Anupama putting her sins on others head - Page 2

Originally posted by: surabhi01

I am sure anuj already wanted a daughter but he could not adopt daughter as single male is not allowed to adopt female child

So he thought anupama se bhadiya nanny kaha milega thst is why he marry anupama so that he can adopt female child

Fact Is that anuj ne anupama ki weakness ka fayda uthaya

Anuj bolta to hai ko shah mut jaao but no difference between vanraj and anuj

Ek ko maid chahiye ek ko nanny

Both. Vanraj and anuj two timer .

Both speak harsh words to anupama and just blame .

Both cannot tolerate freedom of anupama

Both just want anupama should act according to their order

Did Anuj force his decision on her? NO.

This can be confirmed in the clip shared in the other thread. Anuj was already coming to accept that Anupama wouldn't agree for adoption but she did. It was a FULLY CONSENTED, CONSCIOUS decisions to Adopt Choti Anu.

She should have declined it. Did she Not know that Adoption is a lifelong commitment? It involves not just yours but your husband's and the child's life and future? Truth be said Anuj has been a very, very patient spouse. He ALWAYS stood up for her at the cost of his own self-respect.

Infact it can be said (with evidence) that Anupama NEVER stood up for Anyone who cared for her, loved her. Be it her mother, brother, Samar, Anuj, Even Ankush-Barkha, Dimple, Kinjal, now Yashdeep, Beeji.

So did she take advantage of ALL of their goodness, love, care, even their hard earned assets?

Exactly, and if he only wanted a mother in order to adopt a child then he could’ve married any random woman why specifically the unpaid maid of shameless shahs? Anything to portray their Devi as bechari pathetic how Anuj who genuinely loved the filthy is being compared to that abuser Vile Vanraj!

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Not telling anupama that what maaya Try to do with anuj

Going for .night walk with maaya

Did Anupama tell Anuj that Vanraj was lusting on her and even proposed to her? Did she tell Anuj that Leela was an accomplice in the whole duration? Did she not keep Vanraj's secret?

Have Vanraj and Anupama never strolled? Have Anupama and Vanraj not had heart-to-heart conversations?

Did Vanraj not advise and Anupama agreed to the advise about not abandoning her "Udaan" for a child (I mean who is he to advise her on what to do and what not to do)?

Did Vanraj not see her off at the airport when her own family (mother, brother, husband, child, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, son-in-law, daughter, sons, daughters-in-law never bothered?

Yes anupama tell anuj about vanraj wanted to marry her

Originally posted by: surabhi01

So all fault in anupama no fault in anuj

Nahin Anuj ka fault hain na, every injustice that happened to Kapadias is Anuj's fault. Him forgetting Malavika, not standing up against disrespect to Ankush-Barkha at the hands of Pakhi, even Anupama and Shahs is his fault. Him not once remembering his duty towards a hard earned and built Kapadia Mansion, Kapadia Empire, basically the surname he so flaunting tossing it around is his fault.

Js malvika small child that she need some one tell what is right or wrong

Why don't malvika herself what kind of person vanraj us

Malvka knew that vanraj cheated anupama so why did not malvika herself back out

Was she not Vanraj's partner before coming to India? Wasn't she in a mentally vulnerable state? There is every tendency to overlook facts and they need to be guided, isnt it?

They gave it a term, isn't this an example of victim blaming?

Which husband talk about child just after marriage

Even if anupama sat yes to adoption but can't anuj understand by himself that adoption kr baat marriage ke agle din nahi Karni hai

Ok so, hementioned, why did she Not deny? She expressed apprehension to her friend. Did she Not know how serious a matter this is?

No matter what relationship mother has with children but np one has right to tell a mother whether and when she should give priority to children

No mother will like it

Any kin who cares for the child has every right to raise his concerns in the best interest of the child, atleast the father definitely does.

If this is wrong, how come it is right that Anupama blames, questions Vanraj and Leela for her "kids'" parvarish?

Bache chahe jaise ho but koi bhi maa apni bachon ki buraai kabhi bhi doosre se nahi sunegi and that is reality

Any mother will say ki mere bache chahe .jaise ho tum Kaun hote ho mere bacho ko buraai karne wale

Maa apne bachon ko maar legi dant legi but koi bhi maa Bahar walo ko haq nahi deti ki kub use bachon milna chahiye ki nahi

Are you saying this in the context of Anuj? By virtue of marrying her, he can and he tried until being told off. Now, when Anupama's daughter, son, daughter-in-law are either staying or (mis)using his resources and conning, are you saying he should have just stayed silent, paid up for the ghotalas but not straightened them up? Like he is doing now? And why is that?

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Originally posted by: surabhi01

Yes anupama tell anuj about vanraj wanted to marry her

Anuj trusted her enough to STILL not have an issue with her going to Shah House?

Infact, Anupama was ok with going to Shah House knowing that Vanraj was lusting on her and both him and his mother wanted her to return "as malkin"?

Where and when and how anupama taking advantage of other people

What advantage she take.from other people

U talk about giving luxury room to toshu sfe said ko toshu El Acha se Kamra book karaao vanraj ke liye

She was telling a son ti to book a luxurious room for father she nowhere said ki anuj book Kar denge Because when baa said hamari jitna chadar hai hum Utne pair falienge so anupama now where said ki paise ki aapko chinta Karni ki jaroorat nahi hai hum paise de denge

Aur waise bhi jub anupama ne Anuj se shaadi ki thi to anuj ke paas jyaada paise nahi tha anuj ne property maalvka ke naam Kar Diya tha

Upar se anupama ko yeh bhi nahi Pata tha anuj e paas,

patrak property hai

Jub Anuj ke paas khaas khuch nahi tha tub anupama ne anuj se shaadi ki

Ab pats nahi anupama ne barkha ka fayda kaise uthaya I

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Anuj going to maaya and saying ki main ab kabhi nahi aaonga anupama ke saamne maaya ke haath mehdi lagana use dawai Dena

This Samar Dimple marriage sequence itself is WRONG by ALL: Anupama, Anuj, Vanraj and Maaya and the rest for allowing it.

Going to meet vanraj secretly without informing anupama

Why does Anuj need Anupama's or anyone's consent ir permission to meet Vanraj?

Himself involving in Shah matter

Did he have a choice? Whenever he chose to draw a line, he was dragged into the matter, quite literally.

Himself sending anupama to shah house and then blaming anupama for not giving priority to choti

And Anupama is so naive that she cannot set her own priorities, right?

When he asked her to maintain healthy boundaries, she started giving lectures on majboori, matke etc. when he insisted, she starting having panic attacks or was physically present but mentally at Shah House.Woh insaan kare toh kare kya?

Making anupama in guilt trip that Maine tum pe choti force kiya tumhe maa banna nahi tha

You mean like she said "Maeine aapki Khusi ke liye aapko chod diya"?

On another note, did he not verbalise what she had been thinking or was mentioned just before?

Giving false hope to Shruti

Yes, he is wrong here, but what does that have to do with Anupama?

And moreover itne year se anuj ki choti ki misunderstanding door nahi ki instead of clearing misunderstanding of choti he too started blaming anupama without second thought.

He was not clear in. Her approach

What was he supposed to console Choti Anu with? The woman would should have reassured left her with her fear.

That your mother abandoned us but she was a good woman? Or that the woman he loved ALL his life walked out on him when he asked her to prioritise his family and distance herself from toxic relations?

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Of course anupama will go to shah house because it was samar wedding .

If u see when anuj went to Mumbai Anupama not a single day she went to shah house ..

.yes only she visit hospital to console her children and visit shah house only for few minutes the MN she come out

It was vanraj who use to visit at Kanta house and baa use to visit Kanta house to meet anupama

It was vanraj who came with bouque to give to anupama at dance academy

vanraj Said yeh dost ke naate de Ragha hoon as it was yellow flower

To anupama ne bola ki ki theek hai dost ke naate yeh accept Kar rahi ek chance de rahe hain

But anupama has warn dost ke aage bhadne ki soche ka bhi mut

It was vanraj who said mere darwaja tumhare liye khula hai but she refuse

There was very old episode where vanraj try to pult t sindoor at anupama head but she hold his hand not to put sindoor

After cheating anupama never look vanraj as husband but yes she wanted just cordial relationship with vanraj and she has made already clear it during vanraj birthday

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Anuj did not clear misunderstanding of choti when choti blaming anupama that she did not save her first .us chot si baat ka anuj ne Bhadava diya

Instead of closing the small matter he just exaggerated the things

And anupama ne choti ka abandon nahi Kiya. She already guve custody of choti to anuj by saying ki aap choti ka khayal rakhiyega

To.anupama ne choti ko anuj ki custody mein dekar gayi hai sfe has not abandon her

If anupama really wanted to abandon choti to anupana aise hi kahin bhi choti ko chod ke aa sakti Aur aaram se anuj ke pas rehti

Choti ko abandon karne ke lye anupama ko khud Ghar chodne ki kya jaroorat thi aur 5 year akeli rehne kya jaroorat thi