

If you go to psychiatrist they will say same thing

Looks like you are a parent yourself of kid(s) and seem to know more about psychology as well. Thats good. Let us agree to disagree, I dont think Anuj was entirely wrong, CA is venting out incorrectly. Going for counseling is much better. Help is out there because parents or teachers cannot do it all.

But isn't he getting marry to Shruti for aadhya sake ??

Then why would he try to get close with anupama then??

Sorry I haven't watched anupama for last 1 week that's why I am asking !

Originally posted by: shwetha85

Looks like you are a parent yourself of kid(s) and seem to know more about psychology as well. Thats good. Let us agree to disagree, I dont think Anuj was entirely wrong, CA is venting out incorrectly. Going for counseling is much better. Help is out there because parents or teachers cannot do it all.

Ca venting out because she has anxiety and depression for many years and not received medicines for same

Her condition has gone grave so she screams and rants and pushes - thats how abuse victim or mentally depressed human behaves if for long untreated with medicines

Indeed childhood abuse is more hard to forget just like sexual abuse- rape no amount of treatment can make victim fine it takes ages to overcome all that decades

It do not get over by few months counselling or medicines

It can recur back any time in life

USa would not reqquire social service dept to check on vulnerable kids if all parents are great parents but its not reality - many parents do not understand parenting or how to treat kids in various circumstances

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Ca venting out because she has anxiety and depression for many years and not received medicines for same

Her condition has gone grave so she screams and rants and pushes - thats how abuse victim or mentally depressed human behaves if for long untreated with medicines

Indeed childhood abuse is more hard to forget just like sexual abuse- rape no amount of treatment can make victim fine it takes ages to overcome all that decades

It do not get over by few months counselling or medicines

It can recur back any time in life

USa would not reqquire social service dept to check on vulnerable kids if all parents are great parents but its not reality - many parents do not understand parenting or how to treat kids in various circumstances

Not sure which country you live in, I have been in the US for 16 years now and a citizen - I know about the counseling process here plus have received counseling myself. So, you are wrong there for sure!!! Rest about CA I dont care. She is not real anyway. Peace

Please correct me if I have missed anything.

It was shown in the episodes that Aadhya was undergoing treatment as a result, her panic attacks had reduced. So, Anuj did the right thing at that, atleast. Her emotions turmoiled due to the appearance of Anupama which triggered her insecurities. Anuj's constant attempts to rekindle contact did not help the situation either. She is now in a mess and her being a teenager is not helping either to cope up with ALL of what is happening.

So far as I have known and understood, if a child expresses that she is uncomfortable in the presence of certain individuals, things, situations, the first is to acknowledge and isolate the situation, address the fears, prepare the child if the situation seems unavoidable. There is No way, a parent would force them to "face their fears" that too forcibly.

Two issues that were severely problematic today were:

1. Anuj listing out everything that he and his ex-wife and mother of Aadhya did and to top it ALL calling it a Sacrifice for her sake.

22.Not acknowledging and addressing Aadhya's issues calmly and forcing her to establish and maintain a cordial relation with her abusers and enablers.