What Went Wrong with Anupamaa? - Page 2

Originally posted by: ShahH8er

And it's probably one of the worst possible families who could preach about any social issue 🤣

By now I feel expecting them to show Anupamaa being realistic and taking a stand for herself, is just a fever dream which will remain unfulfilled. In the other posts, you have broadly mentioned how she can take charge post leap and also, that this started off a show with a relatable premise compared to typical ITV drama. But at least some of those wacky shows take a leap and suddenly the FL is seemingly empowered even if it's for a bit.

Here, Anupamaa has to be always shown as a self sacrificing woman who is constantly on the receiving end and stuck between others (Bati hui orat). Some fans even justify this that her basic nature cannot be changed even if that means she keeps suffering and leads a miserable life impacting others around as well. Since makers just want to project this image of a greater than god Anupamaa, I don't have any particular hope left......

I think showing female lead empowered after a leap was a trend that ended in 2017 maybe. Ab to heroine kya career, kya empowerment bas apne husband ki first/second biwi ki saazishon ka pardafash karne me hi lagi rehti h. I never thought I'd say it but heroines of Ekta Kapoor's TV shows in early 2000s were a lot stronger than today's ITV heroines. Ab to Kumkum Bhagya, Kundali Bhagya, Bhagyalakshmi, Pandya Store, sabki heroines are much more regressive.

I agree! They had so much potential which was all wasted with Anupama giving long bhasans.

The Anupama now is no different from the one that was staying at SH after divorce.

She never grew as a person, became independent, learnt how important it is to set boundaries and learn to love someone and give them importance equally as others.

The MaAn until now looked more of Anupama being grateful to Anuj and married him but not giving him equal importance as others.

The marriage was too soon.

The romance angle was too soon.

I am unable to see her love and grief for CA as well tbh. Felt she said yes to please Anuj but couldn’t really consider CA as her own in true sense.

And why does exactly she should be solving the issues of everyone in the family?! She can give short advices but not take it upon herself to solve it.

Why was the girl Dimpy still there at KM?

She could’ve helped her become independent as well.

the way i see they always make her dependent on someone to solve her issues while she goes on solving other people issues.

make her sane rather than mahaan.

Why is her identity limited to being a Maa/Dadi? She could be a businesswoman, dancer, someone’s wife along with being a Maa/Dadi.

I felt irritated the way she would always put forward her identity as a mother/dadi as a explanation for all the issues that arose due to her not being able to draw the lines and being independent enough.

and last of all she needs therapy and counselling.

She was all up for Pakhi getting it so she should too.

Originally posted by: Autumn09

Yes something like that or he and Anupama meet as business rivals, show some tashan. It'd have been so refreshing to see a middle-aged bosswoman. ITV shows suffer from power imbalance where male lead is always super successful millionaire and female lead is a poor, simple family girl with a lot of aatmsamman.

Originally posted by: piapriya

I agree! They had so much potential which was all wasted with Anupama giving long bhasans.

The Anupama now is no different from the one that was staying at SH after divorce.

She never grew as a person, became independent, learnt how important it is to set boundaries and learn to love someone and give them importance equally as others.

The MaAn until now looked more of Anupama being grateful to Anuj and married him but not giving him equal importance as others.

The marriage was too soon.

The romance angle was too soon.

I am unable to see her love and grief for CA as well tbh. Felt she said yes to please Anuj but couldn’t really consider CA as her own in true sense.

And why does exactly she should be solving the issues of everyone in the family?! She can give short advices but not take it upon herself to solve it.

Why was the girl Dimpy still there at KM?

She could’ve helped her become independent as well.

the way i see they always make her dependent on someone to solve her issues while she goes on solving other people issues.

make her sane rather than mahaan.

Why is her identity limited to being a Maa/Dadi? She could be a businesswoman, dancer, someone’s wife along with being a Maa/Dadi.

I felt irritated the way she would always put forward her identity as a mother/dadi as a explanation for all the issues that arose due to her not being able to draw the lines and being independent enough.

and last of all she needs therapy and counselling.

She was all up for Pakhi getting it so she should too.

Well, it's quite realistic that she puts her identity as a Maa before her role as a wife because middle-aged Indian women have that mentality and in most cases, conjugal relationship takes a backseat in front of parental responsibilities. The main problem here is patchy execution? A woman who's yet to learn to draw boundaries with her children goes on to adopt another kid. I mean the whole gist of the serial was how a woman loses herself in her responsibilities as a mother, wife, daughter-in-law and this mahaan aatma instead of breaking free from the chains willingly take responsibility of another family, husband and kid.

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

Your last line is so true and so funny🤣🤣

And that female lead with huge aatmsamman dedicates her entire life fighting with her husband's another wife who lives in the same house with them.

Originally posted by: strancho

Well they don’t care about story. It’s about how to extend the show to eternity. How can you do that with logically and sensibly? Or the story has to be a real slow burn. If anyone here follows Katha Ankahee, that show is doing a really good job in every department be it story, screenplay, cinematography, direction or background score. But which show hogs all the trp ? 🐶🤡

Following katha Ankahee. It's a class unlike this garbage anupama. Kaha katha aur kaha yeh worst mother anupama .

Katha is defining motherhood and mother's journey in a very realistic way unlike anupama jiske liye khud ke naam mai Maa aata hai so hamesha unreastic bhashan deti rehti hai motherhood par lekin khud ekdum bakwas maa hai jiski parenting absolutely worst hai and 2 bacche jahir nikle.
Aj bhi 50+ anupama ko yeh nahi nahi pata ki maa ko apne baccho ko kaise paalna chahiye. Anupama ko basically bacche raise karne aate he nahi hai. Sirf burger, cold cofi , unki seva, unke kaam yahi karna aata hai.
Kathaa ki kahaani ko JOURNEY kehte hai unlike this anupama jiska journey jab jab husband se separation honewala hota hai tab he start hota hai aur fir phataphat uski khichdi ke jaise defuse bhi ho jata hai.

Khud ke naam mai Maa aa jane se bacche raise karna nahi aa jata🤢

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Following katha Ankahee. It's a class unlike this garbage anupama. Kaha katha aur kaha yeh worst mother anupama .

Katha is defining motherhood and mother's journey in a very realistic way unlike anupama jiske liye khud ke naam mai Maa aata hai so hamesha unreastic bhashan deti rehti hai motherhood par lekin khud ekdum bakwas maa hai jiski parenting absolutely worst hai and 2 bacche jahir nikle.
Aj bhi 50+ anupama ko yeh nahi nahi pata ki maa ko apne baccho ko kaise paalna chahiye. Anupama ko basically bacche raise karne aate he nahi hai. Sirf burger, cold cofi , unki seva, unke kaam yahi karna aata hai.
Kathaa ki kahaani ko JOURNEY kehte hai unlike this anupama jiska journey jab jab husband se separation honewala hota hai tab he start hota hai aur fir phataphat uski khichdi ke jaise defuse bhi ho jata hai.

Khud ke naam mai Maa aa jane se bacche raise karna nahi aa jata🤢

Sony shows were always a class apart. I just hope makers do away with Mahaanta syndrome of Anu and make her more subtle.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Aj bhi 50+ anupama ko yeh nahi nahi pata ki maa ko apne baccho ko kaise paalna chahiye. Anupama ko basically bacche raise karne aate he nahi hai. Sirf burger, cold cofi , unki seva, unke kaam yahi karna aata hai.
Kathaa ki kahaani ko JOURNEY kehte hai unlike this anupama jiska journey jab jab husband se separation honewala hota hai tab he start hota hai aur fir phataphat uski khichdi ke jaise defuse bhi ho jata hai.

Khud ke naam mai Maa aa jane se bacche raise karna nahi aa jata🤢

Please mention speshal halwa cake. At least kuch healthy toh bana deti. Ye pijja, burger, kophi, cake....🤣

And yes, very true that there is no comparision between Katha and this crapfest. Be it the show or the characters. Anupamaa is basically a mockery of motherhood and joke of a journey

Agree completely... The romance was too soon and even if they made her realize her love, they could have delayed the marriage and the adoption... don't even get me talking about it. In their greed to get more trps and please the Fandom, they ruined what could have been a potentially great story. They could have shown her a bit established before starting romance... This 26 years of love could have been avoided too.. It would have been nicer for him to be a stranger who gets to know about her due to her successful business or meets her somewhere and then fall in love... The Tamil version has taken that way, they meet each other in the spoken English class and aren't yet in love just colleagues who help each other.... Much more relatable... But itv doesn't believe in slow burn at all... It's all about instant Maggi... Though it does have its flavor, doesn't last long enough to keep enjoying it...

Anupama can never become Sonakshi Bose... Sonakshi was classic when compared to her...

And the last line is wishful thinking which would never happen as they think it's her signature and she shouldn't change

Originally posted by: Autumn09

And that female lead with huge aatmsamman dedicates her entire life fighting with her husband's another wife who lives in the same house with them.