Subaah ka bhula - adhik

OK i always liked the person playing Adhik although in starting he was shown negative

Its all upbringing of kids - with a mom figure like barkha and with a passive dad like ankush who has no say in that marriage and a close relative like anuj kapadiya you would assume adhik turned out much better (anuj said that sara was born when ankush and he lived together)

Adhik was definitely going wrong and thinking wrong to trap pakhi and gain control over anupama(how i am also not understanding) but its basically barkha upbrining thats making him do that actually

But when he married pakhi somewhere he looked the better human the mature human than pakhi shah or any shah in serial

Because imagine your wife gets a 60 lakh necklace an hen pecked bubby like ankush or anuj could never dare tell them on face you are wrong. But adhik told pakhi its wrong to take such costly necklace as he cannot afford it with his salary. If you think hasmukh, anuj and ankush are not brave enough to tell their wives faults on face because they are scared to spoil relation with wife or even her relatives (like anuj is doing bearing shahs tantrums) but adhik had that guts and maturity. So i am confident hes a mature person capable person if guided properly

If adhik remains positive would love him to divorce pakhi and marry another person may be kinjal as both are mature capable humans or a new girl not associated with shahs or anupama

Or may be if pakhi can be tamed into a better person which i doubt can happen

Actually a tiger never changes its stripes or a wolf cannot become vegetarian no matter what you do

Same way pakhi and toshu and vanraj and baa they can never change actually

I still think he is cooking something big. He is surely having big game in his mind.

I know transformations in television shows are instant but yeah, I would like to believe he is a good guy caught in circumstances.

Do you think it somewhere does not add up?

Not to forget, Adhik was a child when he was forsaken by his elder brother. He agreed Barkha's eye for business. He too harboured a sense of hurt and empathy towards his sister.

His extravagant lifestyle could be attributed to escape from the situations at home? He probably did not know any other way? May be🤷🏻‍♀️?

Barkha has, on many occasions said that she was not supported in the family and it was love lost in the marriage. She was not allowed to contribute in the business which both knew Ankush was not good at. Her actions, dialogues reflected neglect, thankless marriage and a sense of being treated as as outsider.

As one of the fellow readers mentioned, the character arc of Ankush and Barkha is shallow and highly questionable.

From Saat Phere to Anupama, feel bad for the actor ending up with the good but overshadowed Bhabhi.

Originally posted by: Exasperating

I still think he is cooking something big. He is surely having big game in his mind.

I would love adhik to think big and teach pakhi manners and values which anupama and shahs failed too

and also i want him to teach a lesson to his in laws especially that vanraj and baa and toshu

it will trp 4 if adhik tames the shah family and brat princess

hope he does not become lame duck like anuj

i would love to see a track like taming of shrew brat pakhi and taming of womanizer vanraj and baa by damad adhik mehta

i hope adhik takes this revenge on behalf of malvika kapadiya and its shown his intentions to trap pakhi was to teach shahs a lesson for troubling and using malvika whom he considers as sister and was close to in childhood

It will be a track worth watching - band bajao all shahs ki

Anupama ki bhi band bajao if she interfers in adhik mission shahs taming sessions

Someone has to come and rein in these shahs and even teach anupama her duties as anuj wife and kapadiya bahu else she thinks shes shah bahu still

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

I know transformations in television shows are instant but yeah, I would like to believe he is a good guy caught in circumstances.

Do you think it somewhere does not add up?

Not to forget, Adhik was a child when he was forsaken by his elder brother. He agreed Barkha's eye for business. He too harboured a sense of hurt and empathy towards his sister.

His extravagant lifestyle could be attributed to escape from the situations at home? He probably did not know any other way? May be🤷🏻‍♀️?

Barkha has, on many occasions said that she was not supported in the family and it was love lost in the marriage. She was not allowed to contribute in the business which both knew Ankush was not good at. Her actions, dialogues reflected neglect, thankless marriage and a sense of being treated as as outsider.

As one of the fellow readers mentioned, the character arc of Ankush and Barkha is shallow and highly questionable.

From Saat Phere to Anupama, feel bad for the actor ending up with the good but overshadowed Bhabhi.

Al i can say is barkha was cheated by her elder brothers and thrownoff from house after parents death

That makes her insecure and wanting loads of money and wealth to make her and her kids life secure

If you look at it barkha does not like ankush so much as he never allowed her freedom to work etc

Neither did anupama approve her botique idea to make herself independent not depend on anuj and ankush for money

It gets tough for women to go and beg give me 1000 give me 5000 every other day and hubby acting as if hes god doing favours on wife

Especially women in 40s and 50s who are still not that aged to not start something new in life like barkha or anupama start feeling frustrated may be that they wated all liffe for hubby and kids and are now alone no one respects or appreciate them anymore

Barkha is in similar situation as anupama but not so worst as ankush is not abusing her like vanraj

But tensions are there bet hubby and wife they hate each other but are staying for kids and society sake together

You can say bakha and ankush are just together for sara and adhik sake may be otherwise by now they would have may be separated

This ca be a very good track where you see barkha ankush unable to bear with each other and fighting or deciding to separate

May be barkha leaving ankush or thinking of that can bring adhik close to her again as obiously he will ruush to give shoulder to his sister whose supported him all life

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

I know transformations in television shows are instant but yeah, I would like to believe he is a good guy caught in circumstances.

Do you think it somewhere does not add up?

Not to forget, Adhik was a child when he was forsaken by his elder brother. He agreed Barkha's eye for business. He too harboured a sense of hurt and empathy towards his sister.

His extravagant lifestyle could be attributed to escape from the situations at home? He probably did not know any other way? May be🤷🏻‍♀️?

Barkha has, on many occasions said that she was not supported in the family and it was love lost in the marriage. She was not allowed to contribute in the business which both knew Ankush was not good at. Her actions, dialogues reflected neglect, thankless marriage and a sense of being treated as as outsider.

As one of the fellow readers mentioned, the character arc of Ankush and Barkha is shallow and highly questionable.

From Saat Phere to Anupama, feel bad for the actor ending up with the good but overshadowed Bhabhi.

Regarding barkha not getting support from hubby or his family before 2 decades back in 80s and 90s thats how husband and his family were90% of time with their wife unlike now

You ask anyone whose married in 80s or 90s they will say same as barkha and anupama mostly

The culture was such that unlike now wife had no say in money matters even f they were degree holders

Even if family lived in big city of india they lived mostly joint family with grandparents and few hubby brothers etc in womans house in 70s 80s 90s etc so you had in laws and hubby deciding most things economically for the wife unlike now

It was more of husband or father in law handlng finances and dictating things to women of house be it daughters wife or bahu or grand daughters

Even if woman went to work the hubby only decided what to do with her majority money n 80s and 90s

Its only after 2000s when ppl started migrating to big city in droves and left parents grandparents behind in villages that woman have got some freedom to decide or regarding money etc

If the hubby family s in big city only like vanraj parents sister etc live with him its tough to get freedom even today

That is why woman nowdayas marry and leave to other city or abroad to avoid hubby family

Not to say only wives are victims in parichail society like india

But mother in laws sister in laws daughters all face this issue of freedom at home if family stays in city with them

Its not barkha or anupama exclusive story

If dolly was not married hasmukh and baa and vanraj would expect her 80% salary to be given in their hands and they would decide what to do with it

If pakhi had gone to work before marriage she would be expected to give majority money in baa or vvanraj hands only they would decide how to use

Only in this serial they show only anupama is tortured no finnace freedom but most woman face same issue before or after marraige you see at hands of father or hubby etc

See anupama is married but she still pays shah house emis as shes daughter

Right now kavya and kinjal are only working members of shahs

How much respect they get hardly any by their hubby, in laws or kids too(step kids in kavya case)

If adhik and pakhi had gone to shah house shahs would have treated adhik just like anuj or more worst as he has no so much wealth too

who was and is providing to shahs actually? Rakhi anuj kavya kinjal anupama all outsiders not real son or daughter of house

Padhik marriage will be nullify because I have heard Arya samaj wedding is not legal

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Regarding barkha not getting support from hubby or his family before 2 decades back in 80s and 90s thats how husband and his family were90% of time with their wife unlike now

You ask anyone whose married in 80s or 90s they will say same as barkha and anupama mostly

The culture was such that unlike now wife had no say in money matters even f they were degree holders

Even if family lived in big city of india they lived mostly joint family with grandparents and few hubby brothers etc in womans house in 70s 80s 90s etc so you had in laws and hubby deciding most things economically for the wife unlike now

It was more of husband or father in law handlng finances and dictating things to women of house be it daughters wife or bahu or grand daughters

Even if woman went to work the hubby only decided what to do with her majority money n 80s and 90s

Its only after 2000s when ppl started migrating to big city in droves and left parents grandparents behind in villages that woman have got some freedom to decide or regarding money etc

If the hubby family s in big city only like vanraj parents sister etc live with him its tough to get freedom even today

That is why woman nowdayas marry and leave to other city or abroad to avoid hubby family

Not to say only wives are victims in parichail society like india

But mother in laws sister in laws daughters all face this issue of freedom at home if family stays in city with them

Its not barkha or anupama exclusive story

If dolly was not married hasmukh and baa and vanraj would expect her 80% salary to be given in their hands and they would decide what to do with it

If pakhi had gone to work before marriage she would be expected to give majority money in baa or vvanraj hands only they would decide how to use

Only in this serial they show only anupama is tortured no finnace freedom but most woman face same issue before or after marraige you see at hands of father or hubby etc

See anupama is married but she still pays shah house emis as shes daughter

Right now kavya and kinjal are only working members of shahs

How much respect they get hardly any by their hubby, in laws or kids too(step kids in kavya case)

If adhik and pakhi had gone to shah house shahs would have treated adhik just like anuj or more worst as he has no so much wealth too

who was and is providing to shahs actually? Rakhi anuj kavya kinjal anupama all outsiders not real son or daughter of house

There are these issues and differential treatment of Daughter-in-law v/s daughter and it will exist. Human nature🤷🏻‍♀️.

That's an oxymoron na.

Especially in case of Anuj and his family who seemed progressive from what they spoke of. Especially does NOT match Anuj's character from how they interacted in the previous episodes.

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

There are these issues and differential treatment of Daughter-in-law v/s daughter and it will exist. Human nature🤷🏻‍♀️.

That's an oxymoron na.

Especially in case of Anuj and his family who seemed progressive from what they spoke of. Especially does NOT match Anuj's character from how they interacted in the previous episodes.

Are you talking of how they threw pakhi adhik out of home? That was more for trps as viewer demanded it rather than real story so it looked OTT

I would say its not only daughter in law versus daughter treatment

Like in one of my auntys mayka, daughters were treated as second class and called outsiders by parents and brothers always on face. Even brothers wifes misbehaved with daughter and her kids in mayka if they went parent home. .

Even daughters kids were not treated properly if they went nana nani house. Like sons kids would get jam butter ghee not daughters kids

Compared to that son his wife and kids were treated royally by her parents

So i would never say all daughter in laws are treated bad but daughters great at parent home.

Because they consider daughter as paraya dhan so they will not spend much money on her education before and also treat her and her kids badly if she come to mayka

In india before especially previous generations its daughter who faced lot of discrimination and humilation compared to a bahu or sons wife

Because a son wife has to take care of in laws in old age she was treated very nicely by parents

Nowadays last 20-30 years the situation is changing, sons also leave house after marraige. Parents have to depend on daughters or son in laws many times for money or help in sickness. So in lat 20 to 30 years daughters are getting more respect by parents compared to before 1990s and 2000s.

To see how daughters are treated differntly you have to see education scene in india in 90s to nowadays

Like if you ask your moms who married in 80s or 90s they will say that their parents did not spend much on education because they are daughters and son education got preference.

Even today if only one child can be sponsored for education like MBBS, BE or foreign education in india a parent will spend those 50 lakhs on son not daughter truly. Because they think daughter will marry and earn for husband family so waste of 50 lakh in MBBS etc

Yes few parents are giving daughters equal opportunity as son like paying lakhs for their BE or MBBS or foreign education but thats too less a percentage may be 5% of india not more

If you ask your parent in 1980s and 1990s in MBBS or BE when they studied if 100 students in class only 20-25 were girls

Now in our generation 45 to 50% are girls in MBBS or BE

If you ask your grandparents in 50s and 60s out of 100 students in BE or MBBS only 2 or 3 girls in class 97% was men. Is it because woman are not intelligent nooo, its because parents never spend on education of girls in lakhs or more.

Parents before never thought a girl should study much like do MBBS, CA, BE etc simple BSC BA or BCOm was what they were allowed to study and than married off

Career of daughter was never a priority before in 80s and 90s during prev generations

It was always son going to tution or learning swimming etc compared to adaughter because sending them to BSC/BA was only waste of money as per our grandparents gen to girls

Its only now anupama parent gen or anuj parent gen whose giving daughters equal opportunity to study how much ever and spending money

So actually pakhi and sara are lucky girls from a lucky generation - but sadly pakhi does not understand this fact and use that oopportunity in life given to her

I guess adhik is much more clever to realize this fact that pakhi gen girls are luckier than his ister barkha gen girls because hes seen his sister struggle in life

That is also reason adhik behaving much more nicer towards pakhi when shes doing so many tantrums against his wishes - because he understands what his sister barkha went thru in life may be

Sadly toshu has not understood this after seeing anupama struggles